Ntabwo nigeze nandika kubyerekeranye no kurera nabi kurera rero reka dusuzume ikindi gisanzwe. Hariho abantu (ntibashaka kuvuga ko uri muri bo) bizera ko abana bamwe binjira muburere kubera amahitamo yabo n'amakosa yabo.
Nta mwana wigeze yinjira muri gahunda yo kurera biturutse ku guhitamo kwabo nabi. Abana bashyirwa mu bigo birera kubera ihohoterwa cyangwa uburangare bagize mu maboko y'ababyeyi babyaranye, ba sogokuru, ba sokuru, abarezi, cyangwa rimwe na rimwe abandi bagize umuryango babareraga mbere.
Ntabwo ari, nta na rimwe, nta na rimwe ibikorwa byumwana bitera gukurwa no gushyirwa mubarera.
Kuruhande rumwe, hari abizera ko abana bakuru barerwa ari abana bato. Ukuri nibibazo byimyitwarire akenshi biterwa nihungabana rituruka ku ihohoterwa no kwirengagiza byabayeho mbere yo kuza kurera.
Imyitwarire yose nuburyo bwo gutumanaho. Rero, iyo umwana akora muburyo runaka, birashoboka rwose bitewe nikintu gifite (ihohoterwa), cyangwa kitigeze (kwirengagiza), cyabaye mubuzima bwe. Iyo nsuzumye ibibazo byo gufata nabi numvise, ntabwo ntangazwa nuburyo abana bamwe bitwara. Bashyizeho inkuta kandi berekana imyitwarire idahwitse nkugerageza kubaho; niyo baba batazi ko aruburyo bwo kubaho nuburyo bwo gusaba ubufasha. Ntabwo ari imyitwarire yahisemo kandi rimwe na rimwe ntibashobora no kumenya ko hari ubundi buryo bwo gukora.
Tekereza kuri ibi, mugihe umenyereye kutagira icyo ubitaho, urashobora gukora muburyo butuma abantu benshi babitaho. Ibi bishobora kubamo ibintu nkubujura, guhunika ibiryo, cyangwa kubeshya… cyangwa imyitwarire iyo ari yo yose hagati. Ariko, ntabwo imyitwarire umwana ahitamo wenyine.
Amakuru meza ni imyitwarire ishobora guhindurwa nurukundo, igihe, no kwitabwaho numuntu umwe gusa. Nzi ko ibyo bitera ubwenge; ariko mubyukuri, niba umwana ashoboye guhuza no kugirana umubano mwiza numuntu umwe gusa birashobora guhindura ubuzima. Ntabwo bivuze ko hatazabaho ibibazo kandi ntihazabaho imiti. Ariko guhuza numuntu mukuru witaye kandi wuje urukundo birashobora kubaka ikizere, guca inzitizi no guha umwana uburambe batigeze bamenya.
Umubyeyi mwiza urera ni umuntu umwana abona ko afite umutekano, uhamye kandi wemera. Ibi ntabwo bivuze ko wemerera umwana gukomeza imyitwarire yangiza, cyangwa yangiza muri rusange. Ariko guhura numwana aho ari no gutera imbere hamwe na we birashobora kuzana gukira gukomeye mubuzima bwumwana.
Ese abana bakuze barera abana bato bato? Oya, ni abana gusa baturuka ahantu hakomeye kandi bakora ibishoboka byose kugirango bamenyeshe isi. Kubera iki? Bashobora rero kubona ubufasha bukwiye.
Mubyukuri,
Kris