Numvise rero ikiganiro vuba aha nasanze gitangaje kandi nshaka kubagezaho amakuru ye. Ntabwo arikintu cyose nazanye; iki nicyo gikorwa cye, ndashaka rero gusobanuka neza kubyo.
Mugihe yari murugendo rwe rwo kurera, yarabimenye, kandi nawe ushobora kuba ufite kuko rwose narimfite, mubyukuri nta makuru menshi ahari hano ku bitotsi byamenyeshejwe ihahamuka. Benshi muritwe tumenyereye kwizerwa gushingiye kubufatanye, no kumenyeshwa ihahamuka ryo gusezerana kumanywa. Ariko iyo ugeze ku musozo wumunsi, cyangwa mu gicuku, ukaba unaniwe, Biragoye kuzirikana amahame yawe ya TBRI.
Ku muhungu wacu, igihe yazaga kubana natwe bwa mbere, yararyamye nta kibazo. Nashoboraga kumushira hasi cyane akabona gusinzira wenyine. Ntabwo rwose yagombaga kwikuramo, ntabwo yarize cyangwa ngo atere ubwoba. Yafashe pacifier ye araryama.
Noneho, sinzi neza icyahindutse, cyangwa niba byaratewe nuko twahujije kumanywa mugihe yari akangutse. Nzaba inyangamugayo: Namufashe cyane, nitaye kurira, nibindi (Mumuhe ibyo akeneye kugirango ahuze). Cyangwa niba ari uko yateje imbere kwimenyekanisha, nkuko abana babikora, ariko igihe kimwe ntiyari agishoboye kwisinzira ngo asinzire. Igihe cya Nap muri rusange ntabwo cyari ikibazo, ariko igihe cyo kuryama cyari urugamba rwose.
Nasanze ngomba kuryama hasi hejuru yamasaha abiri nijoro kugirango asinzire. Yagumye mu kabati kugeza afite imyaka ine, irashaje rwose kuba ikiri mu gitanda, ariko yasaga nkaho ayikunda. Ntiyagerageje gusohoka. Mugitondo, yaradusakuzaga gusa agategereza ko tuza kumushaka. Ariko nari nzi kandi niba atisinziriye wenyine, azababara kandi arakaye mu gitanda kandi mfite ubwoba ko azababara. Ntabwo gusa twatekereje ko kwimukira muburiri busanzwe bigiye no gufasha ibintu.
Noneho nkuko ushobora kubyibuka mubyabanjirije, yaje iwacu afite amezi atatu. We rero, kimwe na kiddo benshi baza kwitabwaho, ashobora kuba yarabaye ibintu byababayeho nijoro basinziriye. Cyangwa birashoboka ko yari afite ubwoba bwumwijima, nkuko abana benshi babikora. Nkurikije imyitozo narebye, Allison Ezell (Nzashyiramo umurongo wurubuga rwe hepfo) avuga kubyerekeranye nuko mugihe cyo gusinzira ari gutandukana byoroshye kubana… nkuko bimeze kubana bose, ariko cyane cyane kubarera. Niba kandi baragize ihungabana nijoro, byumvikane ko barwanira kujya kuryama, cyangwa gusinzira, kabone niyo baba bari mubidukikije bifite umutekano.
Nkuko twese tubizi, kubwira umwana bafite umutekano kandi nabo ibyiyumvo umutekano urashobora kuba ibintu bibiri bitandukanye cyane. Ikintu cya mbere rero Allison avuga gukora nukurwanya ubwoba bwigihe cyijoro hamwe na connection. Inama atanga zirimo kongeramo igihe cyo gukina mubikorwa byawe byo kuryama. Yatanze igitekerezo cyo gukina umukino w'amakarita cyangwa umukino w'ikibaho cyangwa ikindi kintu gituje kandi gituje, aho uryamye, mu cyumba cy'umwana. Cyangwa birashobora kuba ari gusoma igitabo cyangwa kugira ibishushanyo by'inyuma - ibintu nkibyo. Kandi ibyo bisa nkibitangaje kandi bihuza.
