Rimwe na rimwe, abantu batekereza ko iyo basinyiye kuba ababyeyi barera, ntibashobora kugira icyo bavuga muburyo bw'imyanya bafata. Ariko ibyo ntabwo ari ukuri.
Iyo wujuje impapuro zawe, uba ufite amahirwe yo kunyura kurutonde runini rwimyitwarire nubunararibonye ushobora guhitamo kwanga kwakira murugo rwawe cyangwa ukagira amahirwe yo kubaza ibibazo bijyanye.
Byongeye kandi, uzashobora kandi kubwira ikigo cyawe gishinzwe gutanga impushya (birashoboka ko Biro ishinzwe abana) imyaka, igitsina, numubare wabana ushobora kwitaho, ukurikije ibyo wemera ko bizakora neza murugo rwawe no mumuryango wawe.
Amoko ni akandi gace ushobora guhitamo. Iyi ni ingingo ishyushye kuri iyi si yacu kandi ishobora guhura n'amababa, ngomba kukubwira ko arikintu ababyeyi barera bashobora guhitamo. Byiza, ntacyo bitwaye; ariko, amoko agira icyo ahindura mumiryango imwe irera.
Kurugero, mfite inshuti yumubyeyi urera wangezeho ko yahisemo gufata gusa abana bahuje ubwoko kubera imyitwarire imwe n'imwe ivangura (kandi byemewe ko ari bibi) bamwe mubagize umuryango we. Kandi mugihe afite ubushake bwo kurera umwana uwo ari we wese, azi ko kuba kurera bitoroshye kandi ubwabyo kandi ntashaka kuzana izindi ngorane kumurera. Njye kubwanjye ndamushimira kuba yarashakishije umwana kandi akirinda icyashobora gutera izindi ngaruka.
Hariho byinshi cyane byavugwa kuriyi nsanganyamatsiko, ariko ntabwo byari ingingo yinyandiko yanjye; ingingo ni uko nkababyeyi barera, ufite byinshi uvuga kubyo wemera ko byaba byiza mumuryango wawe.
Ariko, rimwe na rimwe twibwira ko tuzi icyaba gikwiye, ariko turakabya ibyo dushobora gukora. Cyangwa, twinjiye mubihe tukamenya ko bidakora muburyo twabitekerezaga. Ibi byatubayeho igihe twatangiraga urugendo rwo kurera. Twatanze ibipimo byacu kandi ikigo twari kumwe (ntabwo ari Biro ishinzwe abana) yatubajije niba tuzatekereza ahantu hashyizweho umwe mubana batarengeje imyaka twifuza. Twabiganiriyeho kandi kubera ko njye mubyukuri twashakaga gufata ikibanza, twavuze yego.
Kubwamahirwe, twahise tumenya ko aribyo birenze ibyo twakagombye kurumwa. Rero, twafashe umwanya wo kongera guterana nyuma yibyo hanyuma duhindura imipaka kubintu byacungwa neza nimiryango yacu. Icyo gihe niho umuhungu wacu-umuhungu yageraga iwacu, kandi birashoboka ko bitari kubaho turamutse dukomeje ibipimo byumwimerere.
Ibi byose byo kuvuga, ntutinye guhindura "igenamiterere" nkuko bikenewe… bizakora ibintu neza kuri wewe hamwe nabana bashinzwe.
Mubyukuri,
Kris