Nzi ko nabanje kuvuga ku bijyanye no kurera byagize ku bana b'umuryango wanjye ubyara… hamwe n'impungenge zose kuri twe (hamwe n'abandi babyeyi benshi) twagize mbere yo gusimbukira mu kigo.
Uyu munsi, ndashaka kubijyana kure no kuvuga ku ngaruka bigira ku bandi Bana bose murugo; birumvikana ko ibi bishobora kuba abana bibyara, ariko birashobora no kurerwa abana.
Hatitawe ku kuntu abana binjiye munzu mu ntangiriro, kurera byagira ingaruka kuri buriwese. Ugomba rero gutekereza kuri izi ngaruka kuri buri wese mu bagize umuryango, ndetse n’uburyo zishobora gukinisha ibyo umwana akeneye (by’umwana ubyara cyangwa warezwe, cyangwa undi mwana urera), nuburyo ibyo bikenewe bigira ingaruka kumuryango wose.
Kugirango ntange ibitekerezo byinyongera kuriyi nsanganyamatsiko, nageze kubandi ba mama mu itsinda ryanjye rinshyigikira kugira ngo nkusanyirize hamwe ibitekerezo byukuntu abana murugo rwabo bagize ingaruka zo kuba umuryango urera.
Biragaragara ko abana bawe bashobora kugira ingaruka zitandukanye nabadamu batanze ubushishozi hepfo… kandi ibyo birumvikana, kuko buri mwana aratandukanye. Ariko utitaye ku cyemezo cyawe muburyo bwo gushyira (imyaka, igitsina, umubare wabana, ibikenewe bidasanzwe, nibindi), abana bawe bazagira ingaruka.
Dore icyo umubyeyi umwe ufite ibinyabuzima bibiri, bitatu byarezwe, n'umwana umwe urera yavuze ku kuntu abana be ubu babona imiryango yabo izaza ndetse n'uburyo bahurijwe hamwe kandi bahujwe n'uburambe: “Nibyo, mfite abana babiri. badashaka kubyara benshi, niba bahari, abana, nabana babiri bashobora kuba bafite inzu. Ariko icy'ingenzi, ntekereza ko abana bose bize kumenya ibirango sosiyete ikunda gushyira ku bandi bana, no guhagurukirana kuko turi umuryango, kandi nibyo umuryango ukora. ”
Undi mubyeyi ufite abana bane babyaranye hamwe n’umwana umwe warezwe (ariko amaze kurera umuryango we urenga 30) yemeye mu bwisanzure ko we n’umugabo we batangiye kuba umuryango urera batitaye cyane ku bandi bana babo. Yagize ati: “Mvugishije ukuri, ntabwo twigeze dutekereza ku ngaruka ku bana bacu, ariko nyuma yo kubona aho twashyize bwa mbere, kandi kuva icyo gihe, rimwe na rimwe ndarwana cyane iyo ntekereje kubyo nasabye abana banjye gukora: gusangira urugo rwabo, igihe cyabo, ibikinisho byabo, n'ababyeyi babo na basogokuru. Ibintu byose byari bikwiye ibyabo, ahanini. ”
Ariko nyuma y'igihe, yakomeje kubona ko uburambe bwo kuba umuryango urera bwashimangiye imyizerere y'idini y'abana be mu buryo atigeze atekereza. Ati: “Nganira n'abantu benshi bifuza kurera, kandi mbazwa ingaruka ku bana banjye cyane. Sinari nzi gusubiza. Hari igihe kurera byatumye abana banjye bakura kandi bumva bishimye, naho ubundi byabaye gusenya rwose, kubura umujinya… ariko muri rusange byarabakuze cyane. Ubu rero iyo abantu bambajije 'ariko bite kubana bawe?' Ndavuga ko byigishije abana banjye byinshi kubyerekeye urukundo rw'Imana kuruta kwitanga nijoro nashoboraga kubasomera. Ntabwo ari amagambo gusa ahubwo ibikorwa… ibikorwa bivuga cyane! ”
Dore ibitekerezo bya mama ku byabaye ku bakobwa be bombi, bombi bakaba bararezwe binyuze mu kurera, mu gihe famiy yakomeje kurera abandi bana: “Kuri first, Nagize ubwoba nyabwo kumitima yabo murigikorwa. Biragaragara ko bitubabaza twese iyo umwana avuye iwacu. Ariko kubwo kurera, abana bacu biga impuhwe kubana ndetse nababyeyi babo. Bariga kubaho buri munsi mu kanya kandi bagakunda ubuzima bwabo bwose uyu munsi… muri iki gihe… nta mpungenge z'ejo. ”
Ubwanyuma, umubyeyi wabana bane babyaranye hamwe nabana batatu barera basangiye ibihe byukuri mubuzima bwabo bimuha amahoro ko kurera bigira ingaruka kubana be neza: “Umunsi umwe, mumodoka yatashye murugo, umukobwa wacu muto urera yararwaye. Ubwoko bw'abarwayi utagomba no gusubiza amaso inyuma ngo umenye ko ari bibi kuko ijwi ryonyine ryari rihagije kukubwira.
Ati: “Twinjiye mu igaraje, kandi abakobwa banjye bose baradufashaga nta gutindiganya cyangwa no kubazwa. Umuntu yakoresheje amazi yo kwiyuhagira. Undi yabonye umwana. Undi yakuye umwana muto mu modoka amuha ibyo kurya. Nafashe imiti yose isukura twari dufite.
Ati: "Mu bihe nk'ibi, ubusanzwe mpangayikishijwe nuko abakobwa babura mu bwana butagira impungenge cyangwa ko mbasaba byinshi.
Ati: "Uyu munsi mugihe ntekereza niba nkwiye gutera intebe yimodoka gusa, impungenge zanjye zongeye kugaruka: byagenda bite niba abakobwa banjye batazi neza ibyo abandi bakeneye? Hatabayeho ibihe nkibi, bari gusobanukirwa rwose ko uko byagenda kose, mumuryango wacu tuzakora ibyo bintu bibi byubuzima hamwe?
Ati: “Tuba mu isi yuzuye abantu badafite uwo bakora ibice bibi by'ubuzima hamwe nabo. Ndashaka ko abana banjye bamenya ko nabantu batareba cyangwa bakora nkukeneye umuntu, nabo. Bakeneye ubwitonzi, impuhwe, n'ubugwaneza. Bafite ibyo bakeneye kumubiri no mumarangamutima dushobora gufasha guhura. Iyo rero ntekereje kuri ibyo bintu, ndashimira amasomo twese twize binyuze mu kuba umuryango urera. ”
Ni iki kindi navuga? Aba badamu babivuze byose neza! Kandi ndizera ko amagambo yabo atera inkunga azagutera imbaraga zo gusimbukira mu kigo cyita ku barerera… nubwo waba uhangayikishijwe gato n’ukuntu bishobora kugira ingaruka ku bana bawe.
Mubyukuri,
Kris