Nzatanga ibiceri byanjye bibiri hano bidatuje neza ariko hano ni: kimwe mubintu dukora hafi buri joro hamwe numuhungu wacu, kandi afite imyaka 11, ni umukino muto wo kurwana mbere yuko turyama tugasoma kandi tugasoma inyuma. Igice cyibyo bisohora gusa wiggles, ariko kandi bimuha ibyumviro byinjira hamwe no guhuza binyuze kumubiri. Biragaragara ko ibyo bitazaba ibyo buri mwana akeneye; ntibashobora kwifuza gukorwaho na gato, bityo rero kuba umuhanga kumwana wawe, uzamenya ibizabakorera neza. Kandi biragaragara niba ari ahantu hashya ushobora kutamenya ako kanya; birashobora kugutwara gato kugirango umenye ibikorwa cyangwa ibikorwa bimukwiriye. Ndakubwira gusa icyadukorera ni akantu gato ko kugenda ingufu nyinshi mbere.
Noneho ati koresha uburyo runaka bwo gutandukana cyangwa ikintu cyumutekano kugirango ufashe guhuza. Ndetse no gutuma umwana acana nijoro cyangwa imashini yera y urusaku cyangwa ikindi aricyo cyose bakeneye, ubahe izo mbaraga no kugenzura umwanya wabo.
Ibikurikira avuga nukurera mugihe cyo kuryama, ariko kandi agatanga imiterere. Komera kuri gahunda kuko umwana azakora byinshi byiza niba azi icyo ategereje kuri gahunda. Ndashobora guhamya ko ibyo ari ukuri rwose. Niba tuvuye mubyanditswe muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose, mubisanzwe bivuze ko igihe cyo kuryama ari byinshi cyane. Agera kure kugirango atange gahunda igaragara ibereka neza ibizakurikiraho.
Ikintu cya gatatu avuga nukwumva, nkumubyeyi, urufatiro rwibanze rwo gusinzira. Ndetse ashishikariza ababyeyi barera, bashobora kuba bafite abana b'imyaka itandukanye binjira cyangwa basohoka mu rugo, kwigira urupapuro rwabigenewe kugira ngo ugumane mu cyumba cyo kuryama cyangwa muri koridoro kugira ngo umenye neza ko uhuza rwose n’ibitotsi umwana ashobora gukenera. Uru rupapuro rwibeshya rwaba rurimo ibintu nka Windows ikangutse, ibitotsi byinshi umwana akenera kumyaka, ubwinshi bwibitotsi umwana akeneye, ukwezi gusinzira, kurya / gukina / gusinzira, kwitoza gusinzira wenyine, no gusobanukirwa no kuryama hamwe no gusinzira.
Ngiye gusimbukira hano isegonda. Nzi ko ari umuhanga, ariko nkuko nabivuze hejuru, uri umuhanga ku mwana wawe, kuko ndi umuhanga kuri njye. Kandi rero nubwo afite hafi imyaka 11, hari nijoro aho ndara mucyumba cye kugeza igihe asinziriye. Mubisanzwe, nibwo arushye rwose, hanyuma arasinzira mbere yuko ngenda, ariko nyuma yigihe cyo guhuza, n'amatara arazima, ndavuga isengesho numugisha, ibyo nzi ko bitaba kubantu bose, ariko biri mubikorwa byacu rero ndabivuga hano, noneho dushobora kuganira wenda iminota itanu, niba ashishikajwe no kuganira, mubisanzwe ndamureka akabigiramo.
Noneho nzahaguma bitarenze iminota 10 uko atuye kandi neza. Inshuro nyinshi, aracyari maso iyo mvuye mucyumba maze akisinzira. Ariko kuri ubu, yumva ko ankeneye hariya gato. Cyangwa se. Cyangwa mukuru we. (Ariko reka tuvugishe ukuri..ni njye ahanini). Noneho arisinzira wenyine? Igihe kinini. Turacyari mucyiciro cyinzibacyuho? Yego. Turacyakora imyitozo yo gusinzira twigenga? Yego. Kuberako dufite ibyiringiro, kimwe na we, umunsi umwe azatangiza, kandi bizaba bitoroshye niba tugomba kujya iwe buri joro kugirango tumufashe gusinzira lol.
Kubatabizi neza, ibyo byari urwenya, kuko tuzi ko tutazagira umuntu mukuru, ubaho wigenga, ukeneye umuntu wicara iruhande rwe kugirango asinzire buri joro. Ariko hari iminsi bisa nkaho wenda aribyo bizashoboka. Ntabwo rwose tubyizera, ariko ntitwizeraga ko twagira umwana wimyaka 10 1/2 aracyakeneye ko tubaho igihe gito cyane kuruta uko byari bisanzwe mugihe cyo kuryama.
