Buri muntu wese wabaye umubyeyi urera abifitemo uruhushya aba yiteze kubintu runaka. Birashobora kuba ibyiringiro byokwemererwa gushyirwaho, cyangwa gutegereza kurera ingimbi, cyangwa gufata amatsinda y'abavandimwe, cyangwa kuba "ababyeyi barera bisanzwe" (bivuze ko ufite umuryango uzenguruka abana murugo no hanze yawe)… cyangwa numero iyo ari yo yose y'ibindi byifuzo bishoboka.
Ariko icyo nshaka kuvuga kuriyi nyandiko nicyo witeze mugihe hagaragaye umwanya mushya. Mubabyeyi barera nabajije kubintu bifuza kumenya mbere yo kurera, ku giti cyanjye ndizera ko uyu mubyeyi urera yakubise umusumari mumutwe.
"Mu minsi 30 yambere gabanya ibyo witeze kuri BYOSE hanyuma wongere ubimanure. Isuku y'inzu, imyitwarire y'abana, imyitwarire yawe, kumesa, gutegura ifunguro, isuku y'umuntu… ikintu cyose ushobora gutekereza. ”
Kandi namaze gufata imyaka itandukanye hamwe nubuvuzi, ndabyemera n'umutima wanjye wose. Ntushobora kongera umuntu murugo rwawe kandi utegereje gukomeza kugenda kumuvuduko warimo wiruka. Ugomba kumenya uwo muntu (cyangwa abantu!), Kandi agomba kukumenya… kandi ushobora gukenera kureka ibintu hagati aho. Mugihe wita kubana barera, umubyeyi agomba kuba afite ibyifuzo byumwana byoroshye, ariko nibyingenzi guhindura ibyo witezeho wenyine.
Isuku y'inzu. Byukuri. Kubantu bose bari muburyo bwo kubona ibyangombwa, birashoboka cyane ko wamanutse kumaboko no kumavi ukubita baseboard hamwe no koza amenyo mbere yo kwiga urugo rwawe rwa mbere. Reka nkubwire: muri rusange abana ntibitaye kubintu nkibyo. Cyangwa niba inzu irimo umukungugu. Cyangwa niba ubwiherero butagira ikizinga. Ibyo rero birashobora rwose kuba ikintu waretse muri iki gihe cyambere. Nkuko byavuzwe, mugihe cya gatatu uzenguruka urugo rwawe, uzagira amahirwe yo gukuramo ibikinisho hasi mbere yuko inzobere mu kurera itaragera… kandi nibyo. We (cyangwa umukozi wa dosiye ya DCS cyangwa CB, cyangwa undi muntu wese) ntazaba ahari kugirango arebe niba urimo ukora ibyo byuka n ivumbi buri cyumweru.
Imyitwarire (yawe n'iy'umwana): Ibintu bishobora gusa naho biteye ubwoba ubanza… ariko nyamuneka uzirikane icyiciro cya buki; mugihe utabizi, iyo niyo minsi yambere cyangwa ibyumweru byambere byashyizwe aho ibintu bisa nkaho bigenda neza kandi umwana ari mumyitwarire yabo myiza cyane. Byongeye kandi, kwihangana kwawe gushobora kuba hejuru. Nyuma yicyo gihe akenshi usanga umwana atangiye kumva afite umutekano cyangwa umutekano cyangwa yifatanije hanyuma atangira kureka ibyiyumvo bye, imyitwarire ye na kamere ye. Arazi urugo rurera ni umwanya utekanye kuri we kubikora.
Kubera iyo mpamvu, ababyeyi barera bakunze gufatwa kubera ko batekerezaga ko ishyirwa ryagenze neza kandi bakora akazi gakomeye rwose. Kandi mvugishije ukuri, birashoboka ko bigenda neza kandi bakora akazi gakomeye imyitwarire yumwana ihinduka. Kugira ngo ubyumve, ugomba kumva ihahamuka nuburyo rishobora kugira ingaruka kubana nimyitwarire yabo. Ariko ibyo byose byo kuvuga… Ndagutera inkunga yo kuruhura ibintu ushobora kubanza kugirango umwana amenye ko ari ahantu hizewe. Kurugero, nikintu kinini niba umwana ashaka kuryama afite amatara 5 yijoro? Birashobora kuba "ikintu" umwana akeneye gutangira kumva afite umutekano.
