Mwa basore… Nabonye ko nkeneye guhagarara hagati yuruhererekane ruvuga ngo "Icyo Nifuza ko Nzi" kugirango dusangire bike kubibera mubuzima bwacu kandi nshishikarize abo muri mwe bashobora kuba bahanganye nigitekerezo cya kureka umwana uturutse ahantu hakomeye akitabira ingando.
Noneho, biragaragara ko hari ingando zose… mugitondo gusa, nimugoroba gusa, ijoro ryose / ibitotsi, ingando yumunsi. Nshobora gukomeza… ariko nkurikije uburambe bwanjye bwite, nzavuga gusa ingando yumunsi, ariko haribintu rwose byerekeranye nizindi nkambi.
Umuhungu wanjye muto afite imyaka irindwi. Kandi hashize imyaka ibiri, mbere ya Covid, yagiye mu ngando y'umunsi. Byari gahunda yumunsi wose kuva 9 kugeza 4 buri munsi icyumweru. Kubera ko icyo gihe yari agiye mu ishuri ry'incuke, kandi inkambi yari yarateguwe kugeza mu cyiciro cya mbere kugeza mu cya gatanu, namusabye uruhushya rwihariye kugira ngo yitabe amasomo ya mu gitondo. Byongeye, nari mpari igihe cyose, inyuma mugihe aramutse ankeneye (cyangwa abajyanama).
Muri uko kugerageza kwambere, ntihariho byinshi byo kwiyobora bibaho kumpera ye. Noneho, twatashye tuvuye mu ngando, tukarya ifunguro rya sasita hanyuma tukamarana nyuma ya saa sita kuri pisine, tugakora ibyifuzo byacu byinjira, dysregulation nimbaraga.
Uyu mwaka ariko, kubera ko yagiye mu cyiciro cya kabiri, yashoboye kwitabira umunsi wose w'ingando. Nubwo umutima wa mama wari uhangayitse (soma: ubwoba… ntabwo aricyo gisobanuro "gishimishije" cyo guhangayika) kubyerekeye, naramwiyandikishije.
Kandi mu rwego rwo kumenyekanisha byuzuye… iyi nkambi ibera ku rusengero rwacu, aho umugabo wanjye akorera. Noneho, nari nzi ko papa we azaba ahari umunsi wose. Byongeye kandi, nyuma yo kumwiyandikisha, nasabwe kuyobora igikoni kugirango dusangire amafunguro ya buri nkambi. Nanjye rero, narangije, mpari umunsi wose.
Sinzabeshya. Nubwo ababyeyi be BENSHI (kandi mubyukuri umwe murumuna we nawe yari ahari… yari umujyanama winkambi) bagiye kuhaba umunsi wose, burimunsi, birashoboka ko icyumweru cyose nagize ubwoba kumurusha.
Kandi ngiye guhagarara hano kugira ngo menye ikintu: Nzi ko abantu benshi badafite uburambe bwo kohereza umwana wabo mu nkambi aho abantu batatu bo mu muryango bazaba bahari kugira ngo binjire kandi bafashe nibiba ngombwa… ariko igitekerezo cyanjye muri kukubwira ibi nuko nubwo afite ibyo aboneka, ntibyabujije guhangayika, guhangayika cyangwa kuba ngomba kumwunganira. Nubwo twese twari duhari, twagerageje nkana kutajya kajugujugu no kuguruka… tuzi ko (numwana wese ufite ihungabana) atazigera amenya neza icyo ashoboye (cyangwa adashoboye) kugeza igihe ahawe amahirwe.
Nibyo, biragaragara ko yari afite ubwoba kumunsi wambere. Ndetse nimugoroba mbere yumunsi wambere, byanze bikunze yazamutse. Amaganya ye yari afite ingaruka. Natekereje uburyo nshobora kumubuza kujya mu ngando… kuko ntashakaga ko ananirwa. Arwana na CYANE ibintu arimo arimo kandi sinifuzaga ko atatsinda.
Ariko mbere yuko tuva mu rugo muri icyo gitondo cya mbere (ntitubeshya… buri gitondo), maze tujya mu ngando, twaganiriye ku bintu byose nari nzi ko agomba kwibuka kugira ngo abeho. Kandi, gutinyuka kubirota? Ntukarokoke gusa, ahubwo utere imbere.
Noneho, twaganiriye kubibazo ahanganye nabyo, namuhaye amase (nicyo gikoresho cye cyo kumva cyo kubaho). Amuhobera cyane no gusomana, hanyuma aragenda yinjira mu itsinda.
Kandi nkuko byari bigoye kuri njye, nzi ko byamugoye. Yari azi benshi mu rubyiruko bayoboraga ingando, ariko ntabwo hafi ya benshi mubari bakambitse. Ntabwo yari azi gahunda; ntabwo yari azi neza ibizakurikiraho.
