Ndashaka kuvugana nawe muri iki cyumweru kubyerekeye kwiyitaho. Kandi nta jisho rihumye kuko nzi neza ko benshi muribo mutekereza ko mutagikeneye. Ariko unyizere: urakora (cyangwa uzabikora)… Nzi ibyo mvuga.
Kwiyitaho ntabwo cyari ikintu nigeze nubaha cyane cyangwa natekerezaga ko ari ingenzi kuri njyewe… kugeza igihe nzaba umubyeyi urera. Niba kandi ndi inyangamugayo rwose, nari maze imyaka mike murugendo mbere yuko menya akamaro. Nizere rero ko amagambo yanjye ashobora gukiza mwese umutwaro utabura kwiyitaho uzana.
Kwatura kwukuri: Natekerezaga ko nshobora gukomeza kugenda kandi nkabisunika muri byose… kandi ko umunaniro wanjye, guhangayika no guhangayika ari ibibazo nashoboraga gukemura binyuze mu bundi buryo cyangwa gusinzira cyane (ha!) Cyangwa guhindura imirire yanjye… ibintu nkibyo. Nibyo, ibyo bintu byarafashaga kandi NUBWO kwiyitaho muburyo bumwe, ariko ntabwo cyari igisubizo cyanyuma.
Kwiyitaho mvuga nukwikuramo ibintu cyangwa umwana / abana. Nubwo yaba ari iminota 5 cyangwa 10 gusa. Abantu bamwe babyita "kwishyiriraho igihe"… ubwo rero ni umunota umwe kumyaka yose ndi, sibyo?
Umurongo w'urufatiro: nicyo ukeneye gukora cyose kugirango ugarure cyangwa wishyure… Ndagushishikariza cyane kubikora.
Ntabwo buri gihe bivuze iminota 5-10 can birashobora kuba birebire byanze bikunze. Bishobora gusobanura (* gutinyuka kurota! *) Ndetse no kuva munzu wenyine cyangwa kujya mukundana numukunzi wawe.
Niba utabikora nonaha, cyangwa utabona ko bikenewe ubu, ndacyagutera inkunga yo kubigerageza. Njye (ubungubu, ariko ntabwo nabimenyereye) bituma njya muri siporo iminsi itanu mucyumweru. Igihe kinini njya jyenyine. Kandi umwanya munini ni muminota 30 gusa, kuko aribyo byarangije gukora neza kuri njye na gahunda yanjye. Birashoboka cyane, uzagira ibintu bitandukanye rwose.
Ndatahura ko abantu benshi badafite uburambe bwo guhora bafite umuntu ushobora gutemberana numwana wawe mugihe ubonye umwanya muto wo kwiyitaho, ariko biracyari ikintu ntekereza ko abantu bose bagomba gushyira imbere. Ku kaga ko kuvuga ibigaragara, birashobora gusobanura ko ugomba kubyuka kare cyangwa kujya nimugoroba. Birashoboka ko uhinduranya nundi mubyeyi urera, ukareba abana mugihe buriwese abona kwiyitaho gato. Igihe cyose nibindi byose bihuye mubuzima bwawe… kora!
Noneho ikindi kintu ngiye kubatera inkunga, kandi ibi bizumvikana nkibisazi rwose kubantu barera: genda muri wikendi. Genda mu mwiherero. Ihuze n'abantu bumva ibyo uhura nabyo nkuko ntawundi ubikora. Nukuri, urashobora kumenya umwe cyangwa babiri, cyangwa se bake, abandi babyeyi barera mugace utuyemo kandi birashoboka ko wanashizeho uburyo bwiza bwo kugoboka.
Ariko ntakintu nakimwe kimeze nkuburambe bwo gukikizwa nabandi babyeyi barera muri wikendi yose. Noneho, nzi ko bigoye… bigoye cyane… kubona uburere / kuruhuka kubana baturuka ahantu habi. Bakunze kugira ibyo bakeneye, ibibazo, nimyitwarire abantu benshi batumva kandi badashobora gucunga buri gihe. Ariko ubwo ni bwiza bwo kuruhuka, kuko abandi babyeyi barera "babibona." Ntutinye kubabaza!