Ikindi kintu kimwe kijyanye nimyitwarire: ibyawe. Ihe ubuntu n'umwanya runaka (uko ubishoboye). Nibyinshi kuzana umwana umwe cyangwa benshi bava ahantu hakomeye, bityo ugiye kongera imihangayiko, inshingano, byose. Ntutegereze ko uzabikora neza… kandi ntuzatindiganye kwiha umwanya niba ukeneye umunota wo gukonja, guhumeka neza cyangwa kongera kwiyobora.
Imesero: Niba ikora mu cyogero ntabwo ari icyuma, ntukiganyire kandi usubize umutwaro. Niba ikora mumeseri Kuma, watsinze rwose. Kandi sinzi icyo navuga kubantu bose babikuye mu cyuma * * bakagishyira kure. Mubisanzwe tubaho mubiseke byo kumesa uko byagenda kose kuburyo naba ndi kilometero imbere niba ibintu byashyizwe hanze. Ingingo iriho: ntamuntu uzapfa niba ufite ikirundo cyimyenda yanduye utegereje kozwa.
Gutegura amafunguro: Niba warahagaritse pizza cyangwa macaroni hamwe ninkoko zinkoko buri joro kugirango urye icyumweru (cyangwa ukwezi), gerageza kutabira icyuya. Tuvugishije ukuri, birashobora kuba nkibiribwa umwana urera amenyereye kandi azishimira kurya. Simvuze ibyo bisebanya… mubyukuri. Noneho inkuru nziza nuko udafite intambara zo kurya, ntamuntu ushonje, abantu bose baragaburiwe, kandi ushobora guhangayikishwa nibindi bintu. Urashobora guhangayikishwa n'iryo funguro ryuzuye neza nyuma; ntabwo ari intambara ugomba kurwanira imbere.
Isuku: birashoboka ko wowe, nkumubyeyi urera, ntukiyuhagire kugeza igihe abana bagiye mwishuri mugitondo. Cyangwa mugihe barimo gufata agatotsi. Nibyo. Igihe cyose ugishoboye kwiyuhagira buri munsi, nibyiza. Na none, urashobora kwifuza ko umwana yoga buri joro, ariko ushobora gukenera kubireka gato (nubwo yaba ari ingimbi kandi anuka… rimwe na rimwe urugamba ntirukwiye). Ibibazo by'isuku kubana barerwa bishobora guturuka ku ihahamuka. Irashobora gutwarwa mumarangamutima nkurwego rwo kurinda ihohoterwa, bityo bisaba igihe no kwihangana kugirango ubone iterambere.
Ibitekerezo byanyuma kuri ibi: urashobora gukenera gukora gahunda yawe ya nimugoroba hanyuma ukareka nimugoroba ukuzura ifunguro rya nimugoroba, umukoro hamwe na gahunda yo kuryama. Gushiraho gahunda bigiye kuba ingorabahizi kandi niba umanuye umurongo ugahindura ibyo witeze mukwezi kwambere cyangwa kurenga, ibi bizoroha kubigeraho. Ntushobora kwitega ko umwana winjira akora "kunama" byose mubucuti… uzabikora ukora "kunama" wenyine bishobora kugaragara nkibitekerezo byavuzwe haruguru.
Twizere ko ibi bigufasha kumva ko iyi nzira yo kuzana umwana ishobora kugushimisha, akajagari, kandi bigoye kandi bitunganijwe ntabwo utegerejweho… bityo rero guhinduka, guhindura ibyo witeze, no kwemerera ubuntu runaka bizagufasha kugabanya imihangayiko yawe muri rusange.
Mubyukuri.
Kris