Hano rero hari ikintu… akenshi abantu batekereza ko abana barera badashobora kwitabira urukundo cyangwa urukundo. Abantu benshi batekereza "ntibashobora guhinduka" cyangwa ko "ibyangiritse" bihoraho.
Kandi ndi hano kugirango nkubwire ibyo ntabwo byanze bikunze ari ukuri. Abana bahuye nihungabana barashobora kuza gukira cyane…. Cyane cyane iyo ukoresheje ikintu bita TBRI (Kwizera gushingiye kubufatanye).
Noneho ubwo numvise bwa mbere kuri ubu buryo, nzemera ko nari mfite amakenga (ok rwose). Byumvikanye nkuburyo bumwe bwo kubura, namby-pamby, gutanga-mubintu-byose-kurera kandi nta kuntu nari kubikora. Mubitekerezo byanjye, abana bagomba kumvira kuko burya ubuzima bukora no guta ikintu kinini mubintu nko guhurira mumwanya wimodoka gusa ntabwo byari byemewe murugo rwanjye. Burigihe.
Nkuruhande, biragaragara, ntabwo nigeze mbyara ihungabana bitabaye ibyo sinari kugira ibyo bitekerezo bisekeje…
Ariko kutizera TBRI byahise ndyama kuryama nkimara kubona amashusho yacyo akoreshwa nabana nyabo baturutse ahantu hakomeye, ndumirwa. . .
Ibyo ari byo byose, aya mashusho ya TBRI mubikorwa yaranyemeje ibintu byinshi nari nsanzwe nzi ariko sinari nzi uburyo bwo guhinduka. Nari nzi ko umuhungu wanjye adashaka gukora muburyo yakoze cyangwa guhitamo bimwe yahisemo. Nta mwana wabikora. Ninde wifuza guturika ku gitonyanga cy'ingofero hejuru yikintu gisa nkicyoroshye? Ninde wakwifuza guhora mubihe byo kuzamuka kandi atumva impamvu? Ntabwo aribyo gusa, utazi kubivamo? Yashakaga kuba umwana "usanzwe"… kandi biragaragara ko twifuzaga ko nawe.
Ndashimira cyane Biro ishinzwe abana kutumenyesha TBRI, kuko yabaye nini mubuzima bwumwana wacu ndetse nimiryango yacu yose. Ntabwo duhari rwose mubijyanye na "bisanzwe", ariko rwose turi munzira. Ibyo byavuzwe, Nkeneye ko umenya ko TBRI ari inzira kandi itazazana ibisubizo nijoro; ahubgo ni impinduka muburyo bwo kurera, kuruta ibindi byose, kandi binyuze muri ibyo, umwana yumva afite umutekano, umutekano kandi ufatanije bihagije kugirango atangire gukira. Ndetse na n'ubu, gukira ntibizabaho kandi birashobora gufata igihe, ukurikije ibyo umwana yiboneye.
Ariko TBRI ni iki, ushobora kwibaza. Mubisobanuro bigufi cyane, ikoresha amahame atatu yingenzi nkishingiro ryayo:
- Guha imbaraga Amahame yo gukemura ibibazo byumubiri byumwana,
- Guhuza Amahame kubyo umwana akeneye, kandi
- Gukosora Amahame yo kwambura umwana imyitwarire ishingiye ku bwoba.
Ariko, intego nyamukuru ni uguhuza umwana. Mu gusubiramo Karyn Purvis (umwe mu baremye TBRI), ati: "Iyo uhuza umutima wumwana, byose birashoboka."
Nyamuneka umenye ko bidakoreshwa gusa kubana barera cyangwa barezwe… birashobora gukoreshwa numwana uwo ari we wese mubihe byose. Nakunze kuvuga ko aribwo buryo bwiza kubabyeyi kuburyo nifuza ko nabimenyeshwa mbere yo kubyara abahungu banjye babiri babyaranye. Amahugurwa yagirira akamaro umuntu wese ukorana nabana kurwego urwo arirwo rwose.
Kandi ingingo ya nyuma yerekeye TBRI: yego, abana barerwa BATURUKA ahantu hakomeye kandi nubwo ubwonko bwabo bwubwonko bushobora kuba "buke" mugihe bageze kumuryango wawe, bakoresheje TBRI kugirango bafashe urukundo no kubarera birashobora kubafasha kuba hafi verisiyo yumwana bari bagenewe kuba. Cyangwa nkuko nkunda kuvuga "Umwana nyawe".
Mubyukuri,
Kris