Mu nyandiko yanjye iheruka, nashishikarije ababyeyi barera gusobanukirwa no kwihangana nkumwana uhuza nibidukikije byabo bishya; kuberako bazagerwaho nubunararibonye butandukanye.
Ariko uyumunsi, ndashaka kuvuga kukindi kintu (nubwo kidakunze kubaho) mubijyanye nuburambe hamwe nabana barera… kandi nikigeragezo cyo kubaha "Inararibonye nka Disney."
Ndashaka kuvuga iki? Nibyiza, ni igitekerezo cyuko uyu mwana "yabuze ibintu byinshi kubera ihahamuka nubuzima bwabo, kuburyo nshaka kubibaha mubaha ibintu byose badafite; na / cyangwa kubajyana gukora ibintu byose bishimishije kandi bitangaje babuze… nibindi byinshi! ”
Harimo ibintu byose bishimishije, bishya, kandi bishimishije. Irashobora kubagurira terefone igezweho cyangwa inkweto zihenze. Irashobora gusura resitora zishimishije cyangwa zitandukanye. Irashobora kuba ireba ibitaramo cyangwa firime (cyangwa kujya muri firime). Birashobora gufata urugendo muri parike yimyidagaduro cyangwa ikiruhuko kinini. Birashobora kuba bishimishije ibikorwa byumuryango buri wikendi. Birashobora kuba ibintu byinshi bitandukanye.
None ni ukubera iki umubyeyi urera yakora ibintu nkibi? Nibyiza, icyo numva nuko ubu buryo bwo kwitwara mubabyeyi barera buterwa no kumva icyaha kimwumva ko umwana yagize ubuzima bugoye (kandi busanzwe bubabaza) kugeza magingo aya. Kandi hejuru, ntabwo bisa nabi cyane kubabyeyi barera "guhimbira" umwana wabuze, ariko kurera hamwe nicyaha kumwanya wambere ntabwo aribyiza kumwana, kubwimpamvu nyinshi.
Izi mpamvu zirimo, ariko ntabwo zigarukira gusa:
- kwitiranya ibyingenzi / bigomba kuba ngombwa;
- ibiteganijwe bidashoboka;
- kutanyurwa n'ababyeyi babyaranye (cyane cyane iyo bahuye);
- kwizirika bidakwiye kurugo cyangwa ababyeyi barera, ukurikije ibintu bifatika umwana ashobora kwakira, cyangwa uburambe ashobora kugira; na
- imyumvire itari yo yo kuba umwe mubagize umuryango mubyukuri.
Kandi birashoboka ingaruka zikomeye ni uko byongera itandukaniro rimaze kubaho hagati yumuryango urera nimiryango yibinyabuzima. Nibyo rwose ntabwo intego cyangwa intego yo kurera. Intego mubisanzwe ni ubumwe. Noneho, niba uhora ugura ugakora ibintu byose umwana ashaka, uba utwaye kandi amakimbirane hagati yimiryango yombi, ubishaka cyangwa utabishaka, bityo ukongeraho umutwaro wamarangamutima kumwana usanzwe uremerewe nibintu byinshi imitwaro y'amarangamutima.
Noneho… Simvuze ko udashobora gukora ibintu bishimishije, byiza, cyangwa ibintu bidasanzwe kumurera… bifite agaciro rwose muribyo bintu kandi yego UKWIYE kubikora. Ariko icyo mvuga nuko batagomba gukorwa hanze yumuryango, kuko bizatera urujijo bikabangamira umubano wowe numwana. Kandi byaba bigoye kubungabunga igihe kirekire.
Kandi kuvuga igihe kirekire… niyo nzira ushaka rwose kubabyeyi umwana? Ndashaka kuvuga, cyane cyane, niba kubwimpamvu runaka, warangiza ugaha umwana urugo ruhoraho, uzakomeza kugumana urwego rwohejuru rwimpano nyinshi cyangwa zihenze hamwe nimyidagaduro yingufu nyinshi? Oya, birashoboka ko utazakora… hanyuma aho ibyo bisiga ibintu hamwe numwana? Bagiye kumva ko wabakwegereye kuri bait-hanyuma ukitwaza ko ari ikintu kimwe, mugihe wari ikindi kintu. Kandi ndashidikanya ko ngomba kuvuga ibi, ariko ntabwo arinzira nziza yo kugirana umubano no kwizirika.
Ibyo byose bivuze, ibi nibiryo gusa byo gutekereza mbere yo kwibira no gushaka gutanga, gutanga… aho kuba gusa, kuba, kuba.
Mubyukuri,
Kris