Rero, bamwe murimwe murashobora kuba mugitekerezo cyo guha umuryango wibinyabuzima amakuru yawe yo kubana umwana amaze guhura. Niba kandi ariwowe, urashobora kwicara kuriyi nyandiko.
Igice cya kabiri cya blog yanjye kubyerekeye ibirenze ibyateganijwe hamwe nubumwe, ndashaka ahanini gukemura igitekerezo cyo gukomeza umubano numuryango wibinyabuzima wumwana nyuma yo guhura. Ingingo y'ibi ni ebyiri; ikora kugirango ikomeze gutunga umuryango mugihe urinda umwana umutekano, kandi nibyiza kudasubira muri sisitemu.
Kandi nubwo bisa nkaho bidashoboka, ubu bwoko bwibintu bibaho kenshi kandi kenshi kuko bifasha kurinda abana bamwe gusubira muri sisitemu yamaze kuremerwa. Ariko kubera iki?
Impamvu nini abana baza kwitangira gutangira ni ukubera ko umuryango wibinyabuzima udafite gahunda yo gufasha; mugihe umwana arerwa, kandi ababyeyi barimo gukora gahunda yabo, hari inkunga nyinshi kuri bo ndetse numwana. Ariko, mugihe ubumwe bwabaye kandi urubanza rurangiye, izo nkunga zose zumye gitunguranye… none niki gishobora kubaho muriki gihe? Ikintu kimwe cyabaye muburyo bwambere. Ariko iyo umuryango urera ugeze kandi ugakomeza kugira uruhare mubuzima bwumwana, bityo bakagira uruhare mubuzima bwababyeyi, babatera inkunga isanzwe… ifasha umuryango wose.
Birumvikana, ushobora kwibaza mubyukuri inshuro ibi bikorwa. Ndababwiza ukuri sinzi inshuro ibi bikorwa, kuko ntabwo arikintu DCS ikurikirana. Iyo abana bamaze "kuva mubitabo" ntawabwira umubare ugifite umubano ukomeje nababyeyi barera. Ariko nibyiza, ni umubare utari muto muri bo.
Ubushakashatsi bwinshi kandi bwinshi bwerekanye ko kugira inkunga yumuryango urera (uwo, twakagombye kuvuga hano, atanga kubuntu kubwigihe cyabo, kuko ntamunsi uhari) bishobora gufasha umuryango wibinyabuzima kumva ko ufite imbaraga kandi ubishoboye. Byongeye kandi, umuryango urera urashobora kubafasha gushakisha umutungo bashobora kuba batari babizi mbere.
Ubushakashatsi bw’inyongera bwerekanye ko abana bagumana (cyangwa bongeye guhuzwa) n’umuryango w’ibinyabuzima, bakeka ko ari ibidukikije bifite umutekano n’UBUZIMA, bameze neza mu gihe kirekire, ugereranije n’abana bagize ihungabana ryo gutandukana burundu.
Noneho ndabizi ko ataribyo mubashaka kurera mubarera birashoboka ko bashaka kumva, ariko NTIMWUMVE ICYO NTIVUGA. Haracyari benshi, abana benshi muri gahunda yo kurera bakeneye ingo zihoraho. Hariho ibihe rwose aho umuryango wibinyabuzima udafite umutekano cyangwa bikwiriye ko bakomeza kubana, bityo bakeneye urugo rwakira kandi rwuje urukundo.
Igitekerezo cyanjye mukubwira ibi byose nuko niba umuryango wibinyabuzima ushobora gushyigikirwa no guhabwa ibikoresho, kandi byumwihariko ufite iyo nkunga yatanzwe nuwahoze ari umubyeyi urera, umuryango ukomokamo, hamwe numwana, birashoboka cyane ko wagira icyo ugeraho mukubungabunga umuryango wumwimerere.
Noneho urashobora kwibaza uko ibi bikorwa, kandi mvugishije ukuri ntabwo nzi neza. Nkuko nabivuze… Sinigeze mbona amahirwe yo kubikora. Ariko ibi ndabizi: mu nyandiko ndimo ndasoma, kuri blog ndimo gusoma, no kuri podcast ndumva… bose bagenda bavuga kubyerekeye kubungabunga imiryango ikomokamo ndetse nuburyo ababyeyi barera bashobora kugira uruhare muri uyu mutwe; byose binyuze mu kugira no gukomeza umubano numuryango ubyara.
Niba ubonye ko ingingo yo kurera 99.9% yigihe ari uguhuza, birumvikana rero ko uruhare rwumubyeyi urera ari ugufasha kubikomeza. Intego ntabwo ari uguhuza by'agateganyo, gusa kugirango tuyisuzume kurutonde… Igamije kuba ubumwe buhoraho, niba bishoboka, kandi ababyeyi barera bashobora kugira uruhare runini muri ibyo.
Mubyukuri,
Kris