Kandi kumwana udahora yiyobora (nubwo tumaze imyaka myinshi tuyikorera murugo kandi binyuze mubuvuzi), ibyo birashobora gutera ubwoba, guhonyora, cyangwa gucika intege rwose. Ariko yari yiteguye kandi afite ubushake bwo kubigerageza, nuko ndamushimira ko yareka akagerageza.
Ntabwo nzabeshya… icyumweru ntahantu hegereye neza. Ntabwo buri gihe byari bikomeye. Ihahamuka rihora rihari, ryiteguye gusimbuka, rimwe na rimwe iyo tutabitezeho, rimwe na rimwe iyo kugenda bigenda neza kandi twibagirwa ko bihari. Ibyo akenshi iyo bizigaragaza.
Ariko muminsi itanu yikurikiranya, guhera saa cyenda zamugitondo kugeza saa yine zijoro, umwana wanjye avuye ahantu hakomeye yagurukaga wenyine ntari kumwe. Muri rusange, nubwo yari afite ibibazo byinshi mu nzira, yakoze umurimo utangaje… atari ku rwego rw'isi, ahubwo yabikoze ko yabikoze.
Kandi kuwa gatanu yarishimye, ananiwe, kandi yumva ibintu byose wizeye kuzumva nyuma yicyumweru cya ingando.
None twabigenze dute? Usibye akazi gakomeye k'amarangamutima twakoraga mumyaka ibanziriza iki, nzavuga ko bari ibintu bibiri byadufashaga. Nkinshi nkumwana kwishuri ufite IEP ishobora, namusabye caveats kuri we; yahawe uruhushya rwo kuruhuka ibyiyumvo mugihe cya sasita niba abishaka. Yahisemo gusa muminsi ibiri ishize, kandi ndatekereza ko byamurokoye. Rwose yashoboraga kuba yarayikoresheje iminsi itatu yambere, ariko twagerageje kumwemerera kwifatira icyemezo, uko ashoboye. Mu kiruhuko cye rero, yemerewe kwicarana nundi muntu (mukuru) gato hanyuma akagira umwanya wo kwerekana mugihe yariye saa sita.
Urwo rusaku n'ibyishimo byose ushaka kuba mu nkambi birashobora kuba byinshi ku mwana ufite ikibazo cyo gutunganya ibyiyumvo… cyangwa ihahamuka ry'ubwoko ubwo aribwo bwose. Gusa rero kugira icyo kiruhuko byamuhaye amahirwe yo guhumeka gake no kuva mu kajagari gato.
Nanone, muri iyi nkambi, hari ingimbi zimwe na zimwe zagize ihungabana rito kurusha benshi, kandi bakumva uburyo bwo kutamwemerera kwikuramo imyitwarire ariko bakamwibutsa ibyo agomba gukora hanyuma bakamuyobora mu kindi. Kandi ntumusubize mubihe atazatsinda kandi amwemerera gukora ikosa rimwe inshuro nyinshi. Kandi kubatazi gukorana nihungabana murubu buryo, nafashe iminota mike yo kubaha kwiruka gato… kubamenyesha ibi bikora neza hamwe nabana bose, ntabwo ari abafite amateka yihungabana gusa.
Abayobozi bamaze kubyumva, byari umukino uhindura umuhungu wanjye. Kandi kubayobozi. Nabonaga mumaso yabo kugabanuka kwabo, no kumva impuhwe nimpuhwe zitari zihari mugitangira.
Rero, umurongo wanyuma mukigo ni… menya icyo umwana wawe ashobora kuba ashoboye, menya ibikoresho akeneye kumufasha gutsinda, kandi cyane cyane, umuhe amahirwe yo kugerageza amazi.
Nzi ko biteye ubwoba. Mvugishije ukuri nagize ubwoba bwo kumureka akagerageza amababa. Ariko imirimo yose twagiye dukora kugeza ubu… byose byahurije hamwe kandi byigaragaza muri kiriya cyumweru.
Kandi ibi byose ndabivuze kugirango uzamenye ko nubwo rimwe na rimwe ushobora kumva uri wenyine, cyangwa uri wenyine, cyangwa ko abantu batabikora 't umwana wawe… Ntabwo buri gihe badashaka kumenya. Ni injiji gusa.
Nukuvugako, iryo jambo "injiji" riba rap mbi… icyo nshaka kuvuga nuko abantu batazi ibyo batazi. Nzi neza ko hari igihe utari uzi ibijyanye n'ihungabana cyangwa ingaruka zabyo mu bwonko. Ariko ubu ubimenye, urashobora gufasha kwigisha abandi… nkuko nanjye ndimo kubigerageza.
Kandi cyane cyane, nizere ko ibi biguha ubutwari bwo kwemerera umwana wawe ufite ihungabana kugerageza ibintu bishya!
Mubyukuri,
Kris