Shyigikira Serena van orman

Matelas, Marato, Inshingano - Kuberako inkuru yose ifite akamaro

Umwaka ushize, nayoboye marato ya Carmel ya kilometero 26.2 yitwaje matelas y'ibiro 15, ipima ibiro 88 gusa, kugirango nkusanye inkunga ya Firefly no kumenyekanisha abarokotse ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina.

Uyu mwaka, ndongeye kubikora. Nko mu isiganwa, buri ntambwe izana iterambere - imbaraga zose zo gushyigikira abarokotse bigira icyo bihindura, nubwo byaba bito. Ndiruka kwiyibutsa hamwe nabandi ko ibirometero byose bibarwa - kimwe ninkuru zose, amajwi, nigikorwa cyo gushyigikira abarokotse.

Guhitamo kwiruka hamwe na matelas byatewe nuko ishyaka ryabanyeshuri biga muri kaminuza ryamagana imyifatire ya kaminuza yo gufata ku ngufu ikigo cye. Umwaka w'amashuri wose, yatwaye matelas y'ibiro 50, bisa n'abari mu byumba bararamo, aho yagiye hose.

Ikigereranyo cyihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina ni ikintu kiremereye - gitwarwa iteka - cyakozwe kwiruka na matelas byumvikana cyane. Nabonye kandi intera ndende yiruka indorerwamo yo gukira ihahamuka: Nibyinshi byo kwibanda kumyuka yawe itaha nintambwe ikurikira no kwisunika imbere, nubwo umurongo wanyuma utagaragara.

Amateka yanjye n'ubutumwa

Nitwa Serena Van Orman. Kugeza ubu nigisha amasomo yimibonano mpuzabitsina ya muntu haba muri campus no kumurongo wa IU Indy. Nabaye umurezi kuva mu mwaka wa mbere w'amashuri yisumbuye, ubwo natangiraga no gukora ubuvugizi ku barokotse hamwe na Firefly Children na Family Alliance.

Nkumurezi, ndizera ko ingingo zigomba kwigishwa byimazeyo kandi muburyo bukoreshwa mubuzima busanzwe; bitabaye ibyo, ntabwo ari ingirakamaro. Uburezi bunoze bugomba kuba inyangamugayo no guhindurwa kuburambe. Iyo nigisha kubyerekeye ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina no kubyemera, ndashimangira ko ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina no gufata ku ngufu ari ibibazo bikomeye, biri kuri gahunda, kandi bikabije. Buri wese muri twe azi kandi yita ku muntu - bishoboka ko ari abantu benshi - barokotse, kabone niyo baba batabidutangarije.

Nkuko bigenda kuri umwe mubagore bane b’abanyeshuri barangije amashuri yisumbuye, ndokotse ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina. Nafashwe kungufu mugihembwe cya kabiri cyumwaka wa mbere wa kaminuza.

Rimwe na rimwe numva ntavuguruzanya kuburyo bwo kwerekana uburambe bwanjye. Byaba byoroshye gusangira ko, kimwe na 70% y'abakorewe ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina bahura n’ibibazo bitagereranywa kandi bikabije - umubare munini w’ibyaha by’urugomo - Nabanje kurwana nyuma y’ihungabana. Ariko, ntabwo narokotse gusa; Nateye imbere. Ubu, ndi umuvugizi w'abacitse ku icumu, nkora mu bisubizo by'ibitaro, nkora nka perezida w'inama y'abasore badaharanira inyungu, mu gihe nkurikirana PhD kandi nkora mu mashuri makuru.

Ariko gutegura inkuru yanjye murubu buryo ntabwo byuzuye kandi rwose ntabwo ari inyangamugayo.

Kwamburwa ubumuntu mu ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina biza mu buryo bubiri: ubanza, mu gitero ubwacyo, hanyuma mu cyaha kidahwema gikurikira. Mu kubazwa “Wari wambaye iki?” cyangwa kwibwira ko ugomba kuba wohereje ibimenyetso bivanze cyangwa uburyo runaka wabisabye. Uwahohotewe avuga ko uwahohotewe yagize uruhare muri icyo gitero kandi ko agomba gusangira inshingano, nubwo inshingano zireba gusa abafata ku ngufu n’umuco wo gufata ku ngufu. Kureba ibinyobwa byawe, gutwara pepper spray, no kwambara neza ntibibuza gufata kungufu. Mugihe ibyo bikorwa bishobora gukingirwa kurinda umuntu ubikora, bahindura ibyago undi muntu.