Noneho subira kumwuga: Igikurikira avuga ni uguhungabanya ibitotsi. Hariho ibintu bine by'ingenzi aganira. Ubwa mbere ubwoba bwijoro, busa nkumwana arimo akora inzozi zubwoko runaka, ariko zirasinziriye rwose. Ntibazibuka ibyabaye bukeye bwaho, iyo rero nkumubyeyi wunvise bibaho, uremeza neza ko umwana afite umutekano. Himura ibintu muburyo bwabo, ntukemere gukora ikintu kidafite umutekano, nibindi.
Ubwoko bwa kabiri bwo guhagarika ibitotsi ninzozi mbi, kandi birashobora kuba urugomo cyane kandi biguhungabanya. Umwana azibuka ibyo, nkuko bibaho mubitotsi bya REM, bikora cyane gusinzira no kurota. Ku rundi ruhande, ubwoba bwa nijoro, buri mu ntangiriro zo gusinzira mbere yuko umwana asinzira cyane. Ihungabana rya gatatu ryo gusinzira ni ukuryama - kandi na none, barasinziriye cyane, intego rero kuri wewe ni ukubungabunga umutekano wabo, kubayobora mu buriri bwabo, kandi ntibazabyibuka mu gitondo. Icya kane ni ukuvuga ibitotsi, nabyo ntibizibukwa, kandi kubwinshi ntacyo bitwaye. Nubwo umwana avuza induru, cyangwa avuga ibintu bifitanye isano muri rusange, ibyo bigomba kuvugwa na muganga.
Noneho ikintu cya nyuma yavuze kugirango gifashe ubwonko bwumwana kwitegura gusinzira ni ukureba ibidukikije; harimo ihumure cyangwa ibintu bifasha. Ibi birashobora kubamo, ariko ntibigarukira gusa: ikiringiti kiremereye, imashini y urusaku, amavuta yo kwisiga adasanzwe / impumuro nziza, amatara yijoro. Ikintu kimwe twakoresha kugiti cyacu kuri ibyo bintu byose ni abafana. Muri rusange umuhungu wacu arasinzira cyane. Kandi muri rusange, hafi buri gihe ashyushye kuburyo dufite abafana babiri mubyumba bye. Afite kandi urupapuro rwo guhunika ku buriri bwe. Ibyo ushobora kuba utekereza bimutera gushyuha ariko igitangaje ntabwo bisa nkaho bihindura byinshi. .
Byongeye kandi, dutanga melatonin, ibyo sinkunda, ariko yamubereye impinduka mumikino. By'umwihariko, dukoresha ibintu bibiri bya melatonine, itanga bimwe ako kanya, kandi ibisigaye byo kunywa bitangwa ijoro ryose kugirango akomeze gusinzira. Kandi afata magnesium gummy, nayo ifasha gushyigikira ibitotsi kandi ifasha gutonda umurongo umubiri ko igihe cyo kuruhuka.
Kurangiza, ibindi bitekerezo bike atanga ni ubwogero bwa nijoro, umwenda wijimye mucyumba cyo kuryama, natwe dufite ibyo, kandi ukomeza gucana amatara nyuma yumwijima. Ibyo biroroshye kuvuga kuruta gukora mugihe cyizuba kandi biracyacana saa kumi nijoro, ariko mugice cyiza cyumwaka, byaba byiza imyitozo.
Nzi ko ntari umuhanga hano ariko nashakaga gutanga ibindi bitekerezo kubintu twabonye bifasha; kugenda kuva amasaha 2 (cyangwa arenga) kugirango uryame, kugeza muminota mike (muri rusange) nitsinzi nini mubitekerezo byanjye!
Nkuko nabivuze, nta toni yamakuru kuri interineti cyangwa mubitabo bivuga ku ihahamuka ryamenyeshejwe ko umuntu asinziriye, ku buryo ku giti cyanjye nasanze ibi cyane n’umurabyo, kandi nizere ko nawe uzabikora. Nkuko nabivuze, aya ntabwo ari amakuru yanjye, ahubwo ni ayumwuga. Urubuga rwe, niba wifuza kureba byinshi mumakuru agomba gusangira, ni dwellpediatricsleep.com.
Mubyukuri,
Kris