Akenshi iyo umwana yinjiye bwa mbere muri gahunda yo kurera, ishusho yuzuye ntabwo izwi kubijyanye nibyo yahuye nimiryango yababyaye… tutibagiwe nimyitwarire bashobora kwerekana bitewe nubuzima bwabo bwambere. DCS na Biro ishinzwe abana bazaguha amakuru menshi nkuko baboneka mugihe cyo gushyira, ariko biragaragara ko batazamenya ibintu byose hanze yumuryango.
Birashoboka cyane ko wowe, nk'ababyeyi barera, uzabwira DCS n'ikigo gishinzwe gutanga impushya kubibazo cyangwa imyitwarire y'umwana. Kimwe muri ibyo bintu bishoboka kijyanye no kubura ibiryo cyangwa kwihaza mu biribwa.
Hariho uburyo bubiri ibi bishobora kugaragara mumyitwarire yumwana kandi ibi akenshi binyuze mubiribwa byihariye bazarya (cyangwa batazarya), cyangwa / cyangwa guhunika ibiryo.
Rimwe na rimwe, iyo abana baza kwitabwaho, baba bafite urutonde rugufi (cyangwa RUGUFI CYANE) ibiryo bazarya. Ibi birashobora kuba bifitanye isano nibyo bakorewe mbere. Irashobora kuba ifitanye isano nibibazo byunvikana bituma ibiryo bimwe na bimwe bigorana kurya gusa kubera imiterere (cyangwa birashobora kuba ibyiyumvo bishakisha cyangwa ibibi byunvikana, byongera ibibazo byinyongera). Cyangwa biterwa gusa nubusabane bwamarangamutima bashobora kumva numuryango wabo binyuze mubiryo cyangwa ibiryo runaka.
Ntabwo ari amagambo yuzuye kubana bose baza kwitabwaho, icyakora ibiryo umwana ahitamo kurya ntabwo aribyo wahisemo gutanga. Ndagutera inkunga yo kureka iyo ntambara ikagenda, byibuze mugihe gito. Ikigeretse kuri ibyo, gerageza kuterekeza ku biryo bakunda nkibiryo by '"imyanda", kuko aribyo byashobokaga kubakomeza kugeza magingo aya. Kandi muburyo bumwe umwana urera atagomba gutwara ibintu byabo mumufuka wimyanda, ntibagomba kubona ibiryo barya byitwa "imyanda"… nubundi, nibice bigize amarangamutima yabo na biologiya umuryango, kandi ntihakagombye kubaho insininasiyo ko yaba we cyangwa umuryango wabo ubyara ari ubusa.
Ingingo kuba… niba bishoboka, gerageza kwibanda cyane kubyo barya kandi ukore cyane muguhuza nabo. Bahe amahitamo yinyongera arenze ibyo bakunda ibiryo byubu, kandi mugihe kirenze, barashobora kugutwara.
Niba atari byo, ntabwo bizaba imperuka yisi. Biragaragara ko wifuza ko barya indyo yuzuye (cyangwa byibuze BYINSHI BYINSHI), ariko birashoboka ko ibyo bigomba guhinduka mugihe runaka nkuko ubafasha gukora mubibazo bahuye nabyo no kubafasha kumva bafite umutekano. .
Noneho… indi myitwarire ishoboka umwana ashobora kwerekana kubyerekeye ibiryo, ni guhunika. Birashoboka ko bigaragara neza impamvu umwana yabika ibiryo, ariko mugihe atari byo, dore ibisobanuro muri make: bikunze kubaho mugihe umwana yavuye mubihe atigeze amenya niba nigihe ifunguro ryakurikiyeho. Birashoboka ko mu rugo nta bike byari bihari, kandi nta n'amafaranga yo kurya. Bamenye rero ko niba hari amahirwe yo gufata amaboko kubiryo, bagiye gufata ayo mahirwe, batitaye ko byari byiza cyangwa bibi. Akenshi iki ntabwo ari icyemezo nkana; ni igisubizo gusa kubibazo byahahamutse response igisubizo cyambere cyavutse kubera ubwoba.
Nkigisubizo, iyo umwana ngwinos mukurera kurera ibidukikije, cyangwa no mubidukikije aho usanga habuze ikibazo cyibiribwa murugo rwumuryango wabo (birashoboka ko bitigera bihagije ariko hariho bimwe), kandi ubu babonye firigo na kabine byuzuye ibiryo, bo ntuzi neza icyo gukora. Birakabije kandi bigerageza kudashaka kubifata no kubigumana ubwabo. Rimwe na rimwe rero barabikora.
K.ubungubu ko iyi myitwarire atariyo bishoboka * bagomba * gukora, barayihisha cyangwa barya byose bagahisha ibipfunyika. Numvise ababyeyi benshi barera bavuga kubyerekeye kuvumbura ibiryo biboze, byumye, cyangwa byashonze ibiryo bikonje byuzuye hagati ya matelas, munsi yigitanda cyangwa yihishe inyuma yububiko cyangwa imashini. Umwana abaho kubera ubukene bwabo, kandi agerageza kubungabunga umutekano wabo no kubaho. Ubutumwa kuri wewe, nk'umubyeyi urera, ntabwo buvuga gusa ibyamubayeho, ahubwo ni uko atumva afite umutekano mu rugo rwabarera.
Noneho, niba ibi bibaye, komeza utuze, utegeke kandi uhari. Vugana n'umwana kubyerekeye, ariko ntabwo ari mumajwi isuzugura. Niba kandi ugomba, ongera ubereke ibiryo byose biboneka.
Ibi birashobora kwihanganira inshuro zirenze imwe.
Ibimaze kuvugwa byose, umwana ashobora kuvuga ko yumva afite umutekano, ariko mubyukuri guhura numutekano wumutekano bizaba bikubiyemo kumva ko ibiryo bizahoraho kandi ntibagomba kubibika nyuma. Bumwe mu buhanga busa nkaho bugira ingaruka nziza ni ukubika igitebo cyangwa agasanduku k'ibiryo kuri konti mu gikoni cyangwa ku cyumba cyo kuraramo cyo kuraramo… cyangwa ahantu hombi. Umwana arashobora guhitamo kurya ibiryo byinshi uko ashaka kandi ibiryo bikamugeraho amasaha 24 kumunsi.
Mu ntangiriro, umwana ashobora kurya ibintu byose mubiseke. Kandi barashobora kubikora muminsi myinshi ikurikiranye. Ariko nyuma yo gukora ibi kandi buri gihe ugasanga igitebo cyuzuye, amaherezo baza gusobanukirwa ko ibiryo bizahoraho; ko hari ibiryo birenze bihagije; kandi ko bafite umutekano, batitaye kubyo ubwonko bwe bwambere bushobora kuba bwababwiye. Kandi bazareka kumva agahato ko kurya byose (cyangwa wenda nibintu byose) mubiseke.
Niba warigeze kuba mubihe umwana wahuye nubuke bwibiribwa aje kubana nawe, nizere ko ubu bushishozi bwimyitwarire hamwe ninama zizagufasha kubafasha kumva bafite umutekano.
Mubyukuri,
Kris