Umwanditsi: Sara Blume; Umuvugizi warokotse
Wari uzi ko ingimbi ziri mubucuti bubi zishobora kwibabaza cyangwa kwihohotera? Bashobora kandi kwishora mumibanire mibi nkumuntu mukuru. Kongere yashyizeho Gashyantare nk'ukwezi gukangurira kurwanya ihohoterwa rishingiye ku rubyiruko mu mwaka wa 2010 kandi Imiryango irashaka kubanza kwita kuri iki kibazo cyiganje cyane. Nubwo buri gihe ari igihe cyiza cyo kuganira ningimbi kubyerekeye imibanire myiza, uku kwezi ni umwanya wo gutangiza ikiganiro kijyanye no gukundana n’ihohoterwa niba utarabikora.
Kurambagiza urugomo Irashobora kuba ihahamuka kandi iteje akaga ingimbi nkuko ihohoterwa rikorerwa mu ngo ribera abantu bakuru. Imyaka yabo y'ubuto ntabwo ibabuza ihohoterwa iryo ariryo ryose, ryaba umubiri, imitekerereze, amarangamutima, igitsina, cyangwa imari. Nkababyeyi, inshuti, abajyanama, nabawe, ni ngombwa kwegera no guha ingimbi umwanya uhagije wo gushyikirana. Kugira ikiganiro aho kwigisha abangavu birashobora kubafasha kumva ko ibitekerezo byabo bifite agaciro.
Bimwe mubintu byakemurwa kubyerekeranye numubano ni: umutekano wimbuga nkoranyambaga, gukoresha interineti, ingaruka z'icyaha by'ingimbi bakundana urugomo, uwo umwangavu ashobora kwitabaza inkunga, nibimenyetso byubuzima bwiza nubusabane butameze neza. Nubwo ingimbi mubuzima bwawe zidakundana, urashobora guhora ushyiraho urwego uvuga kuriyi ngingo ukurikije ubucuti bwabo.
Bumwe mu buryo bwo gutangiza ikiganiro nukubaza gusa icyo ingimbi iha agaciro mumibanire nicyo babona nkibimenyetso bizima cyangwa bitameze neza. Kurutonde hepfo nibisubizo bishoboka kuri buriwese ushobora gukoresha kugirango uhite uganira cyangwa byinshi byihariye. Kumva ibyo babona nkurugero rwibi bintu birashobora gufungura amahirwe kumutwe winyongera.
Ibimenyetso byubuzima bwiza: itumanaho rifunguye, kubahana hagati yabo (harimo nuburyo undi amara umwanya, yubaha ibikorwa byo hanze nkakazi cyangwa siporo, kubaha indangagaciro zabandi nkidini cyangwa ishuri), ibyiringiro bifatika kandi bizima kubyerekeye umubano, kwizerana gukomeye, kumva umutekano kandi wemewe, imipaka nzima, kwishimira umwanya utandukanye, kutumvikana neza, kumva kumva ko uri umwe, kwinezeza hamwe no gutandukana, igihe cyiza hamwe.
Ibimenyetso bitameze neza: gutandukanya mugenzi wawe ninshuti na / cyangwa umuryango, gukoresha amafaranga mugucunga cyangwa kwicira urubanza, ishyari ridafite ishingiro kandi / cyangwa ishyari rikaze, kubeshya ku gahato, kwirengagiza cyangwa kubireka, kwanga kuvugana, guhamagara izina, ingendo zicyaha, iterabwoba kuriwe cyangwa mugenzi wawe, manipulation , ukoresheje imbaraga z'umubiri cyangwa ihohoterwa, guhora ushira hasi, kunegura, cyangwa ipfunwe.
Ingimbi zikwiye umubano utekanye, wuje urukundo nkuko abantu bakuru babikora. Bamwe muribo bashobora gukenera ubufasha kubimenya, kandi niho umuntu wizewe mubuzima bwabo ashobora kugira ingaruka. Kumenya byinshi kubyerekeranye no gukundana ningimbi cyangwa uburyo bwo kwishora ingimbi muriyi ngingo umva igice cya Family Table Podcast igice "Kurambagiza Urubyiruko: Ibyiza, Ibibi, na mubi."
Dore urutonde rwinyongera hamwe nibikoresho:
https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/talk-teens-teen-dating-violence/
https://www.loveisrespect.org/
https://www.breakthecycle.org/
Urashobora kandi kubona Uburyo bwo Kumenya no Kwivanga mu Ihohoterwa Ry'Abangavu hano.