Nabikozeho gato gato ariko ndashaka gushimangira iyi ngingo: ugomba guhinduka mugihe uri umubyeyi urera. Buri gihe nukuri kumwanya wambere, ariko ibi bikenewe guhinduka BIZASHOBORA, kuyobora inzira zose zurubanza. Ntabwo bivuze ko ari nkana cyangwa ko bikorwa nkana… ni uburyo bwo kurera akenshi bigenda.
Dore icyo umubyeyi umwe urera yabivuzeho: “Natangajwe no kubona uburyo inshuro nyinshi gahunda na gahunda bihinduka. Hafi ya 3/4 by'ibintu duteganya bihinduka n'umuntu utinze, gahunda, n'ibindi… bisaba ibintu byinshi byoroshye. ”
Igihe rero, ubwo nabanje kuganira ku gitekerezo cyo guhinduka, byari bijyanye n'imikorere ya buri munsi y'urugo n'imyitwarire y'umwana, muri iyo minsi mike n'ibyumweru bya mbere nyuma yuko umwana yinjiye murugo rwawe.
Iyi nyandiko ivuga byinshi kubijyanye nuko rimwe na rimwe ishobora kumva gato nkaho ugenda ku mucanga uhinduranya; ntabwo ari intangiriro gusa, ahubwo inzira zose zinyuramo. Kuberako hari abantu benshi bafite uruhare murubanza, amakimbirane yingengabihe arasanzwe kandi akenshi wumva ko ababyeyi barera aribo bagomba guhindura gahunda zabo. Ntabwo buri gihe ari ko bimeze, biragaragara; ariko rimwe na rimwe irabyumva.
Ariko ibi ndabivuga: mugitangira urubanza, DCS numuyobozi ushinzwe ibibazo bya CB hamwe nabashinzwe gusura hamwe nabandi bose babigizemo uruhare bahura nikintu kimwe nawe… kuko bose bagerageza gushyiraho urufatiro rwumwana kuva aho kugeza jya imbere. Kandi kugirango bashireho ibyingenzi, bagomba kumenya ibyabaye (cyangwa bitabaye) mbere yo kuvaho.
Mugihe abandi bose murubanza basubiza amaso inyuma bakareba imbere, wowe, nkumubyeyi urera, uri mu mwobo. Nukuri ko urimo kureba ibizaza mugihe kizaza, ariko ahanini urareba ibibera nonaha imbere yawe nibigomba gukemurwa ako kanya.
Ibyo bivuze ko ufite gahunda yambere yo kubonana na muganga (kandi inshuro nyinshi bizaba akazi kawe gukurikirana umuganga wabanjirije, ushobora kuba yarahawe na Medicaid); uzakenera amenyo kubonana, hamwe nintambwe yambere Kugenwa cyangwa ubundi buryo bwo kuvura. Kandi ninshingano zawe guteganya ibyo (kandi birashoboka ko uzabisubiramo niba bikenewe).
Mugihe mugihe utegura ibyo bintu, birashoboka / birashoboka ko uruzinduko rwambere numuryango wibinyabuzima narwo ruteganijwe. N'urukiko rwa mbere. Kandi gusurwa na FCM yawe. Kandi gusurwa numukozi wawe wa CB. N'uruzinduko rwa CASA. Kandi nyuma y’iburanisha rya mbere, gahunda yo gusura izashyirwaho.
Ntabwo bivuze kuvuga kugeza umwana kumashuri no kuva (yaba ishuri rye risanzwe cyangwa kwimurira mwishuri hafi yawe). Cyangwa kumenya kurera abana.
Kandi nzi neza ko bitoroshye kubona uburyo bimwe muribyo bishobora kurangira ari inshuro ebyiri (cyangwa eshatu). Noneho, ingingo mvuga hano ni ukumenya ko uzakenera guhinduka. Kandi gusobanukirwa. Kandi umenye gusa ko ntamuntu numwe ugerageza kuguhindura ibintu, ariko, nkurugero, inshuro nyinshi mugihe gahunda yo kubonana na muganga no gusurwa nababyeyi babyaranye icyarimwe, uzaba ariwe ukora impinduka. Ntabwo buri gihe, byanze bikunze, ariko kenshi.
Noneho, nkuko nabivuze hejuru, uku guhinduka ntigukenewe mugitangira urubanza, ariko birashoboka inzira zose.
Nubwo hariho ingero nyinshi zukuntu guhinduka kwawe gushobora kwitwa gukina, iyi yihariye iza mubitekerezo byanjye kuko byari bimeze kuri twe. Kubera ko umuhungu wacu yari afite ubuvuzi buhanitse, ababyeyi be bamubyaye bategekwa n'umucamanza kwitabira gahunda zose za muganga. Kandi nyuma yo kubonana, bafata ibisigaye muruzinduko rwabo.
Ibi byambere byarambabaje ariko amaherezo naje gusobanukirwa nigitekerezo cyumucamanza. Niba ashaka guhura n'ababyeyi be, bagomba kumva ibintu byose kwa muganga bijyanye no kumwitaho.
Ariko niba ndi inyangamugayo rwose, dore icyambabaje rwose: iyi manda yansabye guhinduka neza kuruhande rwanjye, kuko uyu kiddo yari afite abaganga benshi. Ntabwo nashoboraga guteganya gahunda nkeneye ibyo nkeneye, ahubwo nagombaga kubikora mugihe ababyeyi bari bahari. Birumvikana ko nari ntaramenya neza ko uruhare rwanjye nk'umubyeyi urera rwarimo rworoha… kandi guhinduka kwanjye kwarafashaga ababyeyi gukora gahunda yabo uko bashoboye.
Ingingo kuba… nubwo waba udashaka guhinduka kandi rimwe na rimwe ntushobore kumva impamvu yimpinduka cyangwa impamvu ugomba kunama… Ndagutera inkunga yo kwimanika aho ngaho ugakora uko ushoboye kugirango ibintu bikorwe nabantu bose. babigizemo uruhare. Ntabwo ari ikintu cyihariye kukurwanya, nubwo wumva ushaka gukora "flexing" nyinshi kandi amaherezo ushobora kuba ariwe ugomba guhindura gahunda.
Kandi nubwo bidasaba gukenera guhinduka byoroshye, twizere ko ibi bigufasha kubona ko bikenewe kandi ko byibuze rimwe na rimwe, bishobora kuba uruhare rutanditse rwo kuba umubyeyi urera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris