{"id":9458,"date":"2021-07-08T20:11:57","date_gmt":"2021-07-08T20:11:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9458"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:53","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:53","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-7","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-7\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris' Corner-From the Trenches: Ninachotamani Ningejulikana sehemu ya 7"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tayari niligusia hili kidogo lakini nataka kusisitiza jambo hili: unahitaji kubadilika unapokuwa mzazi. Hii ni kweli kila wakati katika uwekaji wa kwanza, lakini hitaji hili la kubadilika <\/span>WILL, uwezekano mkubwa, itaendesha kozi nzima ya kesi. Hiyo haimaanishi kuwa ni makusudi au kwamba inafanywa kwa makusudi\u2026ni njia ambayo huduma ya watoto wa kambo mara nyingi hufanyika.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hivi ndivyo mama mmoja mlezi alisema kuhusu hilo: \u201cNilishangaa kuona jinsi mara nyingi miadi na mipango inavyobadilika. Takriban 3\/4 ya mambo tunayoratibu hubadilishwa na mtu kuchelewa, kupanga upya, n.k\u2026inahitaji kubadilika sana.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kwa hiyo, nilipojadili awali dhana ya kubadilika, ilikuwa ni kuhusiana na utendaji wa kila siku wa kaya na tabia za mtoto, kwa siku hizo chache za kwanza na wiki baada ya mtoto kuja nyumbani kwako.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Chapisho hili linahusika zaidi na ukweli kwamba wakati mwingine inaweza kuhisi kidogo kama unatembea kwenye mchanga unaohama; sio tu mwanzoni, lakini kwa njia yote. Kwa sababu kuna watu wengi wanaohusika katika kesi, migogoro ya ratiba ni ya kawaida na mara nyingi huhisi kama wazazi walezi ndio wanapaswa kubadilisha ratiba yao.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Si mara zote kesi, ni wazi; lakini huhisi hivyo nyakati fulani.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lakini nitasema hivi: mwanzoni mwa kesi, DCS na meneja wa kesi yako ya CB na wasimamizi wa ziara na mtu mwingine yeyote anayehusika anakumbana na hali kama yako\u2026kwa sababu wote wanajaribu kuunda msingi wa mtoto kutoka. songa mbele. Na kuunda msingi, lazima watambue kilichokuwa kikifanyika (au hakifanyiki) kabla ya kuondolewa.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Na wakati kila mtu katika kesi anaangalia nyuma na kuangalia mbele, wewe, kama mzazi wa kambo, uko kwenye mtaro. Ni kweli kwamba unaangalia kile kinachokuja mbeleni, lakini zaidi unaangalia kile kinachotokea sasa hivi mbele yako na kile kinachopaswa kushughulikiwa mara moja. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hiyo ina maana kuwa una miadi ya awali ya daktari (na mara nyingi itakuwa kazi yako kufuatilia daktari wa awali, ambaye labda amepewa na Medicaid); itabidi uwezekano<\/span>\u00a0meno\u00a0<\/span>miadi, na Uteuzi wa Hatua za Kwanza au miadi mingine ya matibabu. Na ni jukumu lako kupanga hizo (na ikiwezekana kuzipanga upya ikihitajika).<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Na wakati unapanga mambo hayo, inawezekana\/inawezekana kuwa ziara ya kwanza na familia ya kibaolojia pia inapangwa. Na kesi ya kwanza ya mahakama. Na kutembelewa na FCM yako. Na kutembelewa na mfanyakazi wako wa kesi ya CB. Na ziara kutoka kwa CASA. Na baada ya kusikilizwa kwa mara ya kwanza, ratiba ya kutembelea itawekwa.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hiyo si kutaja kupeleka mtoto shuleni na kumrudisha (iwe shule yake ya kawaida au uhamisho wa kwenda shule iliyo karibu nawe). Au kutafuta huduma ya watoto.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Na nina hakika sio ngumu kuona jinsi baadhi ya hizo zinaweza kuishia kuwa uhifadhi mara mbili (au mara tatu). Kwa hivyo, hoja ninayosema hapa ni kujua kwamba utahitaji kubadilika. Na ufahamu. Na ujue tu kwamba hakuna mtu anayejaribu kukufanya upange upya mambo, lakini, kwa mfano, mara nyingi ikiwa miadi ya daktari na ziara ya wazazi wa kibaolojia imepangwa kwa wakati mmoja, wewe ndiye utafanya mabadiliko. Sio kila wakati, bila shaka, lakini mara nyingi.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sasa, kama nilivyotaja hapo juu, kubadilika huku hakuhitajiki tu mwanzoni mwa kesi, lakini ikiwezekana kwa njia yote.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ingawa kuna mifano mingi ya jinsi kunyumbulika kwako kunaweza kutekelezwa, hii hunijia akilini kwa sababu ndivyo ilivyokuwa kwetu. Kwa sababu mwana wetu alikuwa na matibabu ya hali ya juu sana, wazazi wake wa kumzaa waliamriwa na hakimu kuhudhuria miadi yake yote ya daktari. Na baada ya miadi hiyo, wangechukua sehemu iliyobaki ya ziara yao.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hili mwanzoni lilinikasirisha lakini mwishowe nilielewa hoja ya hakimu. Ikiwa angeunganishwa tena na wazazi wake, wanapaswa kusikia kila kitu kutoka kwa daktari kuhusu utunzaji wake. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lakini ikiwa mimi ni mwaminifu kabisa, hili ndilo lililonikasirisha sana: agizo hili lilihitaji mabadiliko mengi kwa upande wangu, kwa sababu mtoto huyu alikuwa na miadi mingi ya daktari. Sikuweza tena kupanga miadi kulingana na mahitaji yangu, lakini badala yake ilinibidi kuifanya wakati wazazi wanapatikana. Kwa kueleweka, nilikuwa bado sijaelewa ukweli kwamba sehemu ya jukumu langu kama mzazi walezi lilikuwa rahisi kubadilika\u2026na ilikuwa ni unyumbufu kwa upande wangu ambao ulikuwa unawasaidia wazazi kufanya mpango wao kadri walivyoweza.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Hoja kuwa\u2026hata kama hutaki kubadilika kila wakati na wakati mwingine huwezi kuelewa sababu ya mabadiliko au kwa nini unapaswa kuinama\u2026ningekuhimiza kushikilia hapo na kufanya uwezavyo ili kufanya hali iweze kufanikiwa kwa kila mtu. husika. Kamwe si jambo la kibinafsi dhidi yako, hata kama unahisi kama unafanya "kubadilika" sana na hatimaye ndiye anayepaswa kubadilisha mipango.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Na ingawa haifanyi hitaji la kunyumbulika kuwa la kufurahisha zaidi, tunatumahi kuwa hii hukusaidia kuona hitaji lake na kwamba, angalau wakati fulani, inaweza kuwa jukumu lisiloandikwa la kuwa mzazi wa kambo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kwa dhati,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kris\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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