Ikintu Natekereje cyane kuri vuba aha, kandi ndashaka gusangira nawe ni ukwirinda kutazimira mubabyeyi barera. Icyo nshaka kuvuga nukuvuga mbere yuko uba umubyeyi urera, uri "umuntu usanzwe". Ufite inyungu. Urashobora kugira ibyo ukunda. Ufite inshuti na / cyangwa umuryango. Ufite ubuzima, mvugishije ukuri, butagendana no gukemura ibibazo byihariye byumwana uturuka ku ihahamuka.
Ariko kuri njye, ku giti cyanjye, mu kwibira no gufata umwana ufite ubuvuzi bukomeye, igihe kirenze nkaba narayobye muri ibyo. Byahindutse umwirondoro wanjye. Birasa nkabantu, harimo nanjye ubwanjye, batekerezaga ko ndi umubyeyi urera mbere hanyuma nkumuntu muri rusange. Sinzi niba ibyo byumvikana, ariko igitekerezo cyanjye nuko nari narashinze imizi, kuburyo byantwaye igihe kugirango menye igihe cyo kuva muri ibyo.
Numvaga nataye umwirondoro muburyo kandi. Gusa sinari nzi neza uwo nzaba iyo ntaba umubyeyi urera. Sinari nzi uko abantu bazanyumva niba batantekereje nkumubyeyi urera. Nari nemereye ko nishimye kuko nasomye byinshi kubyerekeye ihahamuka na TBRI nibintu byose, kandi narishimye mugihe abantu bambajije ibibazo kuko nkunda kwiga no gusangira ibyo nize.
Icyo ntashoboye kumenya nuko abantu batigeze bambona ukundi mugihe ntari nkiri umubyeyi urera; kumanika byari ibyanjye. Bakomeje gusobanukirwa ko mfite amakuru yo gusangira nubunararibonye bwangize kandi bumbumbabumba, ndetse n'umuryango wanjye, kandi ntacyo byari bitwaye kuba ntagifite izina ry "umubyeyi urera."
Kandi ko binyuze muriyi nzira, nasanze ko ntakeneye iryo zina cyangwa ikirango cyangwa ikindi aricyo cyose. Byongeye kandi nasanze ko kubera ko nari napfunyitse cyane kuba umubyeyi urera ku buryo ibindi bintu mubuzima bwanjye nakundaga kwishimira, byari byarafashe umwanya.
Ariko namara kugira ikirango cyababyeyi barera, numvise umudendezo wo gusubira muri ibyo bintu. Ubukorikori, urugero. Igihe narindaga uruhinja rudakomeye mubuvuzi n'uruhinja, hari umwanya wa zeru kubyo. Nashakaga kubikora, kandi nari nzi ko byari kuba byiza kuri njye, ariko mubyukuri sinabonye umwanya. Nibyo, ntabwo nabonye umwanya. Ariko kuva natera intambwe inyuma, kandi nkamenya ko ninjiye muburyo bwo kurera, nashoboye gusubira muri kiriya gice cyanjye nabuze rwose.
Mu buryo bumwe, igihe nabaye umubyeyi urera, nabaye hafi kuba umwe, kandi aribyo byose nabonaga nkanjye. (Ntabwo aruburyo bwiza bwo kureba ibintu, mugihe wibazaga.) Turi buri muntu muburyo butandukanye ufite inyungu nubuhanga nubushobozi bwinshi. Kandi iyo wibuze igice kimwe cyawe, ugakora ibindi byose bigenda bishira.
Ndakeka rero kuruta ikindi kintu cyose, iyi ni inkuru yo kuburira… kwitondera ibintu ukunda, mbere yo kurera, kandi urebe ko uzakomeza gushinga imizi. Shyira kuri kalendari niba ugomba. Ndi "ikirangantego nurutonde" ubwoko bwumukobwa. Niba iri kurutonde cyangwa niba iri kuri kalendari, ngiye kubikora. Bamwe murimwe murashobora kuba bamwe.
Cyangwa birashoboka ko byaba byiza ufite umufatanyabikorwa wubwoko butandukanye. Umuntu wishimira ibindi bikorwa hamwe ninde ushobora gukomeza gushinga imizi muri bo… kandi ushobora gukomeza kugutera inkunga yo gukomeza kwitabira no guhuza.
Tutitaye kuburyo ubikora, ndagutera inkunga yo Kutabura rwose kuba umubyeyi urera, nubwo byoroshye gukora; ibyo bindi bice byawe birashobora gutanga ubuzima kandi bigahindura ubuzima mugihe uhuye nibibazo byo kurera kurera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris