Dore ikintu… iki gisubizo kigiye kuba igisubizo gitandukanye kuri buri wese, ariko ni ryari ugomba kuvuga ngo "oya" ahantu hashoboka? Hariho impamvu nyinshi, nyinshi, nyinshi zo kuvuga yego… kandi kuri bamwe murimwe, "yego" bizahora ari igisubizo, kuko ufite ubushobozi (mumarangamutima no mumubiri) kubikora.
Ariko rimwe na rimwe, ugomba kuvuga “oya”. Kugirango ufate icyemezo cyubwenge, na cyane cyane niba ufite ubwoko bwimiterere nkanjye, ugomba kugira imipaka isobanutse yubwoko bwimyanya wifuza kandi ushobora kubyemera.
Nkuko nabivuze hejuru, abantu bamwe barakinguye kandi bafite ubushake kandi barashobora gufata ubwoko ubwo aribwo bwose… kandi ndavuga nti: "Imana ibahe umugisha! Ibyo biratangaje gusa! ”
Ariko nizera ko benshi muri twe bafite ubumenyi bwimbitse ku bushobozi bwacu kandi tugomba gushyiraho imipaka… haba kuri twe ubwacu ndetse n’ikigo.
Kurugero, niba washyizeho ibipimo bivuga:
- Abana 2 ntarengwa
- Abahungu gusa
- Imyaka 5-12 gusa
Ariko urabona guhamagara hamwe byihutirwa byumuhungu nabakobwa 2, bose bari munsi yimyaka 4… NTUFATE AHO! (Ubu ni uburambe bwanjye buza gukina hano… Nzi ibyo mvuga!)
Noneho, Biro ishinzwe abana birashoboka ko itaguhamagara ubisabye, ariko ikindi kigo gishobora kugusaba gutekereza gufata icyemezo hanze yacyo.
Nibyiza rwose ko uvuga, "oya", kuko uzi icyo ushobora gukora, uzi icyo washyizeho kugirango ubakire, kandi ikintu cya nyuma wowe, ikigo cyawe, N'abana ubwabo bifuza nukubangamira (reba inyandiko yanjye kuri iyo ngingo nyine). Niba ufashe umwanya urenze ibyo ushobora kwihanganira, bizarangira byanze bikunze.
Noneho, burigihe burigihe bishoboka ko guhamagarwa "gutunganye" guhamagarwa kwakirwa ariko igihe cyose ni kibi. Ahari urimo kwitegura kujya mubiruhuko; biragaragara, ntabwo arigihe cyiza cyo gufata umwanya. Umwana azakenera igihe cyo gutura no kubashyira mubiruhuko mugihe cyibiruhuko ntabwo bizafasha gutura mubikorwa. Ntabwo kandi ari byiza rwose, cyangwa byiza.
Birashoboka ko umwe mu bagize umuryango arwaye, umuntu wa hafi yapfuye, cyangwa ubuzima burenze umusazi hamwe nabana basanzwe murugo rwawe. Cyangwa birashoboka ko washyizwe hamwe gusa kandi ugomba gutera intambwe kumunota umwe kugirango uhumeke. Kubera izo mpamvu zose, nibindi byinshi, nibyiza kuvuga "oya".
Ibi ntibisobanura ko ikigo cyawe kitazongera guhamagara. Ndabizeza ko bazabikora. Ibi ntibisobanura ko batekereza ko utoroshye cyangwa umusazi cyangwa guta igihe cya buri wese (ndavuga ibi byose, kuko natinyaga kuva kera ko twatahuwe gutya… nkuko bigaragara… ntabwo ukuri). Baraguha agaciro nu mwanya wawe muri iyi si irera. Bashima imipaka yawe (niyo baba bifuza ko iba nini), kuko ibafasha kukumenya kandi ko wirinda guhungabana.
Nibyiza kuvuga ngo "oya".
Mubyukuri,
Kris