Mu rwego rwo kwizihiza ukwezi kwahariwe kwita ku barera n’umwaka igihe ibiruhuko bishobora kubaho, natekereje gusubiramo “Ibiruhuko hamwe n’umwana wawe wareze” byari bikwiye.
Ikintu kimwe nshaka gusobanura mbere yuko ntangira: mugihe ufite kiddo yo kurera, bazagira "ibikenewe-bidasanzwe". Bashobora kuba bafite uburwayi cyangwa ibibazo byamarangamutima… cyangwa guhangana ningaruka zihahamuka bahuye nazo. Cyangwa guhuza ibintu byinshi. Ntibashobora guhora babonwa nk "ibikenewe bidasanzwe" ariko, byibuze mugihe runaka. Noneho, ndavuga ko kugirango gusa tumenye neza ko twese turi kurupapuro rumwe nkuko bifitanye isano niyi nyandiko.
Ibyo byavuzwe, akenshi nta "kiruhuko" nyacyo iyo ugendana numwana ufite ibyo akeneye bidasanzwe. Hariho urugendo gusa ahantu hamwe na bike bitamenyerewe, gahunda cyangwa imiterere; ikubiyemo ibiryo byinshi cyane hamwe nubunararibonye bushya akenshi butera gukabya kandi, ikiruta byose, gusinzira gake.
Kandi buriwese asigaye amenya ko urugo na gahunda arikintu cyiza kuruta ibindi byose!
None se kuki dukora ibiruhuko? Erega burya, byoroshye guhagarika kubikora kandi byadukiza amafaranga menshi. Turakomeza kuko ibyifuzo byanjye bidasanzwe kiddo akunda ibiruhuko. Akunda inyanja. Akunda imisozi. Akunda ibibuga bishya no gutwara amagare no gukora ibyo "bintu byibiruhuko". Ndetse nabana bange ba neurotypical, bashobora kuba "barengeje" ibikenewe bidasanzwe rimwe na rimwe, mubyukuri nabo barabikunda… nubwo rimwe na rimwe bumva bameze nkumuzingi. Kandi munyizere, hari igihe dukeneye gushinga ihema rinini-hejuru no kwishyuza kwinjira.
Dukora iki kintu cyumusazi kandi gikomeye cyitwa "ibiruhuko byumuryango" kuko bijyanye no kubaho, gukunda no kwibuka umuryango… kandi ntabwo buri gihe ari ugukemura ibyo ukeneye.
Ibyo byavuzwe: Dukemura ibikenewe mubiruhuko uko dushoboye? Rwose. Imbaraga zacu rimwe na rimwe ziba nke? Rwose. Turitoragura hanyuma twongere tugerageze bukeye numwaka utaha? Rwose.
Iyo dutekereje ku ngendo zacu zose, ntitwibutsa uburyo byari bikomeye. Ahubwo, tuvuga ibintu nkubushyo bwinyoni zavuye ahantu hamwe zigatera umwe mubahungu bacu ubwo yakuraga agace ka pizza muri firime. Cyangwa, twibuka urugendo nimugoroba ku mucanga nsanze amadarubindi yizuba ya Ray Ban yogejwe kumusenyi. Ndacyambara amadarubindi kandi umuryango wanjye ubita "impano yanjye yo mu nyanja". Ibyo byihariye bidasanzwe-by-umuryango-twibuka nibyo twibuka igihe cyose tuvuze ibiruhuko.
Niyo mpamvu tubikora. Kuberako umuhungu wacu "udukeneye bidasanzwe" birakwiye. Abahungu bacu bose barabikwiye. Kandi kubera ko umuryango wacu nawo ufite agaciro.
Mubyukuri,
Kris