Ubu rero ndashaka gusubira inyuma kuri post yanjye yanyuma kubyerekeye bakuru bawe biga muri kaminuza… ariko ubu ndashaka kuvuga kuri ba kiddo bakuze bimuka burundu.
Biragaragara, ibi birashobora kubaho nyuma yishuri ryisumbuye, bityo ukareka kwimuka mugice cya kaminuza. Cyangwa birashobora kuba nyuma ya kaminuza. Cyangwa birashobora kuba mugihe umuvandimwe akuze gato kandi yashizweho kandi yorohewe kandi yiteguye gutangiza, kumyaka iyo ari yo yose. Ariko utitaye ku gihe ari, bizaba inzibacyuho itoroshye kuri buri wese, ariko cyane cyane abarera bato cyangwa abana barera bakibana murugo.
Ibihe turimo biratandukanye gato na benshi, nubwo nizera ko bifite aho bihuriye kuburyo bishobora kuba bifitanye isano na benshi: mukuru wacu ni tekiniki "yimuka", icyakora ibintu bye byinshi biguma murugo rwacu; yimukira mumahanga byibuze umwaka utaha kugeza kumyaka ibiri… kandi biragaragara ko adafata ibintu bye byose. Dufite amahirwe yo kubika ibintu bye byose bifite agaciro hano umwanya muto. Nibyo, twishimiye kubikora, kandi ntabwo biri munzira namba (nubwo ngomba kwemerera ko mfite gahunda nini mubyumba bye mugihe yimutse burundu!) Ariko mvugishije ukuri ndatinya ko kubona ibintu bya mukuru we bishobora kora cyane kubana bacu bato gutunganya amarangamutima ibibera, kuko bizahora byibutsa igihombo.
Noneho, ibi birashobora kumvikana nkibisazi, ariko hari ukuntu nzi kuva umuhungu wanjye w'imfura yari afite imyaka igera kuri 12 ko yakwirakwiza amababa kure. Ntabwo yagerageje gushyira urutoki mu isi nini gusa, ahubwo yarasimbutse. Byumvikane neza, ntabwo byatewe natwe, ahubwo byatewe gusa ninzererezi yahawe. Akunda gutembera, akunda kwiga kubyerekeye indi mico, kandi akunda gufasha abantu. Yimuka rero "hakurya y'icyuzi" kugirango akore mu nkambi y'impunzi. Kandi ndamwishimiye cyane, kandi nzi ko barumuna be nabo.
Kandi ndishimye nubwo turi, ngomba gusubiramo ibyo bintu byose mu nyandiko yanjye y'ubushize ku bijyanye n'amaganya umuhererezi wacu yumva hamwe no kuza kwa bakuru be… kandi ati, ntabwo ndi 100% nzi neza ko ibi bizakina na intera nigihe kinini cyane usibye murumuna we.
Kugira ngo tubyemeze neza, tumaze ibyumweru n'amezi tuvugana kubyerekeye murumuna we agenda yambuka inyanja kandi bizaba "igihe gito" mbere yuko tuzongera kumubona imbonankubone (Imana ishimwe cyane kuri FaceTime nibyo mvuze byose kubyerekeye!). Tuvugishije ukuri ntabwo tuvugana mubihe bifatika kuko tutazi neza igihe azamara… kandi nubwo umuto wacu akora neza hamwe nibitekerezo bifatika, nitumubwira ko bizaba umwaka ariko ni amezi 15, azabikora kurakara, gucika intege no kubabara (birumvikana… twese twakumva ibyo bivuze). Ariko uburakari bwe bwaba burenze hejuru… kugirango twirinde ibyo, ntituvuga gusa "itariki yo kurangiriraho" kumwanya we mumahanga. Ikigeretse kuri ibyo, muyindi mpinduka ishimishije, umuto wacu rimwe na rimwe arwana nigitekerezo cyigihe kugirango umubwire ko bizaba umwaka bishobora kuba birenze kuri we kubyumva kandi yararengerwa. (Ihahamuka no gutinda bituma ubuzima bushimisha, sibyo?)
Ariko nacitse intege kugeza aho… benshi muri mwe ntibazaba muri ubu buryo, nubwo niba mukuru wawe yimuka mu gihugu cyose, cyangwa no mu kindi gihugu, hashobora kuba umunota umwe kugeza ubwo abavandimwe bazongera kubonana . Kandi niyo uwimutse ataba kure cyane, niba bafite gahunda ihuze, birashobora kuba igihe gito mbere yuko babana, kubwibyo rero birasa. Na none, ntushobora kumenya buri gihe igihe bazongera kubonana, niba rero umuto abajije, ntushobora kubabwira.
Kandi sinzi icyo nakubwira kuri ibi byose kuko ni agace gashya kuri twe… ariko mfite ikintu cya gahunda. Mbere ya byose, tugiye gukora ibishoboka byose kugirango dukomeze guhuza byombi. Kubatangiye, tugiye gushiraho konte imeri kumuto kugirango ashobore kohereza imeri murumuna we naho ubundi; ntabwo yiteguye neza kugira terefone kugirango atazashobora kohereza ubutumwa.
Kandi byumvikane ko tuzohereza amabaruwa namakarita (kera cyane birashoboka cyane ko atazatwoherereza. Ntabwo ari ukubera ko atadukunda, ariko kubera ko bitazaba kuri radar ye gukora). Kandi ibyo nibyiza… ntabwo mubyukuri aribyo (nubwo nemera ko ikarita ikoresheje airmail byaba byiza mugihe kimwe!)… Byerekeranye numuto muto ukora umuhuza hamwe nabakuze.
Ariko tutitaye kubyo dukora, ndakeka kurwego rumwe, hazabaho guhangayika mbere, kimwe no muminsi cyangwa ibyumweru bikurikira. Ariko kandi ndizera ko bishoboka ko (soma * twizere *) gutura mubikorwa kandi ntabwo bizaba ikibazo cyane kumunsi. Kugeza igihe ntahari-mubitekerezo, vuga ikintu kuri murumuna we, cyangwa murumuna we ashaka kuri FaceTime, cyangwa ikindi kintu nkicyo.
Ibi byose nibintu bikomeye, ariko nanone birashoboka ko bizatera. Ariko na none, icyo nikintu kijyanye na trigger: ntushobora kumenya igihe umwana uva ahantu habi azahaguruka.
Nubwo nzi neza ko asanzwe atekereza kuri murumuna we, gusa bizana amarangamutima yose yihuta kumwanya wambere kandi bizana ibyo byiyumvo byo kubura no kubabara no kubabara, nibintu byambarwa mubuzima bwe kuva akiri uruhinja. Kandi rero, nka mama we, ngomba guhora nzirikana ibyo, kugirango niyo mugihe ikintu gisa nkicyaturutse mubururu, nkumujinya uturika, cyangwa guhangayika bikabije, ntabwo biva mubururu kumuhungu wacu. Kandi ntashobora kubasha (cyangwa rimwe na rimwe ndetse igice) kubishyiramo amagambo kuko nibintu byabaye nihahamuka byabereye muri utero kandi nkumwana muto. Ariko umubiri we uribuka kandi izo mbarutso, nkuko benshi muri twe babizi, zishobora gusimbuka umwanya uwariwo wose, akenshi nta nteguza.
Inyandiko imwe yinyongera: iyo umwana yimutse munzu yawe biragoye kubantu bose murugo. Kandi biragoye guhumuriza umuntu ushonga kubera umubabaro mugihe uri hagati yawe wenyine… bityo rero wihe ubuntu.
Mubyukuri,
Kris