Nigeze kuganira uburyo iminsi mikuru ishobora kugaragara hiyongereyeho (cyangwa byibuze kwemeza) ababyeyi babyaranye no kwinjiza abana barera muminsi mikuru yumuryango. Ariko, turacyafite umwaka wose wibindi biruhuko niminsi y'amavuko imbere yacu. Noneho, natekereje ko nzafata umunota nkavuga uko iyo minsi imeze kubana barera.
Mugihe ibiruhuko n'amavuko mubisanzwe byishimo kandi byuzuye kwishimisha, birashobora gukurura kwibuka ububabare, kubura, no gutandukana kubana bafite amateka yihungabana.
Ibi birori birashobora kuzana kwibuka ibintu byahise kandi bikabayobora munzira yo kwibaza uko ibintu byagenda baramutse bizihije hamwe nimiryango yabo yababyaye, ndetse kubana bari bato mugihe cyo kuvanwaho kandi badafite kwibuka mubyukuri. Umwana arashobora kwiyumvisha uko ibyo bihe byari kuba bimeze.
Kandi ibi bitekerezo nibuka birashobora kwigaragaza no gufata umwana muburyo butandukanye. Irashobora kumera nkuburakari, cyangwa uburakari bwose. Kandi umujinya urashobora kuba mubintu byabayeho (ihahamuka, ihohoterwa cyangwa kutitabwaho), cyangwa bishobora kuba bijyanye nibintu yizera ko BIGOMBA KUBAHO CYANGWA BISHOBORA kuba… aramutse abanye gusa numuryango we ubyara.
Mu bana bamwe, ibyiyumvo bahura nabyo mugihe cyibiruhuko cyangwa iminsi y'amavuko birashobora gusa nkumubabaro mwinshi cyangwa kwiheba. Kwibuka no kwiyumvisha ibiruhuko n'iminsi y'amavuko ugereranije nuko bimeze ubu, cyangwa bishobora kuba ejo hazaza, biragoye kumwana gutunganya. Rero, akenshi asigara yumva afite igihombo kinini.
Abandi bana barashobora kubicunga bucece kandi imbere batunganya ibintu. Hanze, barashobora kugaragara ko bishimye kandi basezeranye; ariko imbere, uburambe ni amarangamutima kubarya. Bikaba binzanye kuri ibi byibutsa bike: niba umwana urera atagaragaye cyane muminsi y'amavuko cyangwa iminsi mikuru kurwego runaka, akenshi ntibarwanira imbere.
Buri kimwe muribi byabaye, muburyo bwabo no kubwimpamvu zabo bwite, birashobora gutitira ihahamuka rihora rihari, munsi yubutaka. Kandi baributsa ibyahozeho nibitakiriho, byibuze muriki gihe. Barashobora gukangura umwana kugirango bamenye ko atari ngombwa ko ahinduka mubihe byimibereho, kandi ko guhoraho nabyo bidashobora guturuka kubabyeyi be bamubyaye. Kandi hejuru yibyo, birashoboka cyane mugihe cyumwaka, isabukuru cyangwa ibiruhuko birashobora kongera kugaragara ukundi… hamwe nabantu batandukanye, inzu itandukanye n'imigenzo itandukanye.
Urashobora no guhagarara akanya gato hanyuma ukumva uburyo ibyo byakunvikana nkumuntu mukuru, kereka niba bigomba kumera kumwana?
Ibyo rero byavuzwe, nyamuneka umenye ko buri bumwe muri ubwo buryo bwo guhangana na bwo buvuzwe haruguru bufasha umwana mugihe akemura ibibazo bitesha umutwe; kandi bafasha ababyeyi barera gutekereza mugihe uhuye nikibazo icyo aricyo cyose (cyangwa byose) mubisubizo byatanzwe numwana wawe wareze kumunsi wari witeze ko byakunezeza.
Mubyukuri,
Kris