Muri rusange, abahohotewe bashinja bivuze ko ukwiye ibyakubayeho. Ntibitangaje kubona 33% y'abagore bafashwe kungufu batekereza kwiyahura na 13% y'abagore bafashwe kungufu bagerageza kwiyahura. Naguye muri iyo 13%.

Kurwanya agasuzuguro k'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe ni ikindi kibazo cyose, ariko ndashaka kuvuga ko kugerageza kwiyahura mfite imyaka cumi n'umunani bitari ubwikunde. Kwiyahura ntabwo ari kwikunda; akenshi ni ibisubizo byo kwiheba, ibimenyetso byanyuma byindwara nyinshi. Gusenyuka kwanyuma munsi yuburemere butihanganirwa. Ntabwo narumiwe gusa no kwiheba kuba mu isi aho abantu batekerezaga ko nkwiriye gufatwa kungufu; Nizeraga kandi ko niba ubuzima bwanjye bukwiye ibyo, ntacyo byatwaye. Natekereje ko ari ubuzima ntawabura.

Igihe kinini nyuma yo gufatwa kungufu, nizeraga ko byari kuba imbabazi iyo umuntu wamfashe kungufu yari amaze kunyica nyuma. Imyaka yakurikiyeho yaranzwe na PTSD ikabije nisoni zikabije kubyabaye, ibyo nagombaga gukora, cyangwa ibyo ntakoze. Nari narangije amashuri yisumbuye hejuru yishuri ryanjye mumyaka itatu, ariko byantwaye imyaka itanu nigice kugirango mbone impamyabumenyi yimyaka ine. Iri soni ryahindutse kwizera ko ntagomba gukorerwa ikintu cyabaye mu myaka yashize. Icyampa nkaba nari nzi ko "kwihangana" bidasobanura "kutagira ingaruka" kandi ko "ingaruka" bidasobanura "kurimbuka" - cyangwa "byasobanuwe na."

Tugomba guhagarika kubwira abantu uko bagomba kumva ibintu bitagomba na rimwe kubabaho. Ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina rirababaje. Ntugomba guterwa isoni no gukenera ubufasha. Ndagomba kuba hano uyumunsi ubufasha nahawe na serivisi zingenzi kubarokotse. Imfashanyo, amatsinda atera inkunga, ubujyanama, n'ubuvugizi. Ndagomba kuba hano uyumunsi kubantu batangaje mubuzima bwanjye bahoraga banyibutsa ko nkunda, nshoboye, kandi nkomeye. Ndi ibyo bintu byose - haba kurokoka ndetse no kubo ndicyo kirenze ibyo.

Inkunga ihindura byose. Abacitse ku icumu bakeneye kwizera, kandi Firefly ikemeza ko aribyo. Mugukangurira, gutanga, no kwerekana, twerekana ko ntamuntu ugomba kwikorera umutwaro wenyine. Ntabwo nshobora gushimira byimazeyo umuntu wese wigeze ashyigikira no gutanga umusanzu wanjye gukira kwanjye cyangwa uwarokotse. Ndashaka kurangiza dusangira ubutumwa bwiruka-buremereye bugereranya buriwarokotse:

Ko ndishimye cyane. Nubaha kandi mfata umwanya kububabare no kwiheba nzi ko hari igihe numva ari kwiruka ibirometero 5000 bitwaye matelas y'ibiro 500. Ariko umenye ko nanjye mfite ibyiringiro byo gukira kwawe. Ejo hazaza hawe hamwe nigihe kizaza cyo gutsinda. Kandi ibihe byibyishimo nibuka cyane hamwe nabakunzi. Kandi ibyo urimo byose, uri mwiza bihagije kandi ukwiye kubigeraho no kuba.

Gukira ntabwo ari umurongo. Kandi urashobora gukubita urukuta. Urashobora gukenera kugenda. Cyangwa wicare. Cyangwa kuryama umwanya muto, kandi nibyiza. Genda ku muvuduko wawe, ariko umenye ko utari wenyine. Ko niruka nawe. Kandi kuri wewe. Menya ko hari abantu nimiryango iboneka kugirango igufashe gukomeza. Kandi ibyo kuri kilometero ikurikira - kandi buriwese mbere no kurenga umurongo - hari byinshi cyane bikwiye kwiruka no kubaho.