{"id":8979,"date":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","date_gmt":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=8979"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:21","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:21","slug":"kris-corner-when-to-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-when-to-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner - Wakati wa kusema hapana"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hili ndilo jambo...jibu hili litakuwa jibu tofauti kwa kila mtu, lakini ni wakati gani unapaswa kusema &quot;hapana&quot; kwa nafasi inayowezekana? Kuna sababu nyingi, nyingi, nyingi za kusema ndiyo\u2026na kwa baadhi yenu, \u201cndiyo\u201d itakuwa jibu daima, kwa sababu mna uwezo (kihisia na kimwili) wa kufanya hivyo.<\/p>\n<p>Lakini wakati mwingine unapaswa kusema &quot;hapana&quot;. Ili kufanya uamuzi wa busara, na haswa ikiwa una aina ya utu kama mimi, lazima uwe na mipaka wazi kuhusu aina ya uwekaji ambao uko tayari na unaweza kukubali.<\/p>\n<p>Kama nilivyodokeza hapo juu, baadhi ya watu wako wazi na wako tayari na wanaweza kuchukua karibu aina yoyote ya uwekaji\u2026na ninasema, \u201cMungu awabariki! Hiyo ni ajabu tu!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Lakini ninaamini kwamba wengi wetu tuna kina kwa uwezo wetu na inabidi kuweka mipaka mahali\u2026kwa ajili yetu na shirika.<\/p>\n<p>Kwa mfano, ikiwa umeweka vigezo vinavyosema:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>2 watoto upeo<\/li>\n<li>Wavulana pekee<\/li>\n<li>Miaka 5-12 pekee<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Lakini utapigiwa simu na dharura ya mvulana na wasichana 2, wote chini ya miaka 4\u2026USICHUKUE KUWEKA! (Huu ni uzoefu wangu unaokuja hapa\u2026Najua kuhusu kile ninachozungumza!)<\/p>\n<p>Sasa, Ofisi ya Watoto huenda isingekupigia simu na ombi kama hilo, lakini wakala mwingine anaweza kukuuliza ufikirie kuchukua nafasi nje ya maelezo yako.<\/p>\n<p>Ni sawa kabisa kwako kusema, &quot;hapana&quot;, kwa sababu unajua unachoweza kushughulikia, unajua umeundwa kushughulikia, na jambo la mwisho ambalo wewe, wakala wako, NA watoto wenyewe wanataka ni kwa usumbufu. (tazama <u>chapisho langu<\/u> juu ya mada hiyo hiyo). Ikiwa utachukua nafasi zaidi ya kile unachoweza kustahimili, karibu hakika itaishia katika usumbufu.<\/p>\n<p>Sasa, kuna uwezekano kwamba simu &quot;kamili&quot; ya uwekaji inapokelewa lakini muda sio sawa. Labda unajitayarisha kwenda likizo; kwa wazi, huo sio wakati mzuri wa kuchukua nafasi. Mtoto atahitaji muda wa kutulia na kuwaweka katika huduma ya kupumzika wakati wa likizo yako haitasaidia kusuluhisha mchakato. Pia sio sawa kabisa, au bora.<\/p>\n<p>Labda mwanafamilia ni mgonjwa, mtu wa karibu ameaga dunia, au maisha ni ya kichaa ukiwa na watoto ambao tayari wako nyumbani. Au labda ulikuwa na nafasi iliyounganishwa tena na unahitaji kupiga hatua nyuma kwa dakika moja ili kupata pumzi yako. Kwa sababu hizo zote, na zaidi, ni sawa kusema &quot;hapana&quot;.<\/p>\n<p>Hii haimaanishi kwamba wakala wako hatakupigia simu tena. Ninakuhakikishia, watafanya. Hii haimaanishi kwamba wanafikiri wewe ni mgumu au kichaa au kupoteza wakati wa kila mtu (Ninasema mambo haya yote, kwa sababu niliogopa kwa muda mrefu kwamba tulichukuliwa hivi ... ambayo, kama inavyotokea ... kweli). Wanakuthamini wewe na nafasi yako katika ulimwengu huu wa malezi. Wanathamini mipaka yako (hata kama wanataka ingekuwa kubwa zaidi), kwa sababu inawasaidia kukujua na kwamba unaepuka usumbufu.<\/p>\n<p>Ni sawa kusema &quot;hapana&quot;.<\/p>\n<p>Kwa dhati,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here\u2019s the thing\u2026this answer is going to be a different answer for everyone, but when should you say \u201cno\u201d to a possible placement? There are many, many, many reasons to say yes\u2026and for some of you, \u201cyes\u201d will always be the answer, because you have the capacity (emotionally and physically) to do so. 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