Uruhare rumwe rwumubyeyi urera udakunze kuganirwaho ni urwa "umurinzi w'inkuru". Kandi icyo nshaka kuvuga nukuvuga ko nkumubyeyi urera, ushinzwe kubungabunga no gufata inkuru yumwana washinzwe kukurera…
NIKI kintu kinini kijyanye ninkuru iri inyuma yukuntu n'impamvu umwana wawe yaje kubana nawe? Kuki umubyeyi urera agomba “kubifata”? Nibyiza, ubanza, kandi utinyuke kuvuga cyane cyane, iyo nkuru ni iyumwana.
Birumvikana, nkumubyeyi urera (kandi birashoboka ko umubyeyi urera), winjiye muri iyo nkuru kandi ufite uruhare rwawe muri yo. Ariko icyo mvuga cyane cyane nibintu byose byabaye mbere yibyo, ibyabaye byose biganisha ku kuvanaho umwana, ibintu "byiza, ibibi nibibi"… ibyo bisobanuro kandi igice cyinkuru ni icy'umwana. Ikiringo.
Ninkuru yumwana kuvuga, niba ahisemo, nuwo ahisemo. Ntabwo ari ahantu ho gusangira. Nubwo ari ibintu umwana adashobora kwibuka na rimwe, nkibyabaye kumuhungu wacu, kuko umwana aba akiri muto mugihe cyo kuvanwa. Nzavuga ko imibiri yabo yibuka ihahamuka no kutayirengagiza, nubwo ubwonko bwabo butabikora… ariko ko bishoboka ko ari ingingo yizindi nyandiko.
Ikintu kimwe nicuza, kuva kare muburere bwacu, ntabwo bwari ukurinda inkuru zabana bacu barera. Byaranyobeye ubwenge, kandi birashoboka ko byakubera wowe, ibintu numvaga kubibazo byabana. Ibyakozwe, cyangwa bitakozwe. Ibintu ababyeyi babyaranye bakoze, cyangwa batakoze. Ntibishoboka kuri benshi muri twe. Kandi rero icyo kintu gitangaje, kandi reka tuvugishe ukuri rwose… ibintu byo gusebanya umutobe… akenshi bituma abantu basangira, nanjye ndimo. Ntabwo ari ugusangira gusa, ariko byanze bikunze birenze.
Ibyo byose bivuze, ntabwo yari ahantu hanjye ho gukora. Izo nkuru ni iz'abana barera (kandi ubu ni iz'umuhungu wanjye), kandi ntabwo ari njye.
Ndagerageza kubitekereza muri aya magambo: tuvuge ko ufite iri banga, kandi birashoboka ko atari ikintu wakoze, ahubwo ni ikintu cyagukorewe… ugasanga abantu benshi babizi. Abantu utabwiye, abantu ushobora kuba utari guhitamo kubibwira, iyaba warahawe amahitamo.
Ariko barabizi. Nigute ibyo byakwumva? Kandi nigute byakwumva umenya ko abantu bitwa ko bagukunda kandi bakakurinda cyane aribo basangiye ayo makuru kukwerekeye? Wari gushenjagurwa, sibyo? None se abana bava ahantu hakomeye bumva bameze bate?
Ndabibona. Agaciro ko gutungurwa kwinshi murizo manza nini. Biragoye bidasanzwe kumva ibintu twumvise mumyaka. Ntabwo dushobora gutekereza ibyo ababyeyi barera rimwe na rimwe biga kubyerekeye imiryango yibinyabuzima nibintu bikozwe inyuma yumuryango. Ariko ibyo ntibisobanura gusangira (cyangwa cyane cyane kugabana) inkuru yumwana.
Akantu gato ko guhekenya…
Mubyukuri,
Kris