Hariho impamvu nyinshi zituma ababyeyi barera bashobora gutuntura (ndabizi ibi ntibishobora kubigurisha niba uri kuruzitiro rwo kuba umubyeyi urera). Ariko mbere na mbere, umuryango urera ushobora kubabara mugihe umwana batekereza ko azagumaho iteka yarangiza akongera guhura numuryango wibinyabuzima. Byumvikane neza: byizihizwa mugihe umwana ashobora kuba hamwe nimiryango yababyaye, cyane cyane iyo umuryango wibinyabuzima ushoboye gukomeza umubano nimiryango irera, ubikoresha nkinkunga mugihe gikenewe.
Ariko, nkuko nabivuze, birashobora rimwe na rimwe gusenya umuryango urera, cyane cyane niba ari inzu yabanje kurera kandi ibiziga byagendaga kurera. Ariko ntabwo aribyo bigamije blog yanjye uyumunsi. Hariho ubundi bwoko bwintimba bujyanye no kurera nifuza kubyemera… kandi nkakwemeza niba warigeze wumva kimwe muribi. Ibi birashobora kubamo (ariko ntibigarukira gusa) kurutonde rukurikira:
- iyo ubonye ibyo wifuzaga kandi umwana akaguma mumurera ariko rero ibintu ntibirangira bisa nkuko wabitekerezaga (akenshi biragoye cyane).
- mugihe utekereza ko ufite ikiganza cyo gusuzuma umwana icyo aricyo (cyangwa kwisuzumisha), ariko biragaragara ko ari byinshi cyane.
- iyo umwana akuze akaza kwitabwaho, utekereza ko ufite ishusho nziza yibibera… ariko byari ibihe bya buki.
- mugihe uruhinja cyangwa umwana muto aje murugo rwawe, ntuzabimenya kugeza umwana akuze kandi akuze kugirango amenye neza ibibazo cyangwa gutinda cyangwa kwisuzumisha afite.
- iyo ababyeyi babyara bakwishyuza ihohoterwa cyangwa kwirengagiza.
- mugihe ushishikajwe no kwita kubana bafite ihungabana ariko nyina wamubyaye washyizeho undi mwana agusaba kubajyana.
- mugihe winjiye muribi kugirango ufashe abana bava ahantu habi kandi ntabwo aribyose nkuko wabitekerezaga.
- iyo wumva ushaka gukubita umutwe kurukuta, kandi nta terambere ririmo gutera.
- mugihe ndetse wumva ko utari gusa NTIBUGENDE imbere ariko mubyukuri, ugenda usubira inyuma.
- iyo bigoye kandi birababaje kandi bitenguha kandi bigaca intege.
Ibi byose birashobora kugorana rwose. Kandi gutuntuza kimwe muri ibyo bintu: ubwo ni ubwoko bw'akababaro mvuga.
Kandi inshuro nyinshi ntabwo biganisha kumarangamutima yumubabaro gusa ahubwo birashoboka no kwicuza; ibyo birashobora rwose kumva ko ari ahantu hijimye. Kandi iyo ibyo bibaye, nyamuneka umenye ko utari wenyine mubyumva utyo; agahinda nukuri rwose kandi nubwo atari bose bashobora kubyumva (cyane cyane niba atari mwisi yo kurera), ibyo ntibigabanya ibintu wumva.
Ni mugihe ibyo byiyumvo n'ibitekerezo bikomeje, UGOMBA kwegera ugasaba ubufasha. Shakisha itsinda rishyigikira. Hamagara inshuti yagushyigikiye kandi yumve urugendo rwawe rwo kurera. Shaka umujyanama (hari abajyanama bakomeye rwose baraboneka mubyukuri niba utaboneka kubona umwe kumuntu cyangwa gahunda yawe ni nto). Nta soni muri kimwe muri ibyo… uko undi muntu yagerageza kukubwira.
Na none, niba umwana wawe arezwe, urashobora kubona ubufasha ukoresheje Serivisi zo Kurera. Niba ari umwana ukiri kurerwa, ikigo cyawe (Firefly Children and Family Alliance) gikunze kuba ibikoresho bitangaje byubufasha. Ariko ibindi bihe, nasanze, intimba irankubita gusa mubururu kandi ntabwo ikwira hose ahubwo ni akanya (cyangwa wenda n'umunsi) aho numva nacitse intege, nacitse intege cyangwa ncitse intege… kandi kubwibyo, mfite igitekerezo cyo kugerageza.
Ntabwo buri gihe bizaba igisubizo kuri buri wese kandi sinatinyuka kuvuga ko aribyo. Ariko hano ni… ibiryo byo gutekereza, niba ntakindi, kugirango unyure mubihe byuzuye intimba. Iyo numva ndangije umugozi wanjye, nashizeho ingengabihe muminota mike (wenda 10), kandi reka ndeke kubabazwa nuko ibintu bidasa nkuko nabitekerezaga. Ndarira gato niba nkeneye (Nkunze kubikora), noneho iyo igihe kirangiye, mpanagura mumaso nkomeza gukora akazi nakoraga.
Noneho… bivuze ko ikintu cyose cyoroshye? Oya. Burigihe burigihe bunkura mubikorwa byanjye? Oya. Agahinda numva rimwe na rimwe karenze izi ngamba zo guhangana nazo zishobora gufasha? Yego. Ariko rimwe na rimwe kugira ibyo kurekura amarangamutima no kwemeza ibyo wumva birashobora kunoza imitekerereze yawe kandi bikagufasha gukomeza umurimo wingenzi kandi ukenewe wo kurera.
Mubyukuri,
Kris