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Kris’s Corner – Meet Kris

April 23, 2020 Becoming a foster parent is not a decision to be entered into lightly. Foster parenting is not always an easy path, but that said, it is not without much joy…joy at seeing children heal (both physically and emotionally); joy at seeing biological parents...

TECHNIQUES TO COMBAT ANXIETY

We are currently experiencing a troubling and uncertain time. In order to come out of this stronger, we need to figure out ways to cope with our anxiety and stress efficiently. During this time, combating our anxiety is equally as important as social distancing. If we do not have control of our minds, it affects our bodies and could eventually make us physically sick. Anxiety directly correlates with stress, and according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), “chronic stress can affect your health, causing symptoms from headaches, high blood pressure, and chest pain to heart palpitations, skin rashes, and loss of sleep.” Experiencing these stressful conditions could make you more susceptible to illness and we’re here to help prevent you from becoming another coronavirus statistic. Below, you will find some of my personal favorite anxiety reducers for staying in control of the body and mind.

COMBATING VICARIOUS TRAUMA

It is suggested that those who work with individuals who have experienced trauma often experience vicarious trauma themselves. Vicarious trauma (VT) is the emotional residue from working with individuals who share their trauma stories. The helpers, or those who are listening, become witnesses to the pain, fear, and terror that trauma survivors have endured. Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel the full and expected range of emotions and experiences.
How do you know if you are experiencing vicarious trauma? Have the stories you’ve heard created longer than expected effects on your day-to-day emotions and routines?

HOW I’M HANDLING SOCIAL DISTANCING, WORKING FROM HOME, AND BEING A MOM.

When strangers hear that I’m a therapist I often get smart remarks like “So you’re an expert in people’s problems”, or “ You work with crazy people.” My answer is always “No, I’m not an expert on anyone. You are the only expert on yourself. I just help guide people to finding their expertise.” Or to the second one, “We all have a little crazy in us but sometimes stress brings it out more in certain times of our lives.” This pandemic is one of those times where anyone may feel “crazy”. What it’s really telling us is that there is something missing that we need to find to help us feel back in control of our lives and therefore, of ourselves.

5 THINGS TO SAY TO SOMEONE WHO’S FREAKING OUT ABOUT COVID-19.

While Covid-19 is running its course through the world, many of us are trying to remain calm through the press releases, presidential addresses, and social media posts. We are refusing to panic and bulk buy toilet paper at the grocery stores. We are social distancing and washing our hands—but others in our lives might not be fairing as well just yet. When supporting a loved one struggling with anxiety or panic, it can feel difficult to know how to help.

When people panic, their brains go into a state of “fight, flight, or freeze” where survival is the only goal. This makes it tough to reason with them, calm them down, or distract them from their panic. Having a productive conversation with someone in this state isn’t typically realistic, so try and make your priority support rather than reason. Simply be there for them until their heart rate lowers and the panic has dissipated.

50 FAMILY ACTIVITIES THAT DON’T INVOLVE SCREENS

The stress caused by the recent virus outbreak can be overwhelming, trying to plan a day (or even weeks) with children at home may also add to that stress. The good news is you’re not alone, and negative feelings during this time are typical responses. It’s important that we take time to bond as a family to reduce stress and increase the amount of support each member feels during these tough times. Having a list of activities will empower you to try something new that doesn’t involve screens.

EXPLORING A CAREER IN SOCIAL WORK?

“What do you want to do with your life?” is a question we all must ponder at some point. College, high school, and even junior high students are being asked to make a career choice earlier and earlier. For some of us, discovering our path in life comes easily and for others it’s more difficult. I knew I wanted to be a Social Worker in elementary school, but I didn’t know that’s what it was called. I just knew I wanted to help children.

FREE AND LOW-COST SPRING BREAK ACTIVITIES IN INDY

While Mother Nature may not be aware, many of us are trying to enjoy a spring break staycation, since traveling isn’t always in the budget. Instead of binge-watching Netflix or playing video games all day, there are plenty of activities to get out of the house and have some fun! Here are some free or low-cost activities to do in Indy during spring break: