Nkuko ushobora kubyibuka mubyanditswe kubyerekeranye nababyeyi barera bagomba kurongorwa, (abangiriza igihe utabisomye): ababyeyi barera ntibagomba kurongora; abantu b'abaseribateri barashobora rwose kuba ababyeyi barera.
Niba rero twumva ko ababyeyi barera bashobora kuba ingaragu, kandi tugakoresha ibitekerezo byacu bigabanya, tuzi ko umubyeyi umwe urera atagomba kuguma murugo, kuko mumazu amwe arera harimo umubyeyi umwe, kandi uwo mubyeyi yabikora (biragaragara) gukora.
Ariko ibyo byose byumvikana kuruhande, ndashaka gusohoka neza nkavuga ko no mumazu arera ababyeyi babiri, umubyeyi umwe atagomba kuguma murugo. Nibyo, umubyeyi umwe ASHOBORA kuguma murugo niba bahisemo, ariko rwose ntabwo ari itegeko; ingo nyinshi zirera zigizwe nababyeyi babiri bakora igihe cyose.
Nigute ibyo bikora, cyane cyane mubijyanye no kurera abana? Nibyiza, muburyo bwinshi birashobora kuba bisa nuburyo bukora mumazu atarera, ariko siko bimeze rwose. Ahanini, ndizera ko gukenera gushyirwaho nyabyo bizagena gahunda, nubwo wagerageza gutegura mbere.
Mbere ya byose, hashobora kubaho ubufasha bwa leta buhari bwo gufasha kwishyura amafaranga yo kurera abana kugirango babarezwe (ibi bizasobanurwa muburyo burambuye mumwanya uza). Cyangwa niba umwana afite imyaka-y-ishuri, hashobora kubaho umuturanyi wemera kureba umwana muto nyuma yishuri kugeza ababyeyi barera batashye kukazi. Muri uru rwego, umuturanyi yaba afite igenzura ryibanze rinyuze mu kigo gishinzwe gutanga impushya (Biro ishinzwe abana, birumvikana) hanyuma akazahanagurwaho kurera umwana.
Ubundi buryo bushobora gusaba umukoresha wawe kwemerera gukora amasaha make avuye murugo (bikunze kugaragara muriki gihe muri rusange #thankscovid), cyangwa umubyeyi umwe ugiye gukora kare kugirango ashobore guhagarika akazi mugihe cyo guhura numwana kubona urugo kuva ku ishuri.
Igitekerezo kimwe cy'inyongera nifuza gusangira ni iki: ushobora kumva nkaho ingimbi zidakeneye umuntu uwo ari we wese nyuma yishuri kuko zikuze bihagije… ariko, zishobora guhura nibibazo byinshi (cyangwa byinshi) kuruta umwana muto utagenzuwe . Cyangwa birashoboka ko umwangavu ashobora gukenera kumva ashyigikiwe no guhumurizwa no kumenya ko ababyeyi bamurera bahari… ntabwo ari amarangamutima gusa ahubwo numubiri; barahari iyo avuye mugitondo, barahari ageze murugo avuye kwishuri, barahari. Umwangavu ntashobora guhora abigaragaza muburyo bwifuzwa cyangwa bwiyubashye, ariko birashobora kumukenera cyane. Ibindi bijyanye nibi byanditswe nyuma.
Hariho byinshi bishoboka, rimwe na rimwe bihujwe no gutekereza guhanga, kugirango ukore sisitemu ikorera umuryango wawe. Nkuko nabivuze, ntabwo buri gihe ari ikintu ushobora kumenya mbere yigihe, kuko mukurera, ibintu birashobora guhinduka kandi izina ryumukino kubabyeyi barera rimwe na rimwe ni "flexible". Ariko, nibimara gushyirwaho, ibyinshi bizaba bisa nuburyo kurera abana bikora mumazu atarera.
Ibyiringiro bitanga ubushishozi buke kuri wewe mugihe ugenda ufata icyemezo cyo kubona uruhushya rwo kurera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris