Niba rero umaze igihe usoma inyandiko zanjye, ushobora kuba uzi ko ndi ishuri murugo. Biragaragara, ndumva udashobora kwiga murugo murugo kurera (usibye ko bishoboka mubidasanzwe bidasanzwe), ariko ushaka kubishyira hanze cyane cyane niba ugenda ugana kurera.
Dore ibyo nshyushye kuriyi ngingo, iroroshye, ariko ntibyoroshye: tekereza aho buri mwana kugiti cye ari mumashuri, mumibereho, amarangamutima, nibindi (nyamuneka nyamuneka suzuma ibice byose… atari amasomo gusa) hanyuma ukore icyabateza imbere; Ntugafate icyemezo cyo gufunga abana bawe bose kuko bose bafite impano zitandukanye, impano, imbaraga nibikenewe.
Ndabizi ko mwese mubizi, ariko rimwe na rimwe mubyifuzo byacu byo koroshya, twibagirwa… nuko ndashaka kubishyira hanze nkibiryo byo gutekereza.
Nzi ko ibyo bidashobora kuba ibyo ushaka kumva.
Birashoboka ko binyuranye nibintu byose wigeze utekereza ko bizabaho hamwe numwana wawe.
Birashoboka ko ufite abana bibyara bahoraga biga mumashuri ya leta, ariko kwiga murugo umwana uturutse ahantu bigoye birumvikana cyane… nzi ko byugurura ubundi bwoko bwinyo. Ati: "Kuki abona kuguma murugo no gukora ishuri rye muri pajama? Kuki ntashobora kuguma mu rugo umunsi wose? ” Cyangwa, “Kuki abona izo ngendo zo mu murima aho gukora akazi?”
Cyangwa birashoboka ko ari ibinyuranye: burigihe wabaye umuryango wigisha murugo ariko umwana wawe yakiriye akeneye serivisi zirenze izo ushobora kubona binyuze mumashuri yo murugo. Ibi kandi bizana ibibazo nka "Kuki ntashobora kuguma murugo?" Birumvikana rwose.
Kandi nkuko bimeze mubice byose byuburere, urutonde rwibibazo icyemezo gishobora kuzana ntikigira iherezo. Kandi ndababwiza ukuri sinzi kukubwira ngo uyobore ibyo… usibye kwibutsa abana ko uri umubyeyi ukabona gufata ibyemezo, wongeyeho buri mwana aratandukanye kandi bose bafite ibyo bakeneye bitandukanye. Urabakunda bose ariko rimwe na rimwe ugomba kubabyeyi buri wese ukundi. . burigihe bishimishije kubabyeyi binyuze).
Niba rero ibyo bidahagije kubitekerezaho, ndaguha ibintu bikurikira kugirango nawe wongere kuri kiriya cyemezo. Burigihe burigihe bishoboka ko nubwo uba muri sisitemu yishuri ufite inkunga itangaje ya kiddo ukeneye, ishuri rya leta ntirizaba ryiza kuri we. Abantu bazakubaza kuri kiriya cyemezo, witegure rero.
Cyangwa birashoboka ko utuye ahantu hatari gahunda ikomeye yishuri kubana bafite ibibazo byinshi kandi ugomba kunganira cyane, cyangwa ugatekereza ishuri ryigenga rishobora kuba rihuye nibyifuzo byabo kuko ntakuntu washobora kwiga ishuri murugo kandi nibyo.
Izindi ngingo ugomba gusuzuma: niba umwana wawe arimo kubona serivisi nyinshi hamwe na / cyangwa nubuvuzi bubasaba kubura ishuri cyangwa gutinda cyangwa kugenda kare cyangwa gukora umunsi w’ishuri gakondo bigoye, ishuri ryo murugo rishobora kuba ibyo umwana akeneye.
Nukuri nkunda ishuri ryo murugo kandi ndumva nayoboye kubikora ariko nibyo kuko nzi ko aribyo umuhungu wanjye akeneye. Ubu, hari iminsi nibaza byimazeyo urubanza rwanjye kumashuri yo murugo? Rwose… kubera ko ihahamuka ridakunze kuguha umuburo mugihe rigiye. Ntabwo yigeze ivuga ngo: “Hey, urashobora gushaka gusubira inyuma cyangwa guhindura gahunda y'amasomo y'icyumweru kuko uri mu rugendo rutoroshye.” Irerekana gusa itamenyeshejwe kandi ikora ibyayo.
Ninde, nubwo ibyo bitoroshye, njye kubwanjye ndumva bikiri icyemezo cyiza kuri twe kuko iyo nza gukora amasaha yose kandi ihahamuka ryerekanwe akiri mwishuri (kandi byanze bikunze!), Nabona umuhamagaro wo gutora hejuru. Bikaba bivuze kuva mu kazi, kugera ku ishuri no gufasha de-escalate (niba atari asanzwe), kumujyana mu rugo, kureba ko yumva afite umutekano hanyuma akagerageza kurangiza akazi atarangije ku ishuri.
Kandi mvugishije ukuri, ibyo byamugora cyane (twese, mubyukuri) kuruta gukora ishuri murugo no guhindura ibintu nibikenewe.
Kugira ngo bisobanuke: Ntabwo ntanze iyi nama cyangwa ngo nshishikarize ibi nkikintu cyo gufatanwa uburemere. Nibintu bizakenera gutekereza cyane no kubitekerezaho, kuganira numukunzi wawe, ndetse numwana (kimwe nabandi bana murugo); ibi byaba arukuri cyane niba umwana umwe gusa azaba afite uburambe bwishuri butandukanye nabandi bana murugo.
Hejuru y'ibyo byose, tekereza ku nkunga yawe bwite; inshuti zawe n'umuryango wawe batekereza iki nuburyo bagutera inkunga icyemezo cyawe (utitaye kubyo aribyo). Niba ufite ishuri murugo, ufite inkunga nziza zaho, cyangwa byibuze uhuza kugirango ubone inkunga nziza zaho? Niba ukoresha ishuri rya leta, ni uwuhe muco kubana baturuka ahantu hakomeye (mubyukuri… ni ihahamuka ryishuri rimenyeshwa?).
Ndabizi, Ndabizi… ni byinshi mubyo niba nibibazo nibintu byo gukora ubushakashatsi, kuganira no gutekereza. Kandi birashoboka ko ntagufashije gukemura igisubizo aricyo mwana wawe, ariko nizere ko nagufashe byibuze kubaza ibibazo bishobora kukugeza kubisubizo.
Mubyukuri,
Kris