Rero, nkuko ushobora, cyangwa ushobora kutabimenya, twagize impinduka nyinshi nihungabana murugo rwacu mumwaka ushize. Twimukiye mu muryango mushya, umuhungu umwe yarangije kaminuza mu mpeshyi hanyuma mu mpeshyi yimukira mu mahanga imyaka ibiri, undi muhungu mukuru asubira muri kaminuza, twahuye n'urupfu rwa sekuru.
Ibintu byinshi. Biragaragara rero ko byasaga nkigitekerezo cyiza cyo kujya imbere no gukora ibintu bimwe na bimwe byubaka inzu.
Noneho kugirango byumvikane neza, ndasetsa rwose ko bisa nkigihe cyiza. Ariko, kuvugurura byari bikenewe gukorwa kuberako twari dusanzwe mugihe cyinzibacyuho, twahisemo kubijyamo.
Biragaragara, kuvugurura byose biragoye, utitaye kubikorerwa nigihe bibaye. Ndetse numuntu umwe cyangwa babiri gusa bakuze kandi nta bana baba murugo, byagorana. Kandi hamwe na buri "variable", bigenda bigaragara ko bigoye. Mfite umwana umwe gusa murugo… ariko rero ihahamuka rizana urwego rwinyongera rwibintu.
Kandi dore impamvu: kiddo yanjye rwose ikeneye kumenya ibibera mbere yigihe. Ariko niba warigeze gukora ubwoko ubwo aribwo bwose bwo guhindura ibintu, uzi ko udashobora guhora wishingikirije kuri gahunda wahawe. Nibyo, bazaba bahari saa munani ejo mugitondo… cyangwa birashobora kuba 11 cyangwa nyuma yaho. Cyangwa ntibashobora kwigaragaza na gato. Nibyo, bizakorwa bitarenze vendredi… cyangwa birashobora kuba ikindi cyumweru cyakazi. Urutonde rukomeza, biragaragara; haribishoboka byinshi kubishobora kubaho mugusana amazu.
Kandi kubera ko twiga murugo, kandi akaba ari murugo umunsi wose, ngomba guha umuhungu wanjye gahunda yumunsi, buri munsi (ibibera, ninde uzaba murugo cyangwa aho tugomba kujya, nibindi…), buri gitondo . Kandi rimwe na rimwe azasaba gahunda ijoro ryakeye. Niba yaragiye ku manywa, biragaragara ko byafasha iki kibazo… nubwo yifuza kumenya icyo * gikwiye gukorwa buri munsi kandi akagira icyo ambwira niba atari byo. Kuberako nubwo azi neza ko ntashinzwe imirimo yabandi, ihahamuka akenshi risimbuka logique kandi ubwonko bwo hasi burashobora kumushimuta mbere yuko tugirana ibiganiro byumvikana.
Ingingo yo kuba: reka nkuremeshe gusa ko niba ugiye munzira yo gusana amazu, menya gusa ko umwana wawe ashobora kuba akeneye ibyiringiro byinshi, bihumuriza, guhuza nawe, nubuntu runaka.
Ntabwo bivuze ko nta miterere ihari, ntibisobanuye ko nta mipaka ihari, kandi nibintu bisanzwe bisanzwe twe nkababyeyi, dukoresha kugirango tugenzure uko dushoboye. Ariko iyo hariho byinshi byo kubura imiterere kurenza ibisanzwe, bitewe nibintu bitaduturutseho (mugihe cyo gusana amazu, urugero), ubuntu ni nkaho tugomba gukambika. Nkinama nyinshi ndaguha, simbikora byoroshye. Nibyo, umushinga wo kuvugurura amazu yacu (warangije kuba imishinga itatu mugihe byose byavuzwe kandi bigakorwa… yay yo kuba munzu ishaje!) Byagereranijwe gufata icyumweru nigice. Byarangije kuba ibyumweru bitatu nigice.
Ikindi gice cyibi, byibura kuri twe, ni uko usibye guhahamuka, rimwe na rimwe abana bava ahantu hakomeye bafite isuzuma ryiyongera ryiyongera kubibazo bitoroshye. Umuhungu wanjye, kurugero, arwana na ADHD… urashobora rero kwiyumvisha ukuntu byamushimishije mugihe hari urugi ruzenguruka rwabantu bashya kandi batandukanye murugo; biragaragara ko muri iyo minsi byari bigoye kumutera kwibanda.
Nkuruhande rwihuse, kuri twe, aho niho ubwiza bwo kwiga murugo (reba inyandiko yanjye yambere kubindi byinshi kugirango ufate icyemezo gikwiye cyumwana wawe) watangiye: Akunda kwiga ibintu bishya kandi rwose ni amashusho, kimwe na na kwumva, wiga rero niba umweretse ikintu rimwe ukagisobanura rimwe, birashoboka ko azamenya kubikora. Twishimye, benshi mubasezeranye baratangaje nawe bamureka akareba akazi. Ndetse bamwe basubiza ibibazo bye bidashira cyangwa bakamureka akabashakira ibikoresho bakeneye, nibindi.
Mugihe rero atari umunsi usanzwe wishuri mugihe abakozi bari hano, nashoboraga kubona uko abona abo basezerana bose nkigice cyumunsi wishuri. Ngomba gufata intsinzi aho nshoboye. Arimo kwiga ikintu gishya, gusa ntibishobora kuba umunsi w'ishuri gakondo… kandi na none ni byiza. Iradusubiza kuri kiriya gitekerezo cyubuntu, sibyo?
Ndavuga ibyo byose kugirango mvuge ibi: Sinzi ko mfite ubwenge bwinshi bwo gutanga mugihe nkiki, kuko kuvugurura inzu birashoboka ko bitazaba byiza cyangwa byoroshye cyangwa byoroshye cyangwa byoroshye cyangwa ikindi kintu icyo aricyo cyose. Ariko, URASHOBORA kubinyuramo, cyane cyane mugihe ushoboye gusubira inyuma ukamenya ko umwana wawe adashaka kubabazwa cyangwa gutabwa nibi kurenza uko ubikora. Niba kandi ushobora gukomeza gutegekwa, urashobora gusangira ituze nabo bizera kugarura cyangwa kugumana ituze ryabo… buri gihe intego, sibyo?
Umuvuduko wihuse kandi wishimye kuvugurura!
Mubyukuri,
Kris