Ndabizi mu nyandiko ibanza naganiriye ku kuyobora ibiruhuko n'ababyeyi babyaranye. Noneho, mubyukuri ndashaka gushyira ibitekerezo hasi kubyerekeranye nibiruhuko ukurikije abana barera ubwabo.
Uyu mwaka, uko bimeze, ntabwo twese dushobora kugira amateraniro manini yumuryango twagize kera. Rero, ntibishobora kuba nkibibazo byinshi. Ariko, ngiye kubikemura nkaho ari umwaka usanzwe.
Ibiruhuko biragoye kubantu benshi, ariko cyane cyane kubana barera. Ntabwo bari hamwe nimiryango yababyaye. Urashobora no kwiyumvisha uko ibyo bigomba kwiyumva… kuba kure yurugo? Nkuko twabivuze mbere, kuba kure yibisanzwe birahangayikishije cyane kandi birababaje, nubwo ibyo bisanzwe atari byiza.
Kugirango ibintu birusheho kuba bibi, abana barera barashobora kubana numuryango utazi icyo gukora mubiruhuko. Umuryango urera ushobora kuba utekereza kubintu nka:
- Dushyira abana barera mumashusho yumuryango?
- Turabagurira impano zingana nabana bacu bavutse?
- Twakoresheje amafaranga angana kuri buri mwana urera?
- Tugomba gukoresha amafaranga yacu arenze ayo DCS na Biro y'abana bazadusubiza?
- Nigute umuryango mugari wawe ukemura kugura impano (nibindi bikorwa byose "ibiruhuko")?
- Nibyiza ko umuryango mugari wagura impano kubana bacu bavukanye ariko atari abana bacu barera?
- Cyangwa barashobora kugaragara "kugenda bihendutse" kubana barera "kuko ntacyo bitwaye… ntabwo mubyukuri ari abana bacu"?
- Ni gute ibyo bintu byose (nibindi byinshi) byakemurwa?
Mugihe urimo usoma muri ibi bibazo, urashobora gukeka ibyo ngiye kuvuga ubutaha. Niba kandi udashoboye, ushobora kuba mushya kuri blog yanjye.
Abana bashinzwe kurera bagomba gufatwa nkaho ari abana bawe. Kuberako byibuze muri iki gihe… ni abana bawe. Bakwiye gufatwa nurukundo, ubwitonzi, impuhwe n'icyubahiro nkumwana wese ufite ubuzimagatozi ubuziraherezo. Noneho, niba ukoresha amafaranga runaka kuri buri mwana, ayo mafaranga agomba no gukoreshwa kumwana urera. Ibyo birashobora gusobanura gukoresha amafaranga mu mufuka wawe kubwimpano (birenze ibyo DCS na Biro ishinzwe abana) cyangwa kugabanya ibyo ukoresha kuri biologiya yawe.
Nzi ko iki kintu gikurikira gishobora kuba cyiza cyane ariko ngiye kubivuga uko byagenda kose; umuryango mugari ugomba kubikora. Niba bafite ikibazo cyo kwemera iki gitekerezo, kugirango ibintu bingane, noneho birashoboka ko, nkababyeyi, ukeneye kubabwira ko batitaye kugura impano iyo ari yo yose.
Ouch. Ariko ndakomeza…
Birashoboka cyane, abana bawe babyara bazaba beza nta mpano zumuryango mugari. Hejuru y'ibindi byose, kandi icy'ingenzi, uzaba warokoye icyubahiro no gukumira ibyangiritse kumarangamutima yabana bawe barera.
Niba ufite imigenzo ya Noheri yumuryango, shyiramo abana barera; niyo bigoye kandi bigutwara amafaranga. Ibaze ubwawe, birakwiye gutamba umwana amarangamutima kuko udashaka kubitindaho cyangwa udashaka gukoresha amafaranga?
Nzi ko ibi bisa naho bikaze. Ariko ntabwo nabishyira hanze iyo ntabibona n'amaso yanjye.
Hanyuma, burigihe ubishyire mumashusho. Kuri iki gihe, kubwimpamvu imwe nimpano, shyira mumashusho. Ni abo mu muryango wawe; niyo byaba atari ibihe byose. Urashobora kwiyumvisha ipfunwe bari kumva bakumirwa?
Numuryango wawe kandi bagomba gufatwa nkabo.
Mubyukuri,
Kris