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Kwa hakika haitashangaza kwamba unapokuwa mzazi mlezi, wakati wako unaishia kugawanyika zaidi kuliko hapo awali. Na kwa hivyo, unapaswa kuwa mwangalifu katika kulinda wakati wako mwenyewe na wakati wa familia yako; ili kusaidia kwa hilo, utahitaji kuweka (au kujifunza kuweka) mipaka yenye afya na ya kweli.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Wazazi walezi niliozungumza nao walikuwa na mambo machache ya kusema kuhusu mada hii. Watatu kati yao walifanya, kwa kweli. Kwa hivyo ingawa mara nyingi mimi hunukuu mzazi mmoja tu kwa kila mada, wakati huu nimenukuu tatu, kwani hoja zao ni halali na zinazungumza kutoka kwa nafasi za uzoefu:<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cHakikisha kwamba \u2018Hapana\u2019 yako inamaanisha hapana inapokuja kwa ratiba yako na nyakati za kutembelea. Tetea wakati wa familia yako na uilinde! Hakuna mtu katika 'mfumo' atakayekuja kuweka familia yako pamoja kwa hivyo lazima uiweke familia yako kipaumbele."<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>"Ni sawa kutetea ratiba na mahitaji ya familia yako mwenyewe\u2026. ni sawa kusema kwamba kitu hakitafanya kazi au unahitaji wakati tofauti."<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>"Laiti ningejua kuhusu kubadilika kwako unayohitaji na ratiba yako ... sikuwa tayari kuwa na watu wengi ndani na nje ya nyumba yangu ... na wengi wao (hasa katika kesi zetu za kwanza) hawakuonekana. kuheshimu sana wakati au ratiba yetu.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Yote yaliyosemwa, hoja ya nukuu hizi ni hii: Hakikisha unaipa familia yako kipaumbele unapoweza. Na sisi sote tutakubali kwa uhuru: Ni vigumu sana kupata usawa huo, hasa mwanzoni mwa uwekaji; lakini lazima ujitetee kwa kiwango fulani.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Sasa unaweza kujiuliza: kwa nini familia hizi zinafanya jambo kubwa kuhusu vipaumbele? Je, si tunajaribu tu kuwasaidia watoto? Kwa nini ni lazima tuweke familia yetu kipaumbele?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Naam, kwa bahati mbaya, inaonekana mara nyingi hakuna kipaumbele cha familia yako, kwa upande wa DCS, wasimamizi wa kutembelea, wasafirishaji au mtu mwingine yeyote. Inaeleweka, kipaumbele kinapewa wazazi wa kibaolojia, na watoto na huduma yao, ambayo ina maana. Wao ni wajibu wa DCS (na hatimaye kuwa wa wakandarasi: wasimamizi wa kutembelea, wataalamu wa matibabu, wasafirishaji, nk).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Na, bila shaka, watoto wa kambo ni wajibu wako (kama wazazi walezi) pia\u2026lakini pia familia yako mwenyewe na hiyo ni sawa. Sijui hasa kwa nini hii ni, lakini wakati mwingine wafanyakazi wa kijamii wanaohusika katika kesi watakufanya uhisi kama si sawa kuipa familia yako kipaumbele, lakini ni sawa.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ninakupa ruhusa ya kuipa familia yako kipaumbele, ikiwa tu ulihitaji mtu wa kusema hivyo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Sasa\u2026sio kila wakati kipaumbele cha JUU\u2026lakini angalau ruhusu familia yako mwenyewe kutengeneza ORODHA ya vipaumbele. Hiyo haimaanishi kuwa unapaswa kuwa mgumu au mwenye hasira kali wakati msimamizi wa ziara anapojaribu kufanya mabadiliko kwenye ratiba, au ikiwa DCS inataka kuongeza matembezi au kitu kingine. Ikiwa unaweza kurudi nyuma na kutathmini kiakili ikiwa wanachouliza ni jambo kubwa au la, unaweza kugundua kuwa sio shida kukidhi. Na kila baada ya muda fulani, mabadiliko hayo huboresha ratiba ya nyumba ya kulea pia.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Baada ya muda na kwa uzoefu, utajifunza kuchagua vita vyako na kujua wakati wa kusema hapana, wakati wa kusonga mbele na wakati wa kutoa neema. Wakati mwingine si rahisi kuwa na ziara ya ziada iliyoratibiwa, au wakati wa kutembelea kubadilishwa\u2026lakini ikiwa ni kitu kama Siku ya Akina Mama, au Krismasi, ninakuhimiza ujaribu kukumbuka haikuhusu wewe tu. Na ikiwezekana, bend.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Unapoingia katika malezi, lazima uelewe kwamba kila mtu anayehusika (wewe, mtoto, wazazi wa kibaolojia, DCS, na kila mtu mwingine) labda atalazimika\u00a0<\/span>"<\/span>pinda<\/span>\u201d; mara chache mtu yeyote atapata vitu vile vile angependa. Na ni kweli kwamba wazazi walezi mara nyingi watalazimika kujipinda zaidi. Lakini hiyo haimaanishi kuwa huwezi kujitetea. Huenda usipate (labda hautapata) yote unayouliza, lakini haupaswi kujiruhusu kuwa mlinda mlango wa aina. Unaweza kushikilia msimamo wako juu ya mambo fulani, haswa linapokuja suala la kudumisha familia yenye afya.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kwa dhati,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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