Dore rero ikintu: niba ushaka pats nyinshi inyuma cyangwa guhimbaza no gushimwa, kuba umubyeyi urera (cyangwa akazi ako ari ko kose mubikorwa rusange, mubyukuri) ntibishobora kukubera.
Kugira ngo ube mwiza, ntabwo aruko ntamuntu ubona ibyo ukora cyangwa ko umwanya wawe, imbaraga zawe nimbaraga zawe zitabonetse… ariko ni uko abantu babibona akenshi barengerwa nkawe kandi mubyukuri ntibafata umwanya wo kukubwira .
Iruhuke mu bumenyi ko ukora akazi keza kandi utekereze ko abandi babibona. Urashobora guhumurizwa nuko uzumva umuntu niba abona ko hari ikibazo; rwose ni urubanza rwa "nta makuru ni inkuru nziza".
Ntabwo bivuze ko utazigera wemerwa… rwose uzabyemera (kandi ndagira ngo mbabwire ko Biro y'abana itangaje rwose kubyemera ababyeyi babarera!), Ariko ntabwo burigihe burigihe ukoze ikintu gikomeye. Nubwoko nkubuzima muri rusange, sibyo?
Ingingo kuba… kurinda umwana ukurera nibyo byingenzi kandi nawe, nkumubyeyi urera, komeza gusa, komeza ukore kandi ukomeze kunganira kiddo.
Ababyeyi babiri barera babivuze muri ubu buryo:
“Uzumva urebye, udashimwa, kandi rimwe na rimwe ugafatwa nkaho utagira ubugome. Komeza urwanire abana nubwo bimeze bityo. ”
Ati: "Uzakora byinshi. Nigeze kuba pushover nini cyane none ndumiwe cyane kandi nshobora gukora ikibazo cyanjye ntarize (mubisanzwe). ”
Noneho, niba utari usanzwe ufite amarangamutima, iki gitekerezo cya nyuma gishobora kuba urujijo… ariko umurongo wanyuma nuko bishobora guhinduka amarangamutima, kuko aba bana bahinduka "abacu". Turabasabye mu izina ryabo kandi tujya kubakinira kuko umuntu abikeneye. Kandi ntamuntu ubazi nkatwe… rimwe na rimwe ndetse nimiryango yababyaye.
Kandi mvugishije ukuri, nibyo rwose twiyandikishije gukora. Niba ufite abana bibyara, ni kangahe umuntu akubwira ko ukora akazi gakomeye? Ntabwo ari kenshi nkuko ubyumva mugihe hari ikibazo, sibyo?
Ku kazi, ukunze gushimirwa kubitekerezo byawe birambuye cyangwa birashoboka cyane ko ukomeza gutwara amakamyo hamwe nizuru ryawe kugeza urusyo, ariko mugihe havutse ikibazo, nibwo wunva umuntu kubyerekeye ireme ryakazi kawe?
Noneho… Ndizera ko nibeshye kandi ko wasutswe no gushimira kubabyeyi bawe bakomeye kandi bakora akazi keza, ariko kenshi na kenshi, ndatekereza ko bitandukanye. Ntabwo ibyo gushimwa NTIBIZA… rwose barabikora. Ariko ntabwo ari kenshi nkuko wenda twabishaka, cyangwa twumva ko byemewe.
Ingingo yo kuba: kurera ntaho bitandukaniye nibindi byose ukora mubuzima. Niba uri mu mwobo ukagira ingaruka ku buzima bw'umwana, menya gusa ko guhindura inzira y'ubuzima bw'umwana ibyiza ari byiza cyane kandi byiza ushobora kubona.
Mubyukuri,
Kris