Nkuko nabivuze mbere, turi urugo ruruhuka… ibi bivuze ko dutanga ikiruhuko (cyangwa ikiruhuko) kumazu yashyizwe hamwe nigihe kirekire. Turabizi ko kurera igihe cyose bishobora kurambirana, kandi rimwe na rimwe ababyeyi barera bakeneye kuruhuka. Kandi nibyo. Niyo mpamvu ikiruhuko kibaho… kugirango bashobore kuva kure gato kandi ntibabuze aho bashyirwa.
Abantu benshi ntibigeze bumva no kurera abana baruhutse, ariko ni igice cyingenzi muri sisitemu, kandi akenshi ni igice gishobora gufasha kugabanya imihangayiko no gukomeza gushyira ahantu hatuje. Mubyukuri, kuruhuka birashobora gukoreshwa kubwimpamvu zitandukanye, harimo ariko ntibigarukira gusa:
- urugo rurera ntirwemerewe (nkuko urukiko rubifata) gukuramo ikibanza hanze yigihugu;
- urugo rurera ntirushaka gufata umwanya wabo murugendo (haba muri leta cyangwa hanze);
- urugo rurera rukeneye gusa kuruhuka, kubwimpamvu runaka;
- hari ibyihutirwa murugo rurera kandi ababyeyi barera bakeneye kubyibandaho (ni ukuvuga Uburwayi cyangwa urupfu rwumubyeyi cyangwa uwo ukunda, uburwayi bwabo, ibindi byihutirwa mumuryango)
Nkuko ushobora kuba warakusanyije uhereye kumyandiko yabanjirije iyi, ntabwo twahisemo kuba inzu yuburuhukiro. Ariko, byahindutse inzira yumuryango wacu wo gukomeza guhuzwa no kurera no gutanga amaboko uko dushoboye. Twifuzaga gukomeza hamwe nigihe kirekire cyo gushira ariko ubungubu ntabwo aribyo dushobora gukora. Ariko gushyira mugihe gito (nko muminsi 1-3 mubisanzwe) bihuye na gahunda yacu? Turashobora kubikora rwose!
Kugirango bisobanutse, rimwe na rimwe kuruhuka birashobora kuba icyumweru cyangwa kirenga (kandi wamenya igihe cyagenwe mbere yigihe… ni gake, niba harigihe, ikintu kiri mumazi); uburebure nyabwo bwigihe bizaterwa nibikenewe murugo rurera kurukoresha.
Ntabwo ngiye gukubita igihuru: amazu yo kuruhuka arakenewe cyane. Niba rero uri mushya kuba umubyeyi urera cyangwa ukaba utazi neza ko uzashobora gufata umwanya muremure, ndagutera inkunga yo gutekereza kuba urugo rutuje. Gukora ikiruhuko kugirango ibirenge byawe bitose birashobora kuguha uburyo bwabana batandukanye bafite ibibazo bitandukanye hamwe nimyaka (cyangwa umubare mumatsinda y'abavandimwe) kugirango umenye ubwoko bwabana bushobora guhura neza nimbaraga zumuryango wawe.
Ariko kubera ko kuba urugo rwikiruhuko bisaba impapuro nisaha imwe yo guhugura nkigihe cyo kumara igihe kirekire, ababyeyi barera baruhuka nabo barashobora "kurera igihe cyose" niba amahirwe akwiye kwigaragaza. Kandi kubera ko bigenda munzira zombi, ingo zifata umwanya muremure ariko zishobora kuba hagati yabashyizwe akenshi zizemera kuruhuka, nkuburyo bwo gukomeza kubigiramo uruhare; icyakora haribisabwa nkamazu arera muri rusange, amahirwe yo kubona inzu irera "ubusa" biragoye kubibona. Kenshi na kenshi, ni amazu afite umwanya wigihe cyose nabo bakora ikiruhuko icyarimwe.
Byiringiro bikuraho ukutumvikana kwose, cyangwa birashoboka kuguha imbaraga ukeneye kugirango ukurikirane uruhushya rwo kurera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris