Abavandimwe bakwiye guhora bashyizwe hamwe?

Nibyiza, igisubizo cyiki kibazo ni "wenda… biterwa"… kuko hariho ibihe bitandukanye bifasha kumenya niba abavandimwe bagomba / bashobora gushyirwa hamwe murugo. Kubwamahirwe, biraza niba hari urugo rurera rufite ubushake kandi rushobora kwakira abavandimwe bose. Rimwe na rimwe, iseti ni ebyiri. Ariko, ikindi gihe iseti ni abana benshi cyane… kandi ayo matsinda y'abavandimwe biragoye gukomeza kuba mwiza.

Rimwe na rimwe, ntabwo ari byiza ko abavandimwe baguma hamwe murugo. Bitewe no guhohoterwa cyangwa kwirengagiza bahuye nabyo, barashobora gutangwa neza nibatandukana. Nibura igihe runaka, nkuko bakora kugirango bagire ubuzima bwiza mumarangamutima kandi bashoboye kubana.

Noneho sinzi ibyimbere nibisohoka byambere; icyakora, nzi ko itsinda ryabavandimwe bane ryacitsemo ibice 2 bya 2. Nkuko nabisobanukiwe, ni ukubera ko amaseti manini bigoye gushyira hamwe kuko amazu menshi arera adafite icyumba nkicyo. Ariko, ndibuka ko numvise mbabaye muri kiriya gihe (ndetse n'ubu ndacyabikora nkuko mbitekereza) ko bose badashobora kuguma hamwe. Ariko, twari dufite umwanya wa babiri gusa.

Noneho, nzi ko abana batongana kandi bagatongana na barumuna babo; rimwe na rimwe kugeza aho bavuga ko badakundana. Ariko, ndizera igice kinini, ibyo ntabwo arukuri. Kandi kubana bava ahantu habi, bakuwe mubintu byose bamenye, nizera ko bashobora gutandukanya ibyo batandukanije, mugihe bashoboye kubana. Ntibashobora guhora babanye, ariko gusa kumenyera umuvandimwe bigomba kuzana urwego runaka rwo guhumurizwa. Abavandimwe akenshi nigice cyumutekano buriwese yasize.

Igitekerezo cya nyuma cyo gukomeza kubana bavukana: aba bana bamaze guhura nihungabana rihagije biturutse ku ihohoterwa no kutitabwaho byatumye bakurwa mu muryango wabo. Gukuraho ubwabyo birababaje. Gutandukana n'abavandimwe nubundi ihahamuka. Tutibagiwe n'ubwoba abana bamwe bashobora kuba bafite kubibera barumuna babo murundi rugo. Kurugero, mama wamureraga inshuti yanjye yambwiye inkuru yimwe mubo yari yarashyize mbere yakanguka nijoro akagira inzozi mbi kuri mushiki we wahohotewe numuryango we wamureze. Yararize igihe cyose batandukana nyuma yo gusurwa. Byari bibi cyane ku mwana ndetse n'ababyeyi bamurera.

Niba rero tuvuze ko turi "kubana" noneho dukwiye gukora ibishoboka byose, niba ari inyungu zabo, kugirango tubakomeze.

Mubyukuri,

Kris