Nzi ko ubizi, ariko ngiye kongera kubivuga: birumvikana ko abana bakeneye inkunga, ariko nkuko ushobora kuba ubizi, abana bafite ihungabana bashobora gukenera bike.
Kandi ibiruhuko birashoboka ko byazanye ibyo imbere, sibyo?
Ibyo byavuzwe, ndashaka gufata umunota umwe kugirango ngushishikarize gutera inkunga abana bawe.
Kandi nzi ko hari igihe kizaba ikintu cya nyuma rwose uzifuza gukora. Urasaze cyane, urababara, ubabaye, urumirwa, ucitse intege, urujijo, umutima umenetse… amarangamutima yose. .
Ariko ndizera ntashidikanya ko ibintu bishobora guhinduka mubivuga hejuru. Noneho, kugirango byumvikane neza, simvuze ko ubu ari ubwoko bw'ubumaji cyangwa uburozi; nigikoresho gusa cyo gukoresha kugirango ufashe umwana (nawe) kubona agaciro ke imbere. (Biragaragara, birashobora kutaguhindura umunsi cyangwa urugamba rwumwana wawe rwose, ariko birashobora gufasha imitekerereze yawe no kumutera imbuto).
Kandi rimwe na rimwe biragoye kubona amagambo "meza" ushaka kuvuga azakubita urugo cyangwa azagira ingaruka zikomeye kumwana.
Aho kujya kuri ibyo byiza, nukuvuga, nakoresheje ikintu nise "Umuhango wo gutera inkunga" mumyaka mike ishize. Kandi icyo nshaka kuvuga nuku nteruro ngufi nsubiramo buri munsi (rimwe na rimwe imihango) ariko burigihe muburyo bumwe, amajwi no guhindagurika. Nubwo ntagomba byanze bikunze kubyumva mugihe mbivuze, byibuze ndumva ijwi ryanjye nkanjye kandi kubwanjye nsanga namara kuvuga amagambo, amarangamutima azakurikira. Ndizera ko ibyo byumvikana… ariko niba atari byo, nyamuneka komeza, nkuko nizera ko urugero rwanjye ruzatanga ibisobanuro.
Imihango yawe irashobora kuba itandukanye kuri wewe, ariko nabonye iyingenzi yamfasha cyane kandi umwana wanjye ni aya: Namagambo make mvugana nawe byibuze rimwe kumunsi. Niba turi hafi, namushyize ukuboko (mbanza gusaba uruhushya) ndavuga nti: "Nkeka iki? Ndagukunda kandi ufite agaciro. ”
Kugeza ubu, kubera ko tumaze imyaka myinshi dukora ibi, azi icyo ngiye kuvuga, bityo akunze kubivuga mbere yuko nkora… ariko buri gihe niyemeza kubivuga; Nizera rwose ko hari imbaraga zo kuvuga imigisha nukuri kumuntu, cyane cyane umwana uturutse ahantu habi.
Gusa kugirango mbyumve neza… Buri gihe mubwira ko mukunda, inshuro nyinshi kumunsi mubyukuri. Ariko ikintu ngerageza kongeramo byibuze rimwe kumunsi ni "Ufite agaciro".
Mu mibereho ye rero, azaba yarumvise inshuro amagana ko afite agaciro. Kandi nzaba nibutse inshuro magana ko afite agaciro (no muminsi iyo bikiri ukuri, ariko ntabwo buri gihe mbitekereza).
Azigera yemera rwose kandi rwose? Sinzi time igihe nikigera. Ariko nzi ko abana bafite amateka yihungabana akenshi bafite agaciro gake, baba bafite ibintu bifatika bibuka, cyangwa bumva kwibuka, cyangwa byombi. Ariko akenshi ntibashobora kwiyumvisha ko ari ubutunzi.
Ariko ndabizi kubwanjye, abana twitaho ni ubutunzi. Bahabwa agaciro kandi bagakundwa cyane.
Ntabwo ibintu bitoroshye rimwe na rimwe, ntabwo aruko twese tutagira ibihe byacu byo gucika intege rwose, ariko kubaka agaciro k'umwana no kwihesha agaciro ni urufunguzo rwubuzima bwiza bwo mumutwe no kumererwa neza, haba muri iki gihe ndetse no muri imyaka iri imbere… yaba umwana ari kumwe nawe ibihe byose cyangwa atabaho, umutima we ukeneye kumenya uburyo ahabwa agaciro.
Mubyukuri,
Kris