Na Katherine Butler, Koresha Ibiyobyabwenge
Nkuko rimwe na rimwe dushobora kubishaka, ntidushobora gufasha uwo dukunda. None ukora iki mugihe umuntu witayeho cyangwa ukunda arwana nibiyobyabwenge? Nigute ushobora kubafasha gutsinda mugukiza kwabo kandi nigute ushobora kwiyitaho icyarimwe?
Ni ngombwa kumva ko ibiyobyabwenge ari indwara yo mu bwonko itavangura. Irashobora kugira ingaruka umuntu uwo ari we wese, no kwiga uburyo bwo gushyigikira umuntu mukira kwe birashoboka ko atari urugendo umuntu wese ategereje gufata.
Hano hari ibintu 3 ugomba gukora mugihe ushyigikiye umuntu mugukiza kwe:
- Kimwe mubintu byingenzi ushobora gukora kugirango ushyigikire umuntu mukira ni ukugirango gusa ube aharikandi ube uhari. Ibi bisaba kwihangana.Gukira ni inzira y'ubuzima bwose, kandi ntabwo byoroshye. Ntabwo bibaho ijoro ryose kandi hashobora kubaho gusubira inyuma no gusubiramo. Igikorwa cyoroshye cyo kwicarana numuntu murwego rwo gukira no kumutega amatwi witonze birashobora gufasha muburyo dushobora kutumva.
- Shyigikira inshuti yawe cyangwa uwo ukunda mugikorwa cyo gukira by kwemera abo ari bo no kwakira indwara yabo nta guca urubanza cyangwa kutitaho ibintu. Twese dufite ibintu byashize twifuza ko twahinduka, ariko amateka yacu niyo atugira abo turi bo ubu. Akenshi, abantu bakira bahura nubucamanza kubantu badasobanukiwe ko gukira bitoroshye nko kudakoresha ibintu. Umva rero kandi witegure kwiga byinshi kubyerekeye ibiyobyabwenge no gukira.
- Kwiyitaho wenyine nibyingenzi mugushyigikira umuntu mukira. Ntidushobora kwita kubandi niba tutiyitayeho. Shakisha uburyo bwo gukemura ibibazo byawe muburyo buzira umuze no gusohoka kugirango urekure gucika intege. Reba Imiryango Blog Yambere,Impanuro Zitabara Zirinda Kwirinda Umurezi cyangwa ushake abandi bari mubihe bisa hanyuma ubaganirize kubyakubayeho n'amarangamutima. Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, Abana bakuze b'abasinzi, na Ubwenge bwo Kugarura Umuryango ninshuti ni ibikoresho bike bifasha.
Umwanditsi Deb Caletti yagize ati: "Nibyo abantu bakora bagukunda. Baragushyize amaboko kandi bagukunda mugihe udakundwa cyane. ” Muri make, nibyo gukunda no gushyigikira umuntu mugukiza byose.
Niba kandi uwo ukunda akeneye kuvurwa, Imiryango Yambere itanga umurongo wuzuye wa gukoresha imiti ivura na serivisi zunganira.