Umwanditsi: Kat O'Hara
Umujyanama warokotse
Abashakanye kwisi yose barimo kwisanga mubihe batigeze batekereza ko bazaba barimo, ibyiza cyangwa bibi. Kwishyira mu kato hamwe na mugenzi wawe, ibyumweru cyangwa amezi, ni ikintu gishya cyongewe kumubano "gukora cyangwa kumena" muri iki gihe. Nigute abashakanye bakomeza umubano wabo?
Kuba hamwe igihe kirekire, rimwe na rimwe ahantu hato birashobora guteza ibibazo bitesha umutwe kandi bidasanzwe kubashakanye mugihe cyo kwikorera. Ibi bivuze amahirwe menshi yo guhuza na kubona munsi y'uruhu rwa mugenzi we. Umubano udakomeye, hamwe nubuhanga buke bwo gutumanaho nimbibi, kubura impuhwe cyangwa gushima ntibishobora kumara. Ariko, umubano ukomeye hamwe nurufatiro rwiza nibindi bintu bibiri byingenzi bishobora gukora umubano mwiza cyane!
John Gottman's ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko igipimo cya 5: 1 cyibitekerezo byiza / ibimenyetso nibitekerezo bibi / ibimenyetso bikunda gusobanura umunezero mubucuti. Ibyo bivuzwe, abashakanye bagomba "kwishingikiriza" hagati yabo muriyi minsi, bivuze ko ushishikajwe nukuri kubyo umukunzi wawe avuga nta kurangaza imbuga nkoranyambaga, televiziyo, nibindi. Amahirwe yo kwerekana urukundo, gushimira, kubabarana, ninyungu nuburyo bwo gukomeza kubaka hagati yiki gihe kitoroshye.
Guhangayika, ubwoba, no kwicira urubanza nibintu bisanzwe byo guhura nabyo mugihe twese tugenda dushya mubisanzwe, kandi kwerekana ibyiyumvo nibyingenzi, kubwibyo abashakanye ntibagomba kunegura mugihe ayo marangamutima asangiye. Abashakanye barashishikarizwa gusobanukirwa no gutega amatwi bashishikaye. Abashakanye kandi barashishikarizwa kutamarana umwanya wose wo kubyuka muri iki gihe, bishobora gutera imihangayiko no kumva utamerewe neza. Kugira ibikorwa bitandukanye, gahunda zakazi, ibyo ukunda, hamwe na gahunda yo gukora byose birashobora gufasha mukugumana gutandukana kwiza utiyumvamo hejuru yundi.
Ibindi bishobora kugirira akamaro abashakanye:
- Kugira gahunda zitandukanye hamwe na sitasiyo zakazi niba ukorera murugo
- Kugabanya ibiganiro kuri virusi no kuvugurura amakuru
- Gusangira hamwe
- Kugira ibitaramo bitandukanye ureba kugiti cyawe, kandi hamwe
- Gutegura ingendo hamwe uzafata nyuma ya karantine irangiye
- Gusimburana gukora ifunguro rya nimugoroba
Banza ubaze Imiryango niba wumva ukeneye gushyigikirwa numujyanama wumwuga. Imiryango Yambere ikomeje kwakira abakiriya bashya no gukorera abaturage binyuze mumatsinda, abashakanye hamwe nubuvuzi bwa buri muntu, mubyukuri! Urashobora kandi gushimishwa no gutega amatwi Podcast # 13: Imyitwarire isenya umubano wacu wurukundo nicyo twabikoraho.