Uyu munsi ndashaka gukora ku kintu mperutse gushishikarizwa gukora n’umuvuzi w’umuhungu wanjye… kandi ni “umubyeyi umwana uri imbere yanjye.”
Noneho ibi birashobora gusobanura ibintu byinshi bitandukanye, ariko imiterere mvuga nuko abana baturuka mubibazo byihungabana akenshi batinda kumarangamutima, kandi ugereranije ni, gukura kwakabiri cyimyaka yabo ikurikirana kuburyo niba umwana afite ibihe 10 birashoboka ko ari hafi mumarangamutima. kugeza kuri bitanu; ikintu kimwe yanyibukije nuko ari urubanza ukurikije urubanza kandi kuvuga kimwe cya kabiri bituma biba byiza kandi bifite isuku. Abana bamwe ntibatinda nabandi bana baratinda cyane.
Hatitawe ku gutinda, ndumva iyi mvugo ishobora no gukoreshwa kuri benshi muri mwe.
Twaganiraga rero kuberako umuhungu wanjye afite ibindi akeneye usibye ihahamuka rye, ibintu yavukanye kandi kubwibyo, imyaka ye yo gukura iri munsi ya kimwe cya kabiri. Yakurikiranye hafi 10 ariko rwose ntabwo ari amarangamutima 10.
Tuvugishije ukuri, nta nubwo ari hafi. Rimwe na rimwe ni nkaho afite imyaka itandatu ikindi gihe ni nka batatu. Ntabwo arikosa rye kandi ntakintu na kimwe kigamije kumutesha agaciro. Nicyo aricyo kandi dukora ibishoboka byose kugirango tumufashe "gufata" muburyo bwose bushoboka.
Igitekerezo cye rero kuri njye, bityo icyo nkwereka, nukugutera inkunga yo kurera umwana imbere yawe. Kugirango ukore ibi, ntugomba gutekereza byanze bikunze imyaka umwana akurikirana cyangwa icyo "agomba kuba". Tekereza aho bari. Imyitwarire yabo ikubwira iki?
Bakeneye ko ubizunguza ukabatigisa nubwo bafite umunani? Bakeneye ko ubagaburira ikiyiko nkuko wabyaye uruhinja, nubwo bashoboye rwose kubikora ubwabo? Noneho bamwe murimwe mumaze kubimenya, ariko kubatabizi: igice kinini cyikibazo nuko rimwe na rimwe abana bahura nibintu byinshi bidakenewe… gukinisha, kunyeganyega no kugaburira amazina make.
Nigeze kubivuga mbere kandi nzongera kubiganiraho Nzi neza ko… mugihe ukorana na kiddo kuva ahantu hakomeye, ugomba gushyira ku ruhande bimwe mubitekerezo byawe mbere yuko umwana "usanzwe" aricyo. Umwana wa neurotypical. Kuberako niyo umwana yaba afite amanota kurwego rwa mbere, bivuze ko badakeneye kurenza urugero kubuvuzi bwabo bwibanze, ku giti cyanjye ndatekereza ko aribwo bwoko bwa bogus (ngaho… Navuze ibyo navuze)… kuko iyo kiddo zavanywe murugo rwabo kandi ibintu byose bamenye, ibyo ni ihahamuka. Kandi rero bagiye gukenera ikindi kintu cyongeweho muri wewe, uko byagenda kose isuzuma ryambere ryo gufata.
Kandi kugirango umenye icyo bakeneye, ugomba kureba imyitwarire. Bashobora kutabeshya bakakubwira bati "Nkeneye ko unyita ikiyiko".
Cyangwa “Nkeneye ko woza umusatsi wanjye.”
Cyangwa “Nkeneye ko unshiramo.”
Cyangwa “Nkeneye ko utora imyenda yanjye”
Cyangwa “Nkeneye ubufasha bwo gutoranya imyenda yanjye”
Cyangwa “Nkeneye guswera”
Cyangwa “Nkeneye ko unkubita”
Cyangwa kimwe mubintu bitandukanye bishobora kwerekana urwego rwabuze ahantu mubuzima bwabo.
Ingingo yo kuba: niba uhuye nimyitwarire yumwana kandi ushobora gutera intambwe uva mubyo bakora byose cyangwa bavuga (niyo byaba ari imyitwarire idakundwa kandi idakundwa… kandi amahirwe nibyo rwose bizaba), wowe irashobora kubona ibimenyetso kubyo bashobora kubura… kandi irashobora kubabyeyi umwana uri imbere yawe. Bashobora kuba bakurikiranye ibihe 15 ariko mumarangamutima bafite imyaka 6, nuko rero umubyeyi ufite imyaka 6.
Kandi ikindi kintu cyibutsa vuba: Birashoboka ko wabyaye abandi bana murugo rwawe banganya imyaka kuburyo ujya mumwanya ufite ibitekerezo byabanje… ariko uyu mwana arashobora gutinda cyane, cyangwa gutera imbere, kuruta umwana wabanjirije. Ingingo yo kuba: umubyeyi umwana imbere yawe, ntabwo aribyo utekereza ko bagomba kuba.
Ninzibacyuho igoye guhindura ibitekerezo byawe kuriyi; byanze bikunze ntushaka gutekereza kubyo bashobora kuba barabuze cyangwa ubuzima bwabo bwari bumeze… ariko kubyirengagiza no / cyangwa kurera nkaho umwana akura imyaka yabo ikurikirana ntizizana. Ibyo izakora byose ni ugukomeretsa wowe Numwana.
Mubyukuri,
Kris