Iyo umwana yinjiye munzu irera, yaba iyimurwa ryambere cyangwa ataribyo, buri rugo rurererwa ruzaba rutandukanye… hagati yabo ndetse no murugo bakomokamo… kuburyo bazakenera umunota kugirango bamenyere kuriyi “ ubuzima bushya ”.
Ntabwo nshaka kuvuga gusa ibintu bigaragara, ariko reka tubitekerezeho: niki wakenera kumenya niba wakuwe munzu yawe ukazana ahantu hashya kubantu utigeze uhura kandi ufite bike (cyangwa ntanumwe) wawe? ibintu bwite.
Kwimuka, niyo byateganijwe, biragoye bihagije. Kandi iyo ibintu bibitswe ahantu hatandukanye (nkuko bishoboka ko byaba bimeze), birashobora kumva bitaguhangayikishije cyane. Mugihe twimukiye kugwa gushize, byukuri byafashe ibyumweru mbere yuko umuhungu wanjye wo hagati (ufite imyaka 20 by the way) yibuka aho igitambaro cyari mugikoni gishya. Iyumvire rero ukuntu bidashoboka niba udateguye kwimuka kandi mu buryo butunguranye byabaye ngombwa ko wibuka imiterere mishya yinzu ushobora cyangwa udashaka no kuyinjiramo.
Niba rero ari njye, nashaka kumenya iki? Nibyiza, kubwanjye kubwanjye, birashoboka ko nifuza kumenya aho ubwiherero buri n'aho frigo iri (cyangwa byibuze ibirahuri hamwe nigikoni cyo mu gikoni) mugihe nagize inyota.
Biragaragara ko ugiye kujyana umwana muruzinduko rwinzu, ariko wagaragaza ibintu nkibi… usibye aho bagiye kuryama nuburyo byegereye ubwiherero, naho icyumba cyawe kiri hafi yababo mugihe bagukeneye mu gicuku.
Ibikurikira: gupakurura. Niba hari ikintu bazanye nabo ukaba waberetse mucyumba cyabo, uri munzira zitandukanye, ariko zirashobora kugufasha kukuyobora. Numwanya wawe wo kwerekana ubushake bwawe bwo gufasha no guhuza mugutanga ubufasha bwo gupakurura cyangwa kubemerera amahirwe yo kubikora bonyine. Igisubizo kizatandukana kumwana kumwana, birumvikana, kuko buri mwana aratandukanye kandi rimwe na rimwe ntanumwe wabwira icyo azakora.
Inama imwe yumuntu utarafashe neza iki gipakurura neza aho yashyizwe bwa mbere: nubwo ibintu umwana yazanye bisa cyangwa binuka umwanda, ntukemere koza ako kanya. Impumuro runaka irashobora kugera kure muguhumuriza umwana… kuburyo niyo haba hari ikintu kitaguhumuriza, kumwana gishobora kunuka nkurugo / ababyeyi babyaranye / abavandimwe bashobora gutandukana / nibindi. Kandi gukaraba bizakuraho ayo mahirwe kugirango umwana ahumurizwe.
Ibikoko bitungwa: nahandi hantu twahuhiye kumwanya wambere. Icyo gihe, twari dufite imbwa. Yari afite ibiro 15 kandi yari inshuti cyane, ariko ntabwo twakoraga neza imyitozo kuburyo yasimbutse abantu binjiye munzu (nta rubanza ndakwinginze!). Nibyiza, abakobwa badushyize hamwe bamusuzuguye, kuko yadusanze kumuryango twinjiye.
Dushubije amaso inyuma, twabonye ko ibyo byose byari birenze abakobwa kandi guhubuka imbwa idasanzwe ntibyari bifasha. Ikindi kandi ntitwari tuzi amateka yabo hamwe nimbwa: imbwa zari zisanzwe hafi cyangwa mbere zaragaragaye nini, zifasi, zikaze, nibindi? Niba aribyo, byumvikane ko batinyaga umupira wacu.
Igitekerezo cyanjye mvuga ibi byose nuko nabashishikariza kureka inyamanswa zose zishira kure kugeza umwana afite amahirwe yo kumenyera gato. Nimpinduka nini kandi nubwo inyamanswa ishobora kurangira ivura urwego runaka kubana, ntukeneye kumuhishurira inyamaswa ako kanya.
Ibikurikira: kugira ubwoko bumwe bwa fidget cyangwa inyamaswa nshya zuzuye cyangwa igitambaro kumwana birashobora kugenda inzira ndende. Nubwo umwana adafite impungenge zidakira, azarushaho kugira ayo masaha / iminsi / ibyumweru. Kugira ikintu gifasha guhora amaboko yabo ahuze, cyane cyane mugihe cyo kuryama mugihe ibitekerezo bishobora gutangira kuzunguruka, birashobora kugera kure mugufasha gutuza ubwonko buhangayitse.
Ikigeretse kuri ibyo, kugira ibintu bisanzwe kandi bisanzwe mbere yo kwereka umwana ikintu cyose "kinini" birashobora gufasha koroshya inzibacyuho. Hano rero hari ukundi kwatura kwukuri (urumva ko tutakoze neza hamwe nimyanya yacu ya mbere? Ndizera ko ushobora kwigira kumakosa yacu kuri ibi byose!). Twebwe amashuri yo murugo hamwe Nijoro rimwe abakobwa binjiye murugo rwacu, koperative yacu yo murugo iwacu iyaba yarangije gahunda yumwaka nibirori. Turabatwara! Ugh… biragoye gutekereza kuri ubu. Muri kiriya gihe, ntitwifuzaga ko hagira n'umwe muri twe ubura, ariko urebye neza (biragaragara) umwe mu babyeyi yari akwiye kuguma iwe.
Ingingo ni: reka bamenyere inzu n'umuryango wawe (byibuze gato) mbere yo gukora ikintu nkicyo; amasaha abiri ntabwo arigihe gihagije. Tutiriwe tujya muburyo burambuye, reka mvuge ibi: ibintu byose tumaze gutaha muri ibyo birori na gahunda birashoboka ko byari kugenda neza iyo twumvira iyi nama.
Ibiryo birashobora kuba ikindi gisitaza. Kuberako umuryango wawe urya ibintu bimwe cyangwa ukabirya muburyo runaka ntibigaragara, byemeza ko umuryango wa buriwese ubikora. Aho kugirango ubaze umwana icyo bakunda kurya, jyana nawe mubiribwa hanyuma ubareke bafashe gutoranya bimwe mubiryo bamenyereye. Cyangwa, ukurikije imyaka / ubushobozi bwubwenge, ubemerera gufasha gutegura amafunguro amwe. Ibiryo ni bike byo guhumuriza isi yose… kandi kurya hamwe hamwe birashobora gufasha guhuza. Ntabwo byari kuba byiza cyane (cyane cyane kumwana) niba ari ibiryo bakunda kandi mubyukuri babonye guhitamo?
Noneho biragaragara ko umuryango wanjye utigeze ukora neza ibi byose mubihe byashize, ariko umaze gukora amakosa, ndashobora kwizeza ko gukoresha zimwe muri izi nama n'amayeri byazamura cyane uburyo umwana atura murugo rushya. Ntabwo byemeza ko bizagenda neza (kuko nzakubwira nonaha ibyo bitigera bibaho), ariko birashobora kuba byiza cyane kuruta uko byari kugenda ukundi.
Ndakwinginze rero: wigire kumakosa yanjye kuko nshaka gufasha umuryango wawe numwana kugira byoroshye byinzibacyuho bishoboka.
Mubyukuri,
Kris