Byukuri cyane… NIKI nyungu nziza zumwana urera?
Igihe cyo kwatura kwukuri (kandi ibi ni ubwoko bwuruhande rwanjye, ariko nanone ntibisanzwe ko ababyeyi barera batekereza gutya iyo batangiye bwa mbere). Igihe natangiraga uru rugendo, natekereje ko nzi icyaba inyungu zumwana. Nasanze NARI BYIZA guhitamo neza kubwimpamvu nyinshi… Mfite ubuzima buhamye, mfite ubuhanga bwiza bwo kurera, mfite inkunga nyinshi, nshobora kuba mfite amafaranga menshi kandi nshobora gutanga amahirwe menshi, kandi ntabwo ndwana no kwizizirwa cyangwa ihohoterwa rikorerwa mu ngo cyangwa ihohoterwa rikorerwa mu ngo.
Izo mpamvu zose zirahari bivuze ko nkwiye guhitamo neza guhitamo neza… ariko ntabwo mubyukuri ibyo tuvuga… turimo kuganira kubyifuzo byumwana.
Kandi izo mpamvu zose navuze kurutonde ntabwo zihita zituma njye n'umuryango wanjye inyungu zumwana.
Reka nsobanure nkubajije ibi: ufite abana babyaranye? Kandi wigeze utekereza ko hari abandi babyeyi bari hanze bafite imibereho myiza, ubuhanga bwo kurera, inkunga nyinshi, amafaranga menshi, barashobora gutanga amahirwe menshi kandi bakanarwana nibiyobyabwenge cyangwa urugomo cyangwa urugo? Niba kandi… ntibari guhitamo neza umwana wawe? Bishatse kuvuga ko umwana wawe agomba guhita akurwa muri wewe?
Igitekerezo cyanjye ni iki: ibyo bintu ntabwo byanze bikunze bituma umuntu aba inyungu zumwana. Bashobora kuba ibintu byiza, ariko ntibisobanuye ko aribyiza muri rusange.
Niki kidusubiza mubintu twigeze gukoraho mbere niyo mpamvu tugomba, nkababyeyi barera, guteza imbere ubumwe nimiryango yabyaye uko dushoboye.
Biragaragara ko bidasobanura ikiguzi cyose cyangwa ko tutagomba na rimwe gusangira ikintu tuzi ko cyangiza cyangwa cyangiza umwana; niba umubyeyi yarahungabanye cyangwa yafashe icyemezo kibi, ntabwo akazi kacu nkababyeyi barera bahitamo uko bigenda… ibyo bigomba kuba icyemezo cyurukiko. Iyo ubajijwe (bitajya bibaho), dusangira ibyo tuzi nurukiko hanyuma tureke umucamanza akure ibintu aho.
Ariko, turashobora kuba duhari kugirango dushishikarize umuryango wabyaye intego zabo bagezeho niterambere ryatewe; rimwe na rimwe itandukaniro riri hagati yo gutsinda no gutsindwa kuri bo ni ukugira umuntu mu mfuruka yabo, akabatera inkunga.
Noneho birashoboka ko twese tuzi ko kuvana munzu bibabaza umwana. Natwe (birashoboka) kandi twese tuzi ko kurera ari inzira yubuzima bwose bwo kugenda no gutunganya ihahamuka. (Nzi ko ibyo bintu byombi bidasa nkaho bifitanye isano, ariko komera kuri njye kandi ndagusezeranije ko nzagera kuntego yanjye!)
Icyo bivuze rero nuko kuvana munzu irera, gusubira murugo, nabyo birababaje. Ariko, niba umuryango wavutse ushyigikiwe neza (natwe, twizere ko), birashoboka cyane ko abana babo baguma murugo kandi ntibongere kubakuraho. Ibyo rero bivuze ko nubwo kuvana mu barera kugeza mu rugo rw’amavuko biteye ubwoba, ni ihahamuka rimwe, amaherezo bikaba byiza… kuko hamwe no kurera umwana ashobora kubyutsa ihungabana kuri buri kintu gikomeye (cyangwa gito). ubuzima.
Nyamuneka nyamuneka ntukumve ibyo ntavuze: Simvuze ko kurera ari bibi… Rimwe na rimwe guhura ntibikwiye kubaho kuko bidafitiye inyungu umwana. Ariko ibyo nabyo ntibigomba gusobanurwa nibyo dushobora gutanga (akenshi muburyo bumwe), ahubwo ubuzima bwinyungu rusange kumwana kubana numuryango wavutse nibyo bigomba kwitabwaho.
Igitekerezo cyanjye muri ibyo byose ni uko niba dushobora gushyigikira ubumwe (haba mbere na nyuma yo guhura) bishobora kuba aribyo bifitiye umwana akamaro. Ntabwo ari amafaranga cyangwa amahirwe cyangwa inzu nini cyangwa ishuri ryiza cyangwa ikindi icyo aricyo cyose… ni ukuba mumuryango wavukiyemo, mugihe ari umutekano kandi bikwiye kuba uhari. Byerekeranye nindorerwamo zumuco n’amadini umwana yakira hamwe nimiryango yababyaye bashobora cyangwa badashobora kugirana nimiryango irera / irera.
Ntabwo byoroshye nka "Ndi amahitamo meza." NIKI CYIZA iyo usubiye inyuma ugafata ifoto yose.
Mubyukuri,
Kris