Nzi ko bamwe muri mwe bashobora kuba barambiwe kuganira ku minsi mikuru n'iminsi y'amavuko n'ingaruka bigira ku bana barera ndetse n'umuryango urera… ndabizeza rero ko iyi (yenda) blog yanyuma kuriyi ngingo, byibuze mugihe gito.
Kwibanda ku minsi mikuru n'amavuko imenyerewe mumuryango wawe gusa ntibitanga umwana urera gushingira cyangwa gutuza. Mubyukuri, birashobora no kuba imbarutso. Imigenzo itazwi irashobora gutuma umwana urera yumva ko ari hanze kandi akamwibutsa ko atigeze aba muri uyu muryango… kandi birashoboka ko atazigera abigiramo uruhare.
Kubona rero uburyo bwo kwinjiza imigenzo yumwana mumigenzo yumuryango urera birashobora gukira no gutuza mugihe bigoye rwose kumwana.
Ibi ntibisobanura ko ugomba kunama inyuma ukagerageza gukora ibintu neza nkuko byari kuba mumuryango wibinyabuzima. Akenshi kwemerwa cyangwa kugerageza kumenyera nibyo bikiza umwana.
Ibi birashobora kuba byoroshye nko gufungura impano imwe mugihe cya Noheri, cyangwa guhora ufite ikintu runaka nka pancake cyangwa cinnamon umuzingo wa mugitondo kumunsi wamavuko. Ntabwo bigomba gusobanurwa neza, gusa nkana.
Kugirango ukore ibi, umuryango urera birashoboka ko ugomba kubaza byimazeyo umwana mukuru icyo bakora. Cyangwa icyo bashaka gukora; birashoboka ko hari umuco umwana ashaka kugira ariko ntabwo yigeze ahabwa amahirwe. Noneho nk'umuryango urera, shyiramo imwe muri iyo migenzo no kwizihiza umuryango… niba ntayindi mpamvu yo guha uwo mwana imyumvire yo kumenyera no guhumurizwa mugihe gishobora kuba kidahwitse cyane.
Nzi neza ko utekereza, “Nibyo, ibyo ni byiza kubana bakuru… ariko bite kuri bato?” Biragaragara rero ko ibi byagorana numwana muto. Ariko, aha niho umubano, ibyo aribyo byose bisa, numuryango wibinyabuzima bifasha. Niba ubishoboye, baza ababyeyi babyaranye (cyangwa ubaze DCS kubabaza mu izina ryawe) niba bafite imigenzo y'amavuko cyangwa iminsi mikuru. Erekana inyungu nicyifuzo cyo gukomeza guhuza murubu buryo. Nzi neza ko byasobanura byinshi kumwana nababyeyi babyaranye.
Ibyo rero ni inama zanjye nkeya mugihe cyo kwizihiza… kwinjiza gusa imigenzo yumwana urera, uko ushoboye kose, uko yaba imeze kose… kuko nubwo bidasa nkibintu bikomeye, bizabera umwana .
Mubyukuri,
Kris