Ndashaka gufata ibyumweru bike biri imbere kugirango tuganire kubintu bimwe na bimwe byo kurera abana ushobora kuba utabizi. Uyu munsi, nzatangirana nimero ya mbere ituma abana baza kwitabwaho: kwirengagiza.
Kwirengagiza umwana bibaho mugihe ibyo bakeneye byibanze bitujujwe bihagije, kandi ibisubizo nibibi (cyangwa nibishoboka). Igishobora kuba amakuru kuri wewe nicyo kigizwe n '“ibikenewe by'ibanze;” ibi birimo ibiryo bihagije, imyambaro, uburezi, ubuvuzi, kurera, inkunga y'amarangamutima, hamwe n'inzu.
Nigute kwirengagiza bibaho? Ndashaka kuvuga, kuri benshi muri twe, uru rutonde rusa nkaho bitagomba kugorana gutanga… ariko rero nanone, benshi muritwe ntitubaho ubuzima bwumubyeyi ubyara wakuyemo abana.
Noneho, ikibazo gikurikiraho, byibuze mubitekerezo byanjye niki: niba bidasa nkibigoye gutanga ibikenewe byibanze, kwirengagiza bibaho gute? Nibyiza, mubyukuri ntabwo igisubizo cyoroshye, kuko umurongo wanyuma: kwirengagiza bibaho mugihe ababyeyi bafite umubiri, amarangamutima, cyangwa / cyangwa ubwenge ntibashobora kwita kumwana. Akenshi, ariko ntabwo buri gihe, ni ihuriro ryibintu byinshi. Rimwe na rimwe ni ukubera ko ababyeyi bafite ibiyobyabwenge bakoresha nabi cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge. Birashoboka ko umuryango utagira aho uba kubera impamvu cyangwa izindi. Birashoboka ko umubyeyi umwe cyangwa bombi barwana nuburwayi bwo mumutwe. Cyangwa, umwe cyangwa ababyeyi bombi bashobora kuba bafite imikorere mike yo kumenya no guharanira kwiyitaho, tutibagiwe no gutanga umwana wibanze.
Hariho, byanze bikunze, hanze. Kurugero, ababyeyi ntibashobora gusa kumenya ubuvuzi bwihariye umwana wabo akeneye; birashoboka ko umwana afite uburwayi ababyeyi birengagije cyangwa batabisobanukiwe neza, bityo ntibamenye ko batujuje ibyo umwana akeneye. Muri ibyo bihe, umwana ashobora gukurwa mu rugo; ariko niba umubyeyi abishoboye kandi abishaka, kandi ahabwa amahugurwa yo kwita kubuzima bwiza, umwana arashobora kongera guhura. Icyitonderwa: ubu bwoko bwo kwirengagiza ntibusanzwe.
Biragaragara ko urutonde ruri hejuru ntabwo rwuzuye, ariko byibuze nimwe kugirango utangire utekereze kumpamvu uburangare bubaho, kandi twizere ko bikuganisha kukumenya ko atari ugukosora byoroshye. Kandi kubera ko ari ahantu hanini kandi ni ibisubizo byibibazo byinshi, ntibitangaje ko kwirengagiza ari yo mpamvu ya mbere ituma umwana akurwa mu rugo.
Mubyukuri,
Kris