Reka tuvuge kubintu bimwe bisanzwe kubabyeyi barera. Rimwe na rimwe, abantu barambaza, ni gute ushobora kurokoka kuri iki kintu cyo kurera… ubikora ute? ”
Kandi igisubizo ni inkunga nyinshi. Inkunga mugihe kurera irashobora, kandi igomba, guturuka ahantu henshi hatandukanye. Niba wishingikirije kumuhanda umwe kubufasha bwawe bwose, iyo nzira birashoboka ko igiye gutwikwa kandi birashoboka cyane ko uza guhanuka ugashya.
Ibyo byavuzwe, burigihe ndagerageza gushishikariza ababyeyi bashya, cyangwa ubushobozi, kurera kugirango barebe ko bafite inzira nyinshi zinkunga bahabwa mugihe batangiye, kandi bagakomeza, urugendo rwabo rwo kubarera.
Kugira ngo iki kibazo gikemuke neza, nzakora urukurikirane mu byumweru bike biri imbere bikubiyemo icyo zimwe muri izo nkunga zishobora kuba. Kugirango uyobore, dore zimwe mu ngingo tuzaganira mu byumweru biri imbere; iyi ntabwo byanze bikunze urutonde rwuzuye, ariko iraguha igitekerezo cyaho tujya:
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- DCS n'Ikigo cyawe (reba https://fireflyin.org/kris-corner-foster-care-support-from-dcs-childrens-bureau/)
- Inkunga Kamere
- Kumurongo hamwe n-Umuntu-Amatsinda Yunganira
- Urungano rushyigikiwe nindi miryango irera
- Kwita ku baturage
- Akabati ko kurera
Kubufasha busanzwe ndavuga abantu mubuzima bwawe basanzwe bagutera inkunga: umuryango, inshuti, nabaturanyi… abantu murubwo bwoko.
Noneho, nzavuga ko ushobora guhura nuburwanya mugihe ubabwiye ko utekereza kuba, cyangwa rwose ugiye kuba ababyeyi barera. Ntabwo abantu bose bumva impamvu wabikora kandi ntabwo abantu bose bashobora gushyigikira icyo cyemezo. Nibura ntabwo ari iburyo.
Rero, kugirango ubone inkunga uzakenera, ushobora kuba ufite intego hamwe nabamwe mubagenzi bawe nimiryango. Kugira ngo ubigereho, ndagutera inkunga yo kujya mu kiganiro ukoresheje uburyo bworoshye… ku murongo wa “Ndumva nkwiye kubikora, ariko nzakenera ubufasha bwawe n'inkunga yawe.” Noneho andika zimwe munzira ugiye gukenera ubufasha, cyangwa inzira uteganya ko uzakenera ubufasha, kugirango urebe niba sisitemu yo kugoboka bisanzwe ishobora kukurinyuma kuri iyo mirimo yihariye.
Ubundi buryo bwo gushigikira aya matsinda ni ukugerageza kubafasha kwishora. Tanga ibikoresho namakuru kugirango ubafashe kumva impamvu ukora ibyo ukora. Imyitwarire yumwana irashobora kuba itandukanye nabandi bana babanye. Kugabana rero, kurugero, uburyo ihahamuka ryubwonko rizafasha buri muntu gusobanukirwa no gushima itandukaniro ryabana baturutse ahantu hakomeye kandi bizabafasha kubashora murugendo rwawe.
Hariho abandi, mubufasha bwawe busanzwe, bazashyigikira cyane icyemezo cyawe kuva bagitangira, kandi bazaguha ibishoboka byose kugirango ubishishikarize kandi ubishyigikire. Bazabanza gusimbuka ibirenge hamwe nawe ndetse barashobora no kukubwira icyo bifuza gukora kugirango bafashe. Kunda abo bantu!
Hanyuma, nta gushidikanya, hazabaho abo mubuzima bwawe batazigera bumva impamvu urera kandi ntibazashobora kugutera inkunga kumubiri cyangwa mumarangamutima. Noneho, gerageza kureka ibyo bigende kandi ubishingikirize kubindi bikenewe, niba ubishoboye. Gerageza kudategereza ubufasha n'inkunga muri bo mu kurera; barashobora guhindura amaherezo yabo, cyangwa ntibashobora.
Nkuko nabivuze, inkunga isanzwe rwose ntigomba kuba inzira yawe yonyine yo gushyigikirwa, ariko ni nini. Kandi birashoboka rwose ko urugendo rwawe ruzabatwika murugendo rwo kurera ubwabo!
Mubyukuri,
Kris