Ati: “Ntabwo nshobora kuba umubyeyi urera kuko ababyeyi barera bagomba gushyingirwa.”
Iki nikindi gitekerezo kitari ukuri abantu rimwe na rimwe bambwira.
Kandi ntakintu kinini nkeneye kuvuga kuri ibi usibye ko atari ko bimeze. Indiana ntisaba ababyeyi barera kurongorwa.
Birumvikana ko barashobora kurongorwa, ariko barashobora no kuba abantu bonyine, cyangwa barashobora kubana numukunzi… bumwe murubwo buryo burashobora kuba bwiza kubabyeyi barera. (Twigeze no kubona amakipe “nyina / umukobwa” ahabwa uruhushya hamwe… cyangwa nkuko abana babita “mama / nyirakuru”.)
Gusa icyangombwa nuko abarera / kurera hamwe Bombi bagomba kunyura mubikorwa (kanda hano kugirango ubone ibisobanuro byose). Kudashyingiranwa ntibisobanura ko umwe gusa mubantu bafitanye isano agomba kunyura mubikorwa byimpushya.
Ikintu kimwe nifuza kongeraho, ariko ntabwo byanze bikunze byerekeranye no kumenya niba umubyeyi urera yarubatse cyangwa atarashyingiwe, nuko utitaye kumiterere yumubano wawe, ugomba kwemeza ko ufite umuryango ugutera inkunga hafi yawe.
Kurera birashobora rimwe na rimwe kuba ingorabahizi bityo rero ugomba kumenya neza ko inshuti zawe n'umuryango wawe bari mubufasha bwabo. Niba kandi atari byo, urashobora kubona ubufasha butangaje binyuze mumashyirahamwe.
Biro y'abana, nk'urugero, ni byiza cyane guhuza ababyeyi barera… byombi kugirango baruhukire, ariko kandi no gufashanya amarangamutima. Nkuko inshuti zawe nimiryango yawe bashobora kugutera inkunga, gusa abantu bari mubwato bumwe (bita abandi babyeyi barera) bazumva neza ibyo uhura nabyo kandi bazi neza uburyo bagutera inkunga.
Byongeye kandi, hariho amatsinda menshi yo gushyigikira kumurongo aboneka… yaba leta cyangwa ayigenga… kugirango agufashe kugendana no kurera… utitaye kumibereho yawe. Bikunze kuboneka byoroshye binyuze mubushakashatsi bwihuse kumurongo.
Ndizera rero ko ibyo bifasha gukuraho imyumvire itari yo ushobora kuba ufite, cyangwa ko bitakiri urwitwazo rwakubuzaga gusimbuka ngo ubone uruhushya rwo kurera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris