Iyi nyandiko ishobora kuba ikujyanye cyangwa itakujyanye, ariko ndakeka ko ishobora kuba ikujyanye ku rwego runaka, bityo rero komeza usome!
Sinitaye ku gihe umaze urera umwana, ariko ndahamya ko hari igihe wigeze kwigereranya n'ubushobozi bwawe nk'umubyeyi urera abandi. Wenda wabikoze mu buryo bwiza, nko kuvuga uti “Wow, babyitwayemo nk'uko nanjye mbitekereza kandi reba ukuntu byagenze neza!”
Ariko niba uri nkanjye na gato, wigereranije mu buryo busuzuguritse kandi ntabwo wavuyemo wiyumva nk'aho uri mwiza. Dore urugero rwanjye nahaye umwanya munini mu mutwe wanjye: “Numva mfite ubusazi n'ihungabana, kandi ubuzima buragoye cyane mu rugo rwanjye… kandi mfite umwana umwe gusa wo mu kigo cyita ku bana. Indi miryango ibigenza ite?!?”
Ese ni byiza ko nigereranya n'abandi nk'aba? Ese nabwira undi muntu wambwiye ibyo ko afite ukuri ko atekereza atyo, cyangwa ko agomba kureka kwigereranya n'abandi?
Kugira ngo nsubize icyo kibazo, ndababwira gato ku mateka yacu mu bijyanye n’irerero. Ishuri rya mbere twahawe ryari abakobwa babiri, kandi byari byinshi cyane. Maze igihe kinini mbitekerezaho kandi numva ko iyo tuza kuba dufite umwe muri bo gusa, twari kuba twaratsinze. Niba warasomye inyandiko yanjye mu bihe byashize, usanzwe ubizi, ariko twagombaga guhagarika iryo shuri kuko ryari rirenze urugero.
Nyuma y'imyaka mike. Nyuma y'uko umuhungu wacu muto arezwe, twafashe indi myanya y'umwana uruhuka cyane kurusha abandi bose. Yari umuntu ukunda cyane ariko umuhungu wacu warezwe ntiyashoboraga kwihanganira kumubona. Byari byinshi cyane, bityo twimuriye iyo myanya myiza. Ndavuga ibi byose kuko, niba mvuga ukuri (kandi ni cyo waje hano, sibyo?), hashize imyaka 8 ibyo bibaye kandi NDACYEREKEYE imiryango minini ifite abana barezwe n'abarezwe maze nkibaza nti “Kuki ntashobora kubikora? Kuki ntashobora kubyitwaramo? Ni gute bafite uburyo bwinshi bwo kundusha?”
Ariko, mu rwego rwo kureka iyo gereranya ribi, narabitekerejeho kandi nizera ko ikigaragara ari uko ntazi inkuru yabo. Sinzi ibiri kuba mu ngo zabo. Sinzi uko abana babo bari bameze n'ubuhanga bakuyemo cyangwa bafite mbere. Sinzi ko buri wese atera imbere, sinzi uko abana be basuzuma indwara cyangwa ibibazo cyangwa ingorane, kandi mu by'ukuri, umwana wanjye ni umuntu ukomeye gusa. Kandi nzi neza ko atari buri wese urera abana be indwara nk'iyo mu rugo rwabo nkanjye.
Birumvikana ko sinzi neza, ariko mu by'ukuri hari igihe aba ameze nk'abana batanu; ikibazo cyo kudakora neza kigenda vuba kandi kenshi, ku buryo urugo rwose rwagenzurwa gusa iyo tugira abandi bana bakomoka mu turere dukomeye. Mu by'ukuri, nta bandi bana dufite bakomoka mu turere dukomeye ariko rimwe na rimwe urugo ruhura n'ikibazo cyo kudakora neza rimwe na rimwe ari we wenyine.
Rero ndavuga ibi byose kugira ngo nkubwire: ntukigereranye n'abandi babyeyi barera abana n'abarera abana. Kora ibyo ushoboye, kandi ukore uko ushoboye kose - nibyo byonyine ushobora gukora. Kugereranya ntacyo bikumariye. Bishobora kugusiga wumva ubabaye, ucitse intege, ucitse intege, utishimye, cyangwa utishimye (kandi nzi neza ko nabibonye byose). Ariko nta na kimwe muri ibyo cyagirira akamaro uwo ari we wese. Kandi ntabwo bizagufasha kuba umubyeyi mwiza w'abana.
Nubwo ubutumwa bwanjye ari bugufi uyu munsi, nifuzaga kubushyira ahagaragara mu gihe hari undi muntu uhanganye n'ikibazo cyo kugereranya. Nanone, ibi bishobora kuba ari amagambo asanzwe, ariko ndabivuga uko byagenda kose: niba uhangayikishijwe n'uko udakora ibintu neza, birashoboka ko mu by'ukuri ukora akazi keza ku bijyanye n'ihungabana witayeho buri munsi.
Mubyukuri,
Kris