Ibyo byavuzwe, ndagutera inkunga, ndetse nubu mbere yuko ubyemererwa, cyangwa mbere yuko ugira aho uba, gerageza ushake umuntu (cyangwa bamwe… burigihe nibyiza kugira amahitamo!) Mubuzima bwawe ushobora gukoresha mukurera abana.
Dore rero impamvu yo kwifuza gusangira nawe kubyerekeye kwiyitaho: Nahawe uruhushya rwimyaka igera kuri 8 kandi hashize ibyumweru bibiri gusa, nagiye mu mwiherero kubabyeyi barera kandi barera. Sinigeze nkora ibintu nk'ibyo mbere. Rimwe na rimwe, nagiye mu mwiherero, ariko si umwe ku gice runaka cy'abaturage. Kandi byari bitangaje.
Ntabwo numvise numvise numvise, cyangwa nabonye, cyangwa numvise kuruta mumasaha 48 namaranye nabandi mama bari mumwobo. Cari igihe cyiza cyo guterwa inkunga, ariko kandi no kwiga no kwagura "agasanduku k'ibikoresho" byanjye ku ihungabana ry'ababyeyi. Nagarutse nongeye kwishyurwa, kugarura ubuyanja, kuzura no kwitegura gusubira muri iyi si isa nkaho ihindagurika yo kurera no kurera.
Ikintu kimwe cy'inyongera ushobora kuba utekereza: “Ariko Kris, ntushobora kubyumva… nigute nshobora gusiga mugenzi wanjye hamwe nabana murugo iminsi ibiri ntari kumwe? Nigute mugenzi wanjye yaguma murugo hamwe nabana bose badafite NJYE? Ndi umurezi nyamukuru, ndabazi neza kumurusha, niki gishobora kubaho? Bite ho mugihe ibintu bivuye kumurongo? Niba ntahari, kandi ibintu bigatandukana, bizagenda bite? ”
Nibyiza, nkuko nabivuze, hari impamvu nagiye ubu mvuga umwiherero nyuma yimyaka 8 namaze kurera na / cyangwa kurera… ni ukubera ko numvaga mpangayitse nkawe. Nabwiye inshuti yanjye impungenge mbere yo kujya mu mwiherero, arambwira ati: "Nibyo mfite icyo ugomba kumva… ntabwo uri ingenzi."
Kandi ubanza numvise mbabaye gato, kuko ninde uzi umwana wanjye kundusha? Nzi buri kintu gito cyijambo, imyifatire, imyitwarire… ibintu byose. Umugabo wanjye yagiye umunsi wose burimunsi… ashobora gute kubaho iyo ntahari? NDI ingenzi kuri uriya mwana!
Ariko nkuko nabitekereje, nasanze arukuri. Ntabwo yabigambiriye muburyo bukaze cyangwa bubi. Nkwibutse ko ntari njye GUSA uzi guhahamuka kwababyeyi. Umugabo wanjye yabanye nanjye igihe cyose, kandi rwose aritondera, ariko akenshi azanyemerera gufata iyambere mubihe, kuko NDI utanga ubuvuzi bwibanze. Ariko ibyo ntibigabanya ubushobozi bwe… gusa amahirwe ye.
Namuhaye rero amahirwe yo gukora ubu burere budasanzwe bukenewe gig solo kuri bane.umunsi.umunsi.
Kandi urakeka iki? Bagize weekend nziza ntari kumwe. Imyitwarire yari ikomeye. Barya. Ibyishimo byinshi byari bifite. Igihe cyo kuryama cyatinze cyane kuruta uko byari bisanzwe. Ariko nta muntu wapfuye. Nta kintu kibi cyabaye. Inzu yari ifite isuku.
Ibyo byose rero bivuze, nubwo wumva ko udashobora kubona umwanya wo kwiyitaho kuko ibintu bishobora gusenyuka utari kumwe… mubyukuri ntabwo arukuri.
Mubyukuri,
Kris