Dore rero ikintu, kubwimpamvu runaka iyo mvuganye nabantu kubyerekeye "kurera", ibitekerezo byabo bihita bihinduka "kurera". Kandi ndi hano kugirango nkubwire: Kurera kurera ntabwo bihwanye no kurerwa.
Ubu, BAMWE mubana barezwe muri gahunda yo kurera? Rwose! Umuhungu wanjye muto yarezwe binyuze mu kurera, bityo ndashobora guhamya ko bibaho… ntabwo cyari ikintu twashakaga ariko igihe byagaragaye ko ababyeyi babyaranye batazashobora kumwitaho imbere, twarabyemeye ube umuryango we ubuzima, kandi burigihe nuburyo inzira iba.
Intego, intego, intego yo kurera ubwayo ni uguhuza imiryango yibinyabuzima niba bishoboka. Ibi bivuze ko mugihe gito, nkuko ababyeyi babyaranye bakora ibyo bakeneye (nkuko byemezwa nurukiko), ababyeyi barera bahagarara mu cyuho cyo kwita, gukunda no kunganira abana basigaye ari abanyantege nke; .
Biragaragara ko ibi atari ukwemerwa, none kuki urujijo? Njye kubwanjye ndizera ko gutandukana biza gukina kuko tutumva inkuru zubumwe, bityo rero "rimwe na rimwe bibaho" byo kurera biganisha abantu mubitekerezo "igihe cyose". Nibyo, tuzi ko hari abana bafatwa nabi, bahohoterwa kandi batitaweho. Ariko, urundi ruhande rwinkuru ntirusanzwe rusangiwe; uwo ababyeyi babyaranye bakira "gukanguka guhamagara" mugihe abana babo bakuweho, kandi bagakora byose bahujwe nabo kugirango bashobore guhura nabana babo. Kandi ibyo, nubwo bibaho gake cyane kurenza ubundi buryo, niyo ntego yo kurera. Fasha ababyeyi kwifasha kugirango abana babo basubire murugo.
Nzi ko abantu badakunda kubyumva. Biragoye gutekereza ko abana bashobora guhuzwa nabantu babababaje, batitaweho cyangwa bahohotewe. Ariko, ibyiringiro byacu bigomba kuba ko basubira inyuma… ariko bagasubira mumutekano, urukundo, kwita, no kurera.
Kubwamahirwe, ibyo ntibishobora kubaho buri gihe, niyo mpamvu abantu bakeka ko kurera ari igisubizo; ariko haribishoboka usibye kurerwa. Nzakemura iyo ngingo mu nyandiko iri hafi. 'Til noneho…
Mubyukuri,
Kris