Bamwe murimwe murashobora kwibaza uko bigenda kubintu byose umwana urera arundanya? Noneho, bimwe muribi bishobora kugaragara. Ariko, mugihe gusa hari ugushidikanya. Ndashaka kubikoraho muri make.
Nkuko nabivuze mbere, iyo umwana yinjiye muri sisitemu yo kurera muri Indiana hatanzwe inyemezabuguzi ya $200 y'uruganda rwa Burlington. Mubyongeyeho, hari amafaranga ya $300 yumwaka, mubisanzwe akoreshwa kumpano nini (wenda igare, sisitemu yimikino ya videwo, nibindi). Noneho hariho $50 kumpano y'amavuko na $50 kumpano ya Noheri.
Ikigaragara ni uko ayo mafranga yose agenewe gukoreshwa mu kugura ibintu kumwana. None bigenda bite kuri ibyo bintu byose iyo umwana atashye? Nibyiza, bigomba kujyana numwana, sibyo?
Tuvuge iki ku bintu byose umuryango wibinyabuzima utanga / wohereza murugo hamwe numwana mugusura? Byose bijyana numwana.
Ariko byagenda bite niba imyenda ari nto cyane? Biracyajyana numwana.
Byagenda bite niba hari ibikinisho umwana atagikinisha? Nabo, bagomba kujyana numwana.
Ingingo ni iyi: ikintu cyose cyaguzwe namafaranga muri DCS (cyangwa Biro ishinzwe abana, kuko uzabiherewe uburenganzira binyuze muri bo) igomba kujyana numwana mugihe avuye murugo rwawe.
Noneho, ukeka ko azasubira mu muryango we akomokamo… mu rwego rwo kutarenga ku babyeyi babyaranye, ushobora kohereza ibintu mu rugo buhoro buhoro, kuko bimaze gukura cyangwa bitagikoreshwa. Cyangwa, biragaragara ko ushobora kubakiza, no kubohereza icyarimwe. Njye kubwanjye, ndumva ibyo byaba birenze umuryango.
Niba agiye muwundi muryango urera, kandi niba ari inzibacyuho gahoro gahoro, ushobora gukora ikintu kimwe. Bitabaye ibyo, biragaragara ko byose bigomba kugenda icyarimwe (ntabwo ari byiza ariko nibyo aribyo).
Ibi byose rero biroroshye, sibyo? Nk ,, birumvikana kandi byaba aribyo ushobora gukora uko byagenda kose, sibyo? Ariko iki gice gikurikira niho abantu bamwe babona akajagari gato; rero, natekereje ko nzafata umunota kuriyi.
Ikindi ugomba gusuzuma ni iki kibaho kumpano zihabwa umwana, kubandi bose uretse umuryango we ubyara, mugihe aba murugo rwawe? Abo bose nabo bakeneye gukurikira umwana. Rero, ibyo bivuze ko niyo wowe, nkumubyeyi urera, waguze ikintu mumufuka wawe kandi ntusubizwe, biracyajyana numwana.
Kurugero, ntushobora kugura Xbox kumwana kuri Noheri, hanyuma niba yimuwe murugo cyangwa mu rundi rugo rurera, urugero, muri Gashyantare… ntushobora guhitamo kubigumana, ukavuga ko ari "impano yumuryango ”Cyangwa ikintu cyo gukoreshwa“ abandi bana barera ”.
Nzi ko ibi bisa nkaho bigaragara, ariko inshuro zirenze imwe, byabaye igufwa ryamakimbirane mwisi irera kandi ikintu numvise abandi bajya impaka. Njye ku giti cyanjye, sinshobora kumva ko byaba impaka… ntiwakagombye kubikorera undi muntu, sibyo? “Hano… Nakuguriye iyi mpano, ariko niba uhisemo kwimuka, nzakenera.”
Noneho ibishoboka byanyuma: byagenda bite uramutse ureze umwana? Nibyiza, iyo umaze kuba umubyeyi urera, urashobora gukora uko ubonye bihuye nibintu umwana amaze gukura.
Urashaka gutanga iyo myenda cyangwa ibikinisho? Isanzure.
Urashaka kubanyuza undi mwana munsi yinzu yawe? Genda imbere.
Ushaka kubitwika inyuma yinyuma (sinzi impamvu wifuza gukora ibi… ariko igitekerezo cyanjye urabishoboye)… guhitamo ni ibyawe.
Icyo nshaka kuvuga kuri ibi byose: kugeza aho DCS itakigizemo uruhare, byose, kandi ndashaka kuvuga byose, bigumana kandi bigakurikira umwana.
Mubyukuri,
Kris