Mu myaka yashize, nagize abantu bambwira ko batazi neza ko bashobora kurera kuko nta bandi bana bafite, kandi ntibigeze barera.
Mubisanzwe rero ndasubiza nkikintu nkiki, "Igihe kimwe, twese twari duhagaze kumwanya… natwe ntitwari ababyeyi."
Noneho menye ibyo bavuga, “Sinzi niba nzaba umubyeyi mwiza; Sinzi icyo nkora; Ndashaka kubikora neza! ”
Ndi hano kugirango nkubwire: Umuntu wese arabyumva atyo mbere yuko umwana yinjira murugo rwe, haba mubuzima cyangwa muburyo bwo kurera. Ntawe uzi neza niba bazaba umubyeyi mwiza, ntamuntu uzi neza ibyo bakora, kandi twese dushaka kubikora neza.
Gusa rero nzabishyira hanze aha: Inzira yonyine yo kumenya uko uzakora nukugerageza! Noneho, nzi ko bishobora gutera ubwoba, kandi sinzagabanya ko uzaba ufite DCS kandi birashoboka ko Biro ishinzwe abana (kuko byanze bikunze uzabifitemo uruhushya) bagendana nawe nkababyeyi. Ntabwo rero ari uburambe bumwe nkaho wabyaye umwana mubuzima, ariko ntabwo bitandukanye rwose: byombi bifata umwanya munini, kwitondera, urukundo no kwihangana.
Ikintu kimwe cyiza cyo kutigera ubyara ni uko udakeneye byanze bikunze ibitekerezo byose byateganijwe mbere yukuntu bigomba kumera. Ibisobanuro: uri akantu gato k'urupapuro rwuzuye. Ntabwo nzabeshya nkubwire ko kurera umwana urera ari kimwe no kurera umwana ubyara… kuko sibyo.
Akenshi, ibyifuzo uteganya kumwana urera vs umwana wibinyabuzima bya neurotypical BIGOMBA kuba bitandukanye. Njye n'umugabo wanjye rwose twamenye ko inzira igoye, kandi nagira ngo nkeke ko abandi babyeyi benshi barera nabo bafite abana babyaranye babyemera. Nzaba uwambere mu kwemeza ko Biro y’abana yatangajwe n’amahugurwa yabo yerekeye uburyo bwo kurera umwana wahahamutse, ariko sinari niteguye gutega amatwi byimazeyo kugeza igihe nagize ihungabana ntuye hejuru yinzu yanjye. Sinashoboraga gutekereza ko abana batandukanye cyane, ariko rwose baratandukanye. Mumaze kubona ikosa ryanjye mubiteganijwe, Biro ishinzwe abana yari ihari kugirango imfashe gusubira munzira… tekereza rero aho uzagera imbere ushoboye gukuramo amakuru kuva mugitangira.
Muri rusange igitekerezo cyanjye ni iki: kurera nta biologiya bishobora kuba umugisha munini kuri wewe no ku mwana. Ntabwo uzi ibyo utazi, niba rero utazi uko umwana wa neurotypique yakwitwara mugihe runaka, birashoboka ko udashobora kugereranya umwana wawe urera nicyo witeze; ntushobora kwitega ko azitwara muburyo bwa neurotypique mugihe yakorewe ihohoterwa no kutitabwaho byahinduye ubwonko bwe, kandi ushobora kuba ufite ibikoresho byiza byo kumusanganira aho ari aho kuba aho utekereza ko agomba kuba… kandi ibyo bisa nkuwatsinze. kuri mwembi.
Mubyukuri,
Kris