Buri mwaka ibihumbi magana yingimbi zishaje zita kuburere. None ni gute kandi kuki ibi bibaho? Tuvugishije ukuri, nta gisubizo cyumvikana, kigufi cyangwa cyoroshye kubwimpamvu abana benshi basaza batitaweho, ariko hano hari bake.
Rimwe na rimwe, imanza zitangira iyo umwana akuze cyane kandi urubanza ntirufite umwanya wo gusohora. Cyangwa urubanza rutwara igihe kirekire kandi umwana arasaza mbere yuko ifunga.
Ibindi bihe, umwana afite uburenganzira bwo kurerwa byemewe ariko akenshi biragoye gushyira ingimbi zikuze mumazu arera. Ukuri kurikibazo nuko abantu benshi batatekereza ko barera umwana wimyaka 17 ugiye "kuva murugo vuba" uko byagenda kose… cyangwa barabitekereza. Abantu benshi bifuza kurera umwana muto cyangwa muto… nuko ingimbi zishaje zidafite umuryango uhoraho.
Kandi mubindi bihe, abana bafite umudendezo wemewe ariko bahitamo kutarerwa. Ushobora kuba usanzwe ubizi, ariko nabyize vuba aha kandi ndashaka gufasha mukwamamaza: muri leta ya Indiana, mfite imyaka 14 (bisa nkibyo, nkiri muto cyane kuri njye gufata ibyemezo nkibi bihindura ubuzima , ariko ntanumwe wambajije), umwana arashobora guhitamo gukurikira inzira yo kwita kubufatanye, itanga inkunga namahugurwa akenewe mubuzima nyuma yo “gutangira kurera”… aho guhitamo inzira yo kurera.
Kandi ibi byose bisa nkaho bibabaje (byibuze kuri njye ni!) Kugirango umwana atagira umuryango uhoraho… ariko kubwanjye ndizera ko ikintu kibabaje cyane cyabana basaza muri sisitemu nuko benshi muribo badafite byinshi (niba bihari) inkunga yumuryango rwose uko itera imbere mubuzima; biragaragara ko hariho "outliers" babikora, baba bafite infashanyo yumuryango cyangwa binyuze mumiryango yahoze irera, cyangwa (biragaragara) binyuze mumasoko amwe. Ariko kubatabikora, barashobora guhangana nibibazo bimwe byimibereho n amarangamutima mugihe kizaza.
Kandi ibi binyobora kubintu bifatika nshaka kumenyekanisha mubyo nanditse uyu munsi: by'urubyiruko rusaza kubera kurera, 1/4 bafunzwe mumyaka 2 naho 1/2 gusa barangije amashuri yisumbuye.
Iyi mibare yombi isangiye isano n’ibindi bibazo by’imibereho n’amarangamutima nko kunywa ibiyobyabwenge ndetse no kutagira aho uba ku murongo… kandi nzabiganiraho ibindi bibazo mu nyandiko ikurikira.
Noneho kugirango byumvikane neza, iyi mibare iragaragara ko atari byose byazimiye… rimwe na rimwe abana basaza muri sisitemu kandi bakaguma murugo rwumuryango. Ibi ntibisobanura ko umuryango urera ukomeje guhabwa buri munsi cyangwa inkunga y'amafaranga yatanzwe na leta; bivuze gusa ko hariho umugereka, isano nubusabane hagati yumwana numuryango kandi nubwo bidashobora kubaho na rimwe kurerwa kumugaragaro (nubwo hashobora kubaho… kurera abakuze nibintu bifatika, mugihe utari ubizi), barumva ko ni umuryango wa buriwese kandi uzakomeza gutanga amarangamutima kandi afatika nkayumuryango "wemewe".
Ibindi bihe, abana basaza batitaweho bagashaka inzira yo gusubira mumiryango yabo yababyaye… ishobora cyangwa idashobora kuba gahunda nziza yo kubatera inkunga; hari ibintu byinshi bishobora kumenya inzira yegamiye… cyane cyane kubiganiraho muriyi nyandiko. Ariko niba umaze igihe kinini urera kurera, biragaragara ko uzamenya bimwe mubintu bishobora gutuma ibi bidukikije cyangwa ubuzima bwiza.
Kandi nibindi bihe, hashobora kubaho umwarimu, umutoza cyangwa abandi bantu bakuru mubuzima bwumwana urera ushobora kuzuza inshingano z "umubyeyi" no gutanga inkunga umwana akeneye mugihe "batangiye" kwisi.
Ariko ibi, biragaragara, ntabwo buri gihe bibaho. Abangavu basaza kenshi hamwe na leta / ubufasha bufatanije, ariko ibi nibihe byigihe cyagenwe… kandi iyo bigeze kumpera yubuvuzi bufatanije, barasohoka kandi bahanganye nisi bonyine.
Ndabisangiye kugirango gusa menyeshe abantu… kuko nikintu ntekereza ko abantu benshi batekereza, mugihe binjiye muburere; Nzemera mu bwisanzure ko njye, kubwanjye.
Abangavu (cyane cyane abafite uburenganzira bwo kurerwa ariko bagahitamo kutarerwa) bakeneye abantu bakuru bitaye mubuzima bwabo… niba ingimbi zishaka kubyemera cyangwa kutabyemera. Ntabwo bazi ibibazo bashobora guhura nabyo mugihe cya vuba na / cyangwa cya kure kandi rimwe na rimwe icyo bakeneye rwose ni urukundo no kwita kumuryango… kuko bitabaye ibyo, bashobora kwibasirwa nibindi bibazo bihindura ubuzima cyangwa ibyemezo.
Mubyukuri,
Kris