Iyi ngingo uyumunsi irashobora cyangwa ntigukurikire (nikintu gishobora kuvugwa kumutwe wanjye wose) ariko uyumunsi ndashaka kuvuga kubandi bana murugo rwawe.
None ndashaka kuvuga iki? Nibyiza, ndaje kuri ibi nkeka ko niba urera cyangwa wareze, hashobora kuba hari abana barenze umwe murugo rwawe KANDI hari byibuze kiddo imwe murugo rwawe ikeneye bike muri mwebwe. Ndatahura kandi ko bishoboka ko ari umwana ubyara ukeneye byinshi muri mwe. Niba murugo hari abana barenze umwe, ndimo gufata icyemezo ko bishoboka ko hatabaho kuringaniza umwanya wawe kuko byibuze umwana umwe akeneye kwitabwaho cyane.
Nibyo rwose mubyukuri murugo rwumuryango. Umuhererezi wacu, warezwe binyuze mu kurera, afite byinshi akeneye kandi bisaba ijanisha ryinshi ryigihe cyacu kuruta izindi ebyiri. Nibyo, abakuru bacu bamurusha imyaka 11 na 13 kandi ni bakuru muriki gihe.
Ibintu byose byashyizweho kugirango bivuge: Icyampa nkavuga ko nakoze akazi keza ko gufata inama ngiye gutanga, ariko mubyukuri sinigeze numva ko mfite margin icyo gihe. Birashoboka ko nabikoze, mvugishije ukuri, ariko sinabihisemo. Ntabwo nzi niba byarantekereje. Nari narumiwe cyane no kwita ku mwana udafite ubuvuzi ku buryo abandi bahungu basunitswe ku ruhande. Ubu, nubwo hashize imyaka myinshi arerwa, umuhungu wacu muto akomeje kudusaba byinshi… kimwe numuntu uwo ari we wese.
Igitekerezo cyanjye muri ibi byose kandi inkunga yanjye uyumunsi nukumarana umwanya nabandi bana bawe. Abadasa nkabasaba umwanya munini. Niba ari neurotypical kandi idaturutse ku ihahamuka, birashoboka ko bafashe umwanya winyuma muburyo bwinshi. Kandi kubera ko ari neurotypical, birashoboka ko batakubwiye byanze bikunze cyangwa ngo bakwereke ko bagukeneye.
Ariko rwose baracyagukeneye. Kandi birenze ibyo ushobora kubyizera.
Nkuko nabivuze mu nyandiko yabanjirije iyi, byose napfunyitse kuba umubyeyi urera kandi natakaje byinshi kuri iyo ndangamuntu. Kandi kimwe mubintu nzemera ko nasaga nkibagiwe igihe gito nuko nari umubyeyi ubyara kubana babiri batangaje bari bagikeneye. Kandi nubwo ubu bakuze, baracyankeneye. Biragaragara ko bisa nkaho ubu, ariko biracyakenewe kugaburira muri ubwo busabane, usibye umwana ufite ibyo akeneye byiyongera.
Kurugero, dukunda gukora ibintu hamwe nkumuryango (cyangwa hamwe na benshi muri twe bishoboka). Ariko umwe mu bahungu batashye muri kaminuza mu mpeshyi no kwitegura umwaka mukuru… kandi aherutse kuvumbura ko akunda gukora ibisubizo.
Noneho twakoraga ibisubizo rimwe na rimwe nk'umunsi w'ishuri ryacu ryo murugo akiri muto kandi yahoraga yitotomba… nuko njye (na we) nahoraga nibwira ko ibyo atari akajagari ke. Ariko duheruka gufata ikiruhuko kinini mumuryango mumezi abiri ashize kandi twagombaga kugira Wi-Fi mumazu twacumbitsemo, ariko ntitwigeze dushobora kuyihuza. Bakoze, ariko, bafite stash ya puzzles ahari, nuko twatangiye gukora puzzles mugihe cyubusa aho kureba kuri ecran. We na njye nitwe twabigizemo uruhare cyane kandi byarakomeje kuva twagaruka.
Kandi kuva twakoraga ibi hamwe, nasanze iki aricyo kintu cya mbere twigeze dukorana nta wundi muntu… twembi. Kandi ibyo birambabaza cyane kuburyo afite imyaka 21 kandi ubu twabimenye.
Ariko kuba yegamiye kuri ibi akansaba kumarana nawe umwanya wo gukora puzzle… ndetse akagera n'aho atugurira ibisubizo kugirango dukore… binyereka ko ashaka icyo gihe nanjye.
Ndakeka rero ko ibyo kuvuga byose utirengagije umubano wawe nabandi bana bawe, kabone niyo byaba ari byiza, cyangwa nubwo bisa nkaho batagukeneye. Baragukeneye kandi uhuze nawe. Bashobora no kutamenya uko bingana.
Mubyukuri,
Kris