{"id":9784,"date":"2021-10-07T15:11:21","date_gmt":"2021-10-07T15:11:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9784"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:33","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:33","slug":"kris-corner-how-does-fostering-affect-other-kids-in-the-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-how-does-fostering-affect-other-kids-in-the-home\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris' Corner \u2013 Kulea Kunaathirije Watoto Wengine Nyumbani"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ninajua hapo awali nilizungumza kuhusu athari za malezi zimekuwa nazo kwa watoto wa kibiolojia wa familia yangu\u2026na wasiwasi wote kuhusu hilo ambao sisi (na wazazi wengine wengi) tulipata kabla ya kuruka katika malezi.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Leo, ningependa kuiweka zaidi na kuzungumzia athari inayowapata watoto wengine WOTE nyumbani; hii inaweza, bila shaka, kuwa watoto wa kibaolojia, lakini pia inaweza kuwa watoto wa kuasili.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Bila kujali jinsi watoto walivyoingia nyumbani hapo awali, malezi yangekuwa na athari kwa wote. Kwa hivyo, inabidi uzingatie athari hii kwa kila mwanafamilia, na pia jinsi inavyoweza kucheza na mahitaji ya mtoto (yale ya mtoto wa kibaiolojia au aliyeasiliwa, au mtoto mwingine wa kambo), na jinsi mahitaji hayo yanavyoathiri kaya nzima.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ili kutoa mtazamo wa ziada juu ya mada hii, nilifikia akina mama wengine katika kikundi changu cha usaidizi kukusanya mawazo yao kuhusu jinsi watoto katika nyumba zao wameathiriwa kwa kuwa familia ya kambo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ni wazi kwamba watoto wako wanaweza kuathiriwa tofauti na wanawake waliotoa maarifa hapa chini\u2026na hiyo inaeleweka, kwa sababu kila mtoto ni tofauti. Lakini bila kujali uamuzi wako katika aina ya uwekaji (umri, jinsia, idadi ya watoto, mahitaji maalum, nk.), watoto wako wataathiriwa.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hivi ndivyo mama mmoja aliye na watoto wawili wa kibaolojia, watatu walioasili, na mtoto mmoja wa kulea walisema kuhusu jinsi watoto wake sasa wanavyotazama familia zao za baadaye na jinsi walivyoletwa pamoja na kuunganishwa kupitia uzoefu: \u201cSawa, nina watoto wawili. ambao hawataki kuwa na watoto wengi, ikiwa wapo, na watoto kadhaa ambao labda watakuwa na nyumba. Lakini la muhimu zaidi, nadhani watoto wote wamejifunza kufahamu alama ambazo jamii huwawekea watoto wengine, na kuteteana kwa sababu sisi ni familia, na hivyo ndivyo familia hufanya.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mama mwingine aliye na watoto wanne wa kibaolojia na mtoto mmoja wa kuasili (lakini amekuwa na zaidi ya walezi 30 kupitia mlango wake) alikiri kwa uhuru kwamba yeye na mume wake walianza kuwa familia ya kambo bila kuwajali sana watoto wao wengine. Alisema, "Kusema kweli, hatukuwahi kufikiria juu ya athari kwa watoto wetu, lakini baada ya kupata nafasi yetu ya kwanza, na tangu wakati huo, wakati mwingine ninatatizika sana ninapofikiria juu ya kile nilichowauliza watoto wangu kufanya: kushiriki. nyumba zao, wakati wao, wanasesere wao, na wazazi wao na babu na nyanya zao. Kila kitu ambacho kilikuwa chao kihalali, kimsingi.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lakini baada ya muda, aliendelea kutambua kwamba uzoefu wa kuwa familia ya kambo umeimarisha imani ya kidini ya watoto wake kwa njia ambayo hakuwahi kutarajia. "Ninazungumza na watu wengi wanaotaka kukuza, na mimi huulizwa sana juu ya athari kwa watoto wangu. Sikujua jinsi ya kujibu. Kuna nyakati malezi ya watoto yamewafanya watoto wangu kukua na kujisikia furaha, na nyakati nyingine imekuwa uharibifu kabisa, hasara na hasira\u2026lakini kwa ujumla imewakuza sana. Kwa hiyo sasa watu wanaponiuliza 'lakini vipi kuhusu watoto wako?' Ninasema imewafundisha watoto wangu zaidi kuhusu upendo wa Mungu kuliko ibada yoyote ya usiku ambayo ningeweza kuwasomea.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Si maneno tu bali vitendo\u2026vitendo huongea zaidi!\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Haya hapa ni mawazo ya mama juu ya uzoefu wa binti zake wawili, ambao wote walilelewa kwa njia ya malezi, wakati familia imeendelea kulea watoto wengine: "Katika f.<\/span>kwanza, nilikuwa na hofu ya kweli kwa mioyo yao katika mchakato huo. Ni wazi kwamba inahuzunisha sisi sote mtoto anapoondoka nyumbani kwetu. Lakini kupitia malezi, watoto wetu wanajifunza huruma kwa watoto wachanga na wazazi wao. Wanajifunza kuishi kila siku kwa sasa na kupenda maisha yao yote leo\u2026 sasa hivi\u2026 bila kuhangaika kuhusu kesho.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Na mwishowe, mama wa watoto wanne wa kibaolojia na watoto watatu wa kambo walishiriki wakati wa maisha halisi katika maisha yao ambao ulimpa amani kwamba malezi ya watoto yanawaathiri vyema watoto wake: "Katika safari ya gari kwenda nyumbani siku moja, binti yetu mdogo wa kambo. aliugua. Aina ya ugonjwa ambao hata hauitaji kuangalia nyuma ili kujua ni mbaya kwa sababu sauti pekee ilitosha kukuambia.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

"Tuliingia kwenye karakana, na wasichana wangu wote walisaidia bila kusita au hata kuulizwa. Mtu alikimbia maji ya kuoga. Mwingine alipata mtoto. Mwingine alimtoa mtoto mdogo kwenye gari na kumletea vitafunio. Na nilichukua kila kemikali ya kusafisha tuliyomiliki.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

"Katika nyakati kama hizi, kwa kawaida huwa na wasiwasi kwamba wasichana wanakosa maisha ya utotoni bila kujali au kwamba ninawauliza mengi kupita kiasi.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

"Leo nilipokuwa nikifikiria ikiwa ningeweka tu kiti cha gari, wasiwasi wangu ulirekebishwa: vipi ikiwa wasichana wangu hawakujua mahitaji ya wengine kwa furaha? Bila wakati kama huu, wangeelewa kweli kwamba hata iweje, katika familia yetu tutafanya mambo hayo yenye fujo ya maisha pamoja?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

"Tunaishi katika ulimwengu uliojaa watu ambao hawana mtu wa kufanya nao sehemu zenye fujo za maisha. Ninataka watoto wangu wajue kwamba hata watu ambao hawaonekani au hawafanyi kama unahitaji mtu, pia. Wanahitaji utunzaji, huruma na fadhili. Wana mahitaji ya kimwili na ya kihisia ambayo tunaweza kuwasaidia kutimiza. Kwa hiyo ninapotafakari mambo hayo, ninashukuru kwa masomo ambayo sote tumejifunza kupitia kuwa familia ya kambo.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Naweza kusema nini zaidi? Hawa wanawake wamesema yote kwa uzuri! Na ninatumai maneno yao ya kutia moyo yatakuchochea kuruka katika malezi\u2026hata kama una wasiwasi kidogo kuhusu jinsi inavyoweza kuwaathiri watoto wako.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kwa dhati,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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