Imihango yo mu mpeshyi… Noneho ibi birashobora kuba byoroshye, kandi bikinguye kubisobanuro byinshi, cyane cyane niba ufite ibishya. Ariko niba uhujwe nibyo umwana wawe akunda, kandi ukagerageza, uko ushoboye kwose, birumvikana ko kuruhuka mugihe cyikiruhuko birashobora gutanga amahirwe yo gushimangira ubutwari, ikizere, ndetse no kongera isano nubusabane hagati abagize umuryango wawe.
Nibyo, hano hari ingando ningendo nibintu byose bigaragara ko aribwo buryo bwo guhuza ibyifuzo byumwana wawe kandi rwose ntabwo ndimo kugabanya ibyo aribyo byose! Ndi hano, nubwo, kugirango ngufashe gutekereza muburyo bumwe bushoboka butagaragara bwo gukora amasano mugihe ushobora kuba udafite imiterere yumwaka w'ishuri ngo ugaruke. Hano rero biragenda, muburyo butandukanye:
Birashoboka ko umwana wawe akunda gusinzira mugihe cyizuba, niba bidashoboka gukorwa burimunsi, emerera umwana umuhango wo kubikora buriwagatandatu mugitondo cyangwa ku cyumweru mugitondo. Bamenyeshe ko ugena icyo gihe buri cyumweru, uko ushoboye, kugirango ubemere ibyo byiza. Birashoboka ko atari ibintu byiza murugo rwawe, ariko byanze bikunze byari ibyanjye. Naryamye kugeza 7 vuba aha kandi hafi yanjye narwaye umutima mbonye isaha!
Birashoboka ko hari uburyo bunoze umwana wawe akunda, bityo rero ubigire ikintu ubona rimwe mukwezi mugihe cyizuba… nubwo icyi gisa nkigabanuka kandi kigufi hamwe na kalendari yishuri ndende, birashoboka rero rimwe mubyumweru niba bishoboka. Birashoboka ko hari iduka rya ice cream ryaho bakunda kuburyo wenda mubihe byizuba urabisura.
Cyangwa birashoboka ko hari ibikorwa umwana wawe yamye akora mumateka hamwe nimiryango yababyaye bityo, nubwo badashobora kubikora numuryango wabo wavutse, birashoboka ko ushobora gutanga amahirwe… ibi birashobora kujya muri parike iri hafi ya a picnic ku ya kane Nyakanga. Cyangwa kujya muri pisine. Cyangwa imurikagurisha rya Leta. Cyangwa parike runaka yibanze. Cyangwa firime. Urutonde ni ntarengwa.
Hariho kandi ibishoboka ko hariho igikorwa cyihariye cyimpeshyi umwana yamye yifuza gukora ariko ntabwo yigeze agira amahirwe. Noneho… kugirango ugere munzira ibanziriza inyandiko, ntabwo mvuze gukora ibi Disneyland-ubwoko bwibikorwa. Intego n'ibi ntabwo ari ukurenga cyangwa kwereka umwana, 'Hey reba icyo nshobora gutanga kugirango umuryango wawe wavutse udashobora! ” Intego ntabwo rwose ari uguteza amacakubiri hagati yumuryango wawe nimiryango yibinyabuzima; ingingo nugukora ihuriro numwana.
Ikintu nkiki gishobora gutegurwa ngo "Buri mpeshyi tugerageza igikorwa gishya ntamuntu numwe murugo wigeze akora mbere." Kandi hamwe nibyo, utanga amahirwe yo gufasha umwana kubona ko burigihe hariho amahirwe yo gukura no kwiga no kugira uburambe bushya. Kandi itera umuryango urera kimwe… birashoboka ko mwese mwagize uburambe butandukanye mubuzima bwawe, ariko ibi birashobora kuvana abantu bose mukarere kabo keza kandi bakumva uburyohe buto bwibyo umwana urera ashobora kuba afite.
Biragaragara, ntabwo nshaka kuvuga ko ibi bigomba kuba ikibazo kinini. Birashoboka ko igiye gutembera muri parike ya leta ntamuntu numwe wasuye. Cyangwa gufata amasomo yubuhanzi hamwe. Cyangwa kujya ziplining. Na none… hari amahirwe menshi kuriyi; birashobora gufata iminota mike yo kwicara hanyuma ukareba ibyo bishobora kuba aribyo, cyane cyane kuriyi myanya yihariye.
Ayandi mahirwe, cyane cyane, niba ari umwanya muremure, ukarenza imyaka, birashobora kuba ukwemerera umwana gutora ingando yicyumweru yifuza kujyamo… ahari biri mubyifuzo afite, cyangwa bifitanye isano n'imbaraga runaka zayo. Birashoboka ko ari agace ashaka kwiga amaze gukura. Cyangwa birashoboka ko ari ingando "yo kwinezeza" aho inshuti yabo magara igana, kandi bifuza kujyayo. Ntabwo bigomba kuba ijoro rimwe, gusinzira. Ingando yumunsi yegereye urugo ninzira nziza yo gutangira.
Ariko ibyo aribyo byose, nigitekerezo icyo ari cyo cyose ushizemo, byerekana umwana ko ubabona… ubitayeho, icyo bashishikajwe nuburyo bahujwe hamwe muburyo bwihariye hamwe ninyungu zimwe zishobora (cyangwa zishobora) ntabwo) gutandukana n'umuryango urera.
Bashobora kutabibona icyo gihe, ariko uzasobanukirwa cyane ko uhuza nabo muburyo bwerekana ko ubumva… nubwo utagomba byanze bikunze kwitabira ingando hamwe nabo. Ibi rero nibiryo bimwe byo gutekereza kubitekerezaho, mugihe icyi cyegereje. Ntabwo rwose bitinze kubona amwe mumahirwe yo guhuza kuri kalendari yawe mbere yuko impeshyi iguruka kandi abana bagaruka mwishuri kugwa gutaha!
Mubyukuri,